I have noticed that most Nigerians seem to thrive on comparism. We feel happy when we do something that our friends or relative have not achieved. I understand that achieving something or being successful is a thing of joy. But, when we keep mentioning what you have done and your friends/relatives has not done that, is that good for any relationship? Example, I have a nieghbor when started living in our building since Jan this year, within 2months, I can say he thrives on comparison. A colleague of his got promoted at work, he left work b4 end of business. I could tell he was upset. But, when he bought bought a land in his village, I new all his friends who have worked for yrs without buying a land. I am gradually withdrawing from him.
But this guy is not alone. I have had many people who seems to take pleasure in comparing themselves to others, especially those below them. Yet, they seem to envy those who are better than them. Is this normal?
Personally, I hated comparism from childhood and I still hate. I can be motivated by others success, but I can compare myself to them.