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Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by iukpe: 8:11am On Sep 30, 2008 |
I am wondering in this age of mobile phones how many parents take their time to ensure that their teenage or even younger children do not keep undesireable media in their mobile phones, like pictures, music or videos. Today we have all kinds of material circulating the mobile phone world and can be transferred easily without physical connection of persons or devices. What exactly should be the responsibility of parents and the extent of commitment to this kind of check if actually it is proper. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by whiteroses(f): 1:39pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
you are right o,one sunday sunday, i saw about five girls in one corner giggling so i went to them and collected the phone to see what was so funny, i even thought it was maybe funny or gossip text message, but when i saw it, it was a short clips of skeletons doing each other, the skeleton had real boobs and the man skeleton had live pennis too lol and it was supposed to be funny, i was gutted, they were about 9 and 10 years old, i asked them where they got it from, she said people were sending it in school, i think all parent should be aware of that, when you see children with phones, its for security/entertainemnt only, no one thinks out of the box |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Fhemmmy: 2:19pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
This is surely an eye opener oh. But the parents gotta be careful too, cos they dont wanna drive the kids away too, i think the secret is to be the best of the kid and share minds and thoghts and they will be close enuf to you to share all things together. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by tpia: 3:39pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
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Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by sistawoman: 6:15pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
i go thru my sons phone all the time to review what he has on there. But i also have a GPS locator on his phone and can locate him anywhere. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by bawomolo(m): 6:28pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
well u have a right to go through the phones especially if you are paying the cell phone bill |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by ifyalways(f): 9:00pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
Very tricky one ! Fhemmmy:i agree with ya . |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by H2O2: 9:05pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
I would hate to betray my child's trust. But I guess it's a "Child, before I get you this phone, I want you to know that I will go through it periodically." kind of thing. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
@ topic Why buy the phone in the first place? |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by coolier(f): 9:50pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
Yes. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by iukpe: 8:11am On Oct 01, 2008 |
michelin89, I think there are a lot of important reasons to have your child carry a mobile phone. I know some children have mobile phones in the boarding house. Lots of parents give these phoes to keep track of their children for security reasons. Some parents get their children simple phones, like VISAPHONE type, no fancy, no memory cards or bluetooth connectivity, some parents get their children a bit advanced phones with all the good features. When I was a teenager there were no mobile phones but I was very mature at heart. Today there is a lot of exposure to rotten material, via music used as ring tones, voice recordings, voice calls however cannot be avoided. Videos and internet. Parents may not necessarily pay the all bills, people can send recharge numbers to anyone so it may not be a benchmark for checking the phones. I know some teenagers receive "Good" mobile phones as gifts from relatives or friends even if their parents did not desire to buy them such phones. I know of a case with some issues in a home over a mobile phone gift to a teenage girl, which was more serious than her elder brother's phone. It wasn't a pleasant experience for her either when their father decided to seize the phone to avoid all the controversy in the house. However I think children's mobile phones should be checked by parents from time to time perhaps until they are above 15 yrs. Also it might be a good thing to restrict phone types to call and sms feature phones only. Visaphone and starcomms maybe. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Outstrip(f): 3:31pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
I still do not understand why children need cellphones |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 5:37pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
iukpe: That's not reason enough. You can't buy a gift for someone and yet keep on nagging him on how they are supposed to use it. Before you bought it you should have made sure they were fully capable of handling it. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by sistawoman: 6:13pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
michelin89: so because i buy my child a TV i should not monitor what they watch on that TV. Sweetie that is called PARENTING!!!! Everything my child has actually belongs to ME. It is on loan to them. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 6:16pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
sistawoman: As I said, you had better not buy it at all. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 8:21pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
Depends on the age |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by sistawoman: 8:25pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
michelin89: No wonder you are a child. Respect your elders young lady. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
I think that's what my mom was doing whenever she asked me to use my phone when hers was "dead". Mother mother! |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by davidylan4(m): 9:13pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: Is that why she's now siezed it? |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 9:17pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
davidylan*:Lmao! She dares not! If she seized it na b/c of. . . . . |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by sistawoman: 9:45pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: that is exactly what she was doing. I do it to my son all the time. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by geebeeohh(m): 9:53pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
to be on the safe side, tis better if the kid doesn't have a cell,but if it is necessary that he or she should have one, then a classic phone would be okay not the supercomputers people carry around in their pockets.a fairly simple phone for SMS and calls only.chikena |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 1:33pm On Oct 02, 2008 |
sistawoman: Ahahhahahahahaha! So typical of the so called adults. When you can't answer you play the immaturity card. So just because i don't agree with you I am disrespecting you? Sorry but these tricks don't work with me. As a child I find it very upsetting having my parents controlling my phone or my computer just because they bought it for me. If you can't let me use it the way I want then don't buy it and tell me it's mine. Rather tell me it's yours and I can use it from time to time. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by bigfather(m): 1:51pm On Oct 02, 2008 |
michelin89: That is the more reason why you need a classic type of phone. Your parents have the full right to control your activities until you are of age. Even at that there might still be some checks on you,so that you do not go astray ! You don't expect a minor to watch porn on his/her phone and you want me to fold my arms or rather clap for the child? |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by JustGood(m): 2:00pm On Oct 02, 2008 |
My children have cell phones which I used to check ocassionally without letting them know. I dont have any reason to check the phones again because I have come to truct them and I know how serious they are with their christian lives. I'm actually thinking I'll try and check the phones again sometime soon |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by sistawoman: 2:56pm On Oct 02, 2008 |
michelin89: Sweetie, Did you not read where i said that before? sistawoman: If i brought it and paid for it, by law it belongs to me. when you have children of your own you will understand until such time you are still a child and you think and reason with a childs mind. I am not mad at you for the way you think but i know that you will look back on this conversation and say, "wow sistawoman was right, now let me check Peter's phone before i got to bed". LOL Smiles my baby, all of us felt the same way at your age. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Oct 02, 2008 |
@ parents No wonder you grow grey hair before time. You stress yourself over issues that can't be solved. This might hurt but there is no amount of control that'll stop your child from seeing what s/he wants to see. You were children yourselves so you know what I am talking about. What is unknown to us always appears to be the most fascinating thing ever. So the more you try to keep them away from them, the more they'll like to see and THEY WILL SEE IT ONE DAY WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT. Educating them is the best thing. When I was a child my granny didn't have to follow me around when I played in the neighbourhood. From what she told me I always refused food from strangers and that's because she brought me up to act that way. Enlighten your kid on the risks (without inventing ridiculous stories) of using phones, ipods and computers. It's for sure that they'll see the forbidden but they'll always have your lessons in mind and regulate their behaviour according to them. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by iukpe: 1:27am On Oct 03, 2008 |
michelin89 Are you saying mobile phones used by children shouldn't be checked at all? From what age do you think this should apply? I agree they will see the unknown / fascinating things someday whether parents like it or not. When children start saving these materials in their phones, I think that calls for concern. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by bawomolo(m): 6:24pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
sistawoman: actually it belongs to them, since it was given as a gift. sistawoman: that's actually sneaky, just be open with your children rather than playing tricks on them. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by Nobody: 6:36pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
bawomolo: Tell them ooo! |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by abujabooks(f): 12:32am On Nov 05, 2008 |
Yes! I ask 4 it & check it. I have my daughter's password for her email. I check it regularly cuz she is in secondary school. I know what teenage boys r like. |
Re: Should Parents Go Through Contents Of Their Children's Mobile Phones? by MrCrackles(m): 12:34am On Nov 05, 2008 |
the kain thing wey mobile phone go do for this world, na only God know! |
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