maclatunji: OP, you can do a lot to help curb incest in the society. My advice to you as a victim that wants to help others is to kindly highlight the factors you feel allowed this terrible thing to happen to you and how you think they can be reduced or eliminated.

I salute your courage and I believe this is part of your healing process.

Chillisauce: If you decide to have kids, pls be there for them.
After having like 8 kids, how can you look after 8 kids by yourself.

Pls, at most 3, so you give them the time and also protect them from insane animals .

It's your duty as a parent to take care of any child you bring to this world.
If not, better not have them.

pragmatist_m: I salute your ciurage to open up here. The best way is to study word of God, the Bible. I want to honestly tell you the problrm will be eliminated if you apply Bible principles. many have been helped. But this help is not got ftom churches. The people that can help you are Jehovah' Witnesses. They will be happy to use the Bible to help you out. Please call on them the next time you see them preaching and ask for help. Im waiting for your reports.

mrsincredible: u don't need to advertise ur church the one I attend is ok for me changing churches isn't a problem.

Chillisauce: For the girls, make sure you bathe them yourself, after three yrs, teach her to wash her private part herself. NO ONE should touch her or wash her there, even you!
Do same for the boys. As from three yrs they should be in charge of their organs.

Report to you any abuse. Bonding with your kids matter a lot

This is very true.


Also a close mother-daughter relationship reduces the risk of early molestation. Make your baby girl your best friend, she'll hardly keep such stuff from you.


But seriously Op, your brother......he's weird and just plain gross. Are you his only sister?

Nomski0:

This is very true.


Also a close mother-daughter relationship reduces the risk of early molestation. Make your baby girl your best friend, she'll hardly keep such stuff from you.


But seriously Op, your brother......he's weird and just plain gross. Are you his only sister?

pragmatist_m:
Sorry if you are offended. But you, your parents and your relatives that did that to you have been attending churches but that still happened. You see, you need accurate knowledge of God frim the Bible. Even your children. Jehovah' witnesses study with even children materials based on the Bible that teach children to avoid pedophiles or child molesters. So when I posted my above post, I wasn't exergerating on what u stand to gain.

prettymaxy: Op God bless u 4 being sincere.
Dis is a v. Serious issue in d jsociet
It also happend to sum1 I knw, d parents didn't knw until d brother got his younger sis preggy

mrsincredible: I blame myself cos I introduced him to such if not he won't say such to me

things happen to pple church doesn't matter in jehovah witness experience such

if I dint find God I would have bin pregnant too cos I ended it b4 he reached his puberty age. Some just get stuck into it and don't care. A family frnd of mine just gave birth and d father is her cousin. Sum kids end up falling in love me I just saw it as bin nasty

theLORDreigns: I am so shocked.

@OP, please ensure that you stand firm in your belief in CHRIST. Look not to the left nor to the right. HE is the ONLY one that can save you & your family. Do not cast away your confidence, HE is able to do exceeding & abundantly above all that you ask of HIM.

I agree with what Byvan & Chillisauce stated earlier.

I'm so sorry that you went through all this.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I have learned from it.

dinachi: The uncle that slept with her could have been molested too! It is a vicious cycle.

dinachi: The uncle that slept with her was also a kid ! read the post again. He stopped when he left for Secondary school. Are Jss1 students considered as adults?

dinachi: The uncle that slept with her was also a kid ! read the post again. He stopped when he left for Secondary school. Are Jss1 students considered as adults?

veave: @ least u were anle to stop. Some wwrent that lucky..
I always tell anyone who cares to listen... no relation will be allowed to stay overnight in my house. Be it mine or his....

mrsincredible: u knw village pple don't go to schl early. he was 17yrs nd knew wat he was doing is wrong. I was 13yrs old in sss1 nd I knw wat I was doing is wrong nd I stopped.

dinachi:

At the beginning or when he left?

My dear please note that I totally and completely condemn and abhor what he did. I am only just saying that he too may have been molested at the village also. The whole thing can be a vicious cycle.

Chillisauce: For the girls, make sure you bathe them yourself, after three yrs, teach her to wash her private part herself. NO ONE should touch her or wash her there, even you!
Do same for the boys. As from three yrs they should be in charge of their organs.

Report to you any abuse. Bonding with your kids matter a lot

mrsincredible: he grew up in the village so dey don't have house help. He had elder sisters. He was around 16/17 when my father brought him home so there is no excuse for wat he did cos at the age he is old enuff to know wat he is doing is wrong. I know and feel I was molested b4 the age of 5 only that at the age of 5 u can remember and know wat happens around u. I was just a child then. Cos he has reached puberty I can remember him having sex with me nd releasing me cos he always says he is urinating inside me and I can urinate inside him too if I want. Looking back I feel so cheap this has started affecting me emotions and psychological life cos I nevr enjoy sex and I always feel all wat men want is sex nd growing up I always have the habit of looking at men at their privates. I really feel disgusted about myself just imagine me counting my brother and uncle among d number of guys I have slept with