Getting through to a partner who doesn't listen is frustrating, difficult, and likely to seem like an exercise in futility once you get exasperated enough. It's not necessarily that your partner doesn't want to listen to you; he or she may simply lack active listening skills. Sometimes, of course, there are deeper issues at fault. Every relationship is different, so you'll have to consider why your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend isn't listening to you. Whatever the case, getting through to a partner who doesn't listen isn't impossible – it just requires some dedication and patience.

CONSIDER YOUR DELIVERY

How do you talk to your partner? Do you stage a frustrated ambush at the end of the day? Start complaining about something days after it happened, after it's had time to build up and blow up? If you want to start getting through to a partner who doesn't listen, you have to think about the way you approach the situation. Every person is different, and your partner may do better with a different delivery method. Think, too, about how you like to be spoken to, and try to approach your partner the same way.

TALK, DON'T LECTURE

Similarly, you need to watch the way you talk. Think about it: when someone is talking at you instead of with you or to you, how do you react? You can't talk at your partner and expect him or her to actively listen. That's insulting and condescending. This is your partner, not your child. Try not to lecture. This is about communication, it's not about being right or wrong.

LISTEN

If you want someone to listen to you, then you have to listen as well. I know that when I'm feeling like the Better Half isn't listening to me, I sometimes get all smug and self-righteous about my own listening skills. You can't get on that train, because it won't take you anywhere you really want to go. You need to listen to the things your partner says and the things your partner does not say – sometimes you can learn a lot in those silences.

DON'T BEAT A DEAD HORSE

Do you always try to discuss the same things? If your partner has a bad habit – never listening, being selfish, not doing the dishes, never putting down the toilet seat – and you're not seeing improvement, it's tempting to just keep coming back to that subject. However, then you get back into lecture territory and it's likely that your partner will shut down. You definitely need to discuss ongoing issues, but don't make it a constant topic of conversation. Even if you have to write a letter to get your feelings out, just avoid the temptation to lecture.

THINK ABOUT YOUR TIMING

When you talk is just as important as how you talk. As I briefly mentioned, starting in on something after you've both had long days just won't work. You shouldn't do it when your partner's in the middle of something he or she enjoys, in a public place, or around friends or family members either. As with any other meeting, read your audience first.

STICK TO ONE SUBJECT

Don't kitchen sink your relationship, ever. That's not good for anyone. When you need to talk about a certain issue, stick to that issue. Don't let a discussion about dividing the chores spiral into accusations about emotional unavailability, in-laws, or that time your partner forgot to pick you up from the office. Then you're just letting resentments fly free, and you'll both end up shutting down and getting angry.

MAKE TIME FOR DIALOGUE

Back to timing and knowing when to speak, you might have to schedule some time for a discussion. That's fine – great, really. You aren't dropping a huge, unexpected bombshell, and you'll have time to put your thoughts together first.

I know it's hard when you don't feel like you're not being heard. If it's a chronic problem, you may have to decide if you really want to pursue your relationship. If you know that you and your partner work, however, then it's more than worth the effort – and with these methods, I promise you'll see improvement. How do you and your partner communicate? Do you listen to and really hear each other?

Source: Allwomenstalk.com

person wey want listen to you..go listen to you.
you can't expect me to pay Heed to you...when you always abuse,Nag,and Disrespect me.it's a No-No for me.You Earn Respect...you don't command respect.

the key to your points are.....good communication ...understanding....mutual respect and good character.

It only takes the grace of God....Such character can be annoying and frustrating. That's the major reason why people beat their partners, especially d male ones.

My ex had same character...

leave

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I think, the best thing is to avoid interrupting your partner during a convo. That would greatly develop the communication bridge.

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Communication is the heart of every successful relationship...and by communication, I mean talk less and listen more to your partner.

story. jst leave der sorry a$$

ahnie: person wey want listen to you..go listen to you.


the key to your points are.....good communication ...understanding....mutual respect and good character.

some people are very stubborn,they wont just listen.you are right sha,Good communication!

Dont give him punanni for a week and see if he aint gonna listen

SLAP THE NIGGA FOR HEAD when ever him they prove James Bond...advice to guys Only. If you go slap your fÊllow woman, you Àre O.Y.O WomÀn

it looks like u got some potentials to be a nagger. your partner/bf/gf is not your child.. think about it for a second, they ve been used to their ways for 20-40 yrs and all of a sudden u want them to change to ur ways in months? we need to have realistic expectations

You don't need to try too hard to impress people. Not even your hubby. Trust me.

OK another tips, today is a day for tips... and now am feeling tipsy..

^^^Lolz ^^^We all gonna get tipsy after reading all the tips on NL!



@Topic,Sometimes Communication goes a long way to make things right. U just need to communicate with ur partner. Don't ORDER ur partner. Marriage/Relationship is not a Military Arena!

Op 4qot to add:

BITE HIS OR HER EAR..

S/he 4eva listen..

#ThankMeLater

Mine listens to no one. Know it all and never apologises but want to apologise for little things like when u don't smile at jokes.


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A slap works faster :-/

Iamoilprince: It only takes the grace of God....Such character can be annoying and frustrating. That's the major reason why people beat their partners, especially d male ones.

My ex had same character...

There's no excuse for beating your partner. If you're fed up just quit already. Don't let out your frustrations on another human!

Just stop discussing with he/her.

thank jah ah av a partner who listens!

If I hear

Don't underestimate the power of sex. Give him a good hot sex, then serve him his favorite meal. After this, seat him down and bare your mind. This is the best way to make him listen to you. you get to talk and `untalk' without having to suffer the consequences. it works like maggic

booked.

Janiobi: SLAP THE NIGGA FOR HEAD when ever him they prove James Bond...advice to guys Only. If you go slap your fÊllow woman, you Àre O.Y.O WomÀn

fellow woman??advice to guys u said!!u go soon turn to patient jonathan....my fellow widows...windows....windo8...lmao