eleojo23: I must first of all congratulate you for finding a wife. How did you pull that off since you're not good at keeping friends? Ok that said, well, you're an introvert from all indications. (pls hold on a while I'll be back to give you some suggestions)

oladipoolaitan: thanks, am an extrovert i only talk when its necessary , am just a conceptualized being that some how rigid in his ideology,meeting my wife to be, is just a God intervention, yet to uncover the misery behind it.

eleojo23: An extrovert? Let's go over some of what you wrote up there. You said 'I love privacy a lot, I read
books listen to news with my leisure time. So hardly go out
some times, even my neighbor
don't even know my name' This sounds more like what an introvert will do. I mean, there is no real extrovert who loves privacy A LOT. Unless you're a mixture of both but your description above tilts more to the introvert side. The reason why you don't have friends is because you can very much stay on your own without getting bored. Your mind can keep you busy with your vivid thoughts such that you're very much occupied even when alone. This inference is based on my assumption that you're mostly an introvert. I hope I've not written out of point? (I need feedback before I can continue)

oladipoolaitan: Keeping friends has been a difficult tasks for me, even if I tried to , some thing will just hold me back, through out my degree and master degree program I didn't have a friend, when I meet some one I share thing in common with....and we exchange numbers even he calls ,before a few days, m tired of him. I love privacy a lot, I read books listen to news with my leisure time. So hardly go out some times, even my neighbor don't even know my name , when m going to work ,I greet every one and when m back from work I greet them that's all. To extent that some people mistake my lifestyle for a pride, what really prompt me to seek for advise is to ask if it's a good life style? If not, I will I adopt the principle of been friendly. Know my weeding is around the corner, I don't even know , whom to choose as my best man. My major reason of been alone is just that I don't like an artificial parasite and to avoid some troubles. Pls, any good suggestion will be appreciated [color=#000099][/color]

oladipoolaitan: thanks, am an extrovert i only talk when its necessary , am just a conceptualized being that some how rigid in his ideology,meeting my wife to be, is just a God intervention, yet to uncover the misery behind it.

shizzle11:
you mean you have a fiancee? interesting....lol

shizzle11:
i'm sorry but you are contradicting yourself here, how can someone who doesnt have t'he principle of being friendly' be an extrovert?

Omojuwagem: You can mail me and i will give you a material on how to make friends and keep them. Omojuwagem@gmail.com

donroxy: Op, tis not about you being introvert and/or extrovert because you can alternate @ will so your chance with your wife shouldn't be questioned !!


you are just a man with diverse priorities and preferences thus whomsoever that can not catch up with you get dumbed by you, also, it is no doubt that some people operate optimally doing things alone and maybe you are of the Opinion that when you allowed people into your life too close, they will slow you down and never allow you to operate @ your full potentials !!!


Personally, I like chasing people who possess superb prowess than I do but when you catch up with them , you will discover that they are only best @ that one quality ( when you review, you will discover you are better) the other parts of their life is a mess !! nice one bro, what a nice point from you. thanks


Then, you acquire the quality you need from them, review it to your own taste and recoil back to your harem cuz you don't wanna be part of other issues in their life !!



Conclusion :
If you are like this , this is who you will always be otherwise , you may lose some precious values, miss critical points when you are reviewing your LIFE @ old age !!!


I will only advice that you should be diplomatic , you can still keep people @ bay without them knowing it to avoid being tagged a snub cuz they are gonna treat your f:uc:kUp when you need their help and U will wonder what your offence is !!

pinkishgal: Same as OP, don't know how to keep friends as well..I dislike fake people.

ernie4life: keeping friends is simple to those who understand it. 
Rule 1- we are all human so we have our own flaws. Every human on earth has a flaw being someone's friend means knowing the flaw and still accommodating the person. You can't have a friend and belive the person won't upset you or disappoint you at some time, that unrealistic. But with understanding you both will always settle your differences. 
Rule 2 - learn to see people the way the are not the way you WANT them to be. Accommodating is the next word, nobody is perfect, when you see your friend doing somethings you never expected, the right to do is not end or work away from the person instead talk to the person in a calm and friendly manner don't criticizse the person instead correct in a friendly way and give the person time to change if possible give the person a reason to change.
Rule 3 - learn to share. Share anything sharable( not ur hubby oh) share ideas, if the person is not in same social status with you help the person upgrade, build the person to your own level of understanding, encourage the person to achieve his or her dreams even though the may not be the same with yours so long as the dreams positive.
Rule 3 - learn to forgive. If you are the type that will harbour what happened years ago in your heart then you are not fit for the status of " a friend " when you have misunderstanding let the person know your point find a way to resolve issues fast even if it means you saying sorry, if you are hurt let the person know and once he or she says sorry don't just forgive but also forget that instantly. 
Rule 4 : keep the communication lines open. Make out time to visit friends, spend time with them, call them even if it is to say how u dey? It matters a lot, it shows u still have the person at heart. Don't be selfish and say I am always calling without asking, " what could be the reason why I haven't heard from my dear friend?"
Rule 4 - make friends with people that you have things in common. When you make friends with people that you lots in common it gives you a large variety of things to gist, assuming you love football and make friends with someone who share the same passion you both could always hang out to watch your favourite clubs play or gist about latest transfers. It even gives you the opportunity to learn from each other. 
Am a mixture of introvert and extrovert but still I can't stay without my friends, the give me courage in trying times and inspire me to do things I never believed I could do. IF YOU HAVE CRAZY FRIENDS YOU HAVE EVERYTHING.