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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by RICKYMARIO(m): 9:07pm On Jul 01, 2015 |
treesh:cool, so you are in between.... |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by treesh(f): 9:14pm On Jul 01, 2015 |
RICKYMARIO:Yeah. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 12:35am On Jul 02, 2015 |
Happy New Month |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 6:17am On Jul 02, 2015 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 6:36am On Jul 02, 2015 |
RICKYMARIO:Nope....she is not in between its on a scale of 100 to 100. If it were 1% or 0% thats in between or any single digit. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by RICKYMARIO(m): 1:57pm On Jul 02, 2015 |
blublahd:thnks i understand |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 5:55pm On Jul 03, 2015 |
Happy Weekend to you all. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 6:15pm On Jul 03, 2015 |
I was thinking the pages would have added 10 more after my last post. Typical introverts. Good to be back. I was absent cos ve been traveling for +3 days. Happy new month all. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 2:15am On Jul 04, 2015 |
leadzeal:Welcome and thank God for journey mercy. The lounge is just too queit for my liking. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 7:50am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Olarewajub: I noticed it as well.. But interesting writeup, suggestions and other things will aid more participation. I read through the last pages and nothing NOVEL per se. Anyway, imagine travelling for close to +40 hours since it was interstate and I refuse to engage in any conversation with any occupant in the bus. The music and view was just enough. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 12:45am On Jul 05, 2015 |
leadzeal: Tried taking the test,it didn't go well with my browser |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 12:47am On Jul 05, 2015 |
Olarewajub: What do you expect from a lounge filled with introverts |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 3:05am On Jul 05, 2015 |
Hello House, I'm a semi-introvert... |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by lovelyadeola(m): 3:33pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
keppyy:lol we are the same. I'm on the bench warming up since. Oya make i voice up *enter the thread shyly" I'M A INTROVERT too, I am not so proud about being that before but now I send no body again. Thou it was though for me being introvert in my early age but thank GOD now everything has fallen into place now. And to help my introverty ministry I choose to become a tech guy. me always on internet, reading articles, coding and stuffs. No matter how I try blend my personality I can't do away with my introvert tin. Well am nw semi-introvert which i so much love to be. I am quite funny and make some conversation but not the extent of jumping with conversation with stranger Mehn! It's so hard for me to do. Not really convenient for me. Nevertheless I have friends that i talk wella with buh not much. Well to complement my long story. Take yourself as you are (since you can't fight nature) and make people believe that you are best. Shalom! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Quite a ramble...lols lovelyadeola: |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 9:42pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
[b] We can do this well or we can do this badly, and the outcome strongly
affects the way that people think about us. This is why public speaking
causes so much anxiety and concern.
The good news is that, with thorough preparation and practice, you can
overcome your nervousness and perform exceptionally well. This article
explains how!
The Importance of Public Speaking
Even if you don't need to make regular presentations in front of a group,
there are plenty of situations where good public speaking skills can help
you advance your career and create opportunities.
For example, you might have to talk about your organization at a
conference, make a speech after accepting an award, or teach a class to
new recruits. Speaking to an audience also includes online presentations or
talks; for instance, when training a virtual team, or when speaking to a
group of customers in an online meeting.
Good public speaking skills are important in other areas of your life, as
well. You might be asked to make a speech at a friend's wedding, give a
eulogy for a loved one, or inspire a group of volunteers at a charity event.
In short, being a good public speaker can enhance your reputation, boost
your self-confidence , and open up countless opportunities.
However, while good skills can open doors, poor ones can close them. For
example, your boss might decide against promoting you after sitting
through a badly-delivered presentation. You might lose a valuable new
contract by failing to connect with a prospect during a sales pitch. Or you
could make a poor impression with your new team, because you trip over
your words and don't look people in the eye.
Make sure that you learn how to speak well!
Strategies for Becoming a Better Speaker
The good news is that speaking in public is a learnable skill. As such, you
can use the following strategies to become a better speaker and presenter.
Plan Appropriately
First, make sure that you plan your communication appropriately. Use
tools like the Rhetorical Triangle , Monroe's Motivated Sequence , and
the 7Cs of Communication to think about how you'll structure what
you're going to say.
When you do this, think about how important a book's first paragraph is; if
it doesn't grab you, you're likely going to put it down. The same principle
goes for your speech: from the beginning, you need to intrigue your
audience.
For example, you could start with an interesting statistic, headline, or fact
that pertains to what you're talking about and resonates with your
audience. You can also use story telling as a powerful opener; our
Expert Interviews with Annette Simmons and Paul Smith offer some useful
tips on doing this.
Planning also helps you to think on your feet . This is especially
important for unpredictable question and answer sessions or last-minute
communications.
Tip:
Remember that not all occasions when you need to speak in
public will be scheduled. You can make good impromptu
speeches by having ideas and mini-speeches pre-prepared. It
also helps to have a good, thorough understanding of what's
going on in your organization and industry.
Practice
There's a good reason that we say, "Practice makes perfect!" You simply
cannot be a confident, compelling speaker without practice.
To get practice, seek opportunities to speak in front of others. For example,
Toastmasters is a club geared specifically towards aspiring speakers, and
you can get plenty of practice at Toastmasters sessions. You could also
put yourself in situations that require public speaking, such as by cross-
training a group from another department, or by volunteering to speak at
team meetings.
If you're going to be delivering a presentation or prepared speech, create it
as early as possible. The earlier you put it together, the more time you'll
have to practice.
Practice it plenty of times alone, using the resources you'll rely on at the
event, and, as you practice, tweak your words until they flow smoothly and
easily.
Then, if appropriate, do a dummy run in front of a small audience: this will
help you calm your jitters and make you feel more comfortable with the
material. Your audience can also give you useful feedback , both on
your material and on your performance.
Engage With Your Audience
When you speak, try to engage your audience. This makes you feel less
isolated as a speaker and keeps everyone involved with your message. If
appropriate, ask leading questions targeted to individuals or groups, and
encourage people to participate and ask questions.
Keep in mind that some words reduce your power as a speaker. For
instance, think about how these sentences sound: "I just want to add that I
think we can meet these goals" or "I just think this plan is a good one." The
words "just" and "I think" limit your authority and conviction. Don't use
them.
A similar word is "actually," as in, "Actually, I'd like to add that we were
under budget last quarter." When you use "actually," it conveys a sense of
submissiveness or even surprise. Instead, say what things are. "We were
under budget last quarter" is clear and direct.
Also, pay attention to how you're speaking. If you're nervous, you might
talk quickly. This increases the chances that you'll trip over your words, or
say something you don't mean. Force yourself to slow down by breathing
deeply. Don't be afraid to gather your thoughts; pauses are an important
part of conversation, and they make you sound confident, natural, and
authentic.
Finally, avoid reading word-for-word from your notes. Instead, make a list
of important points on cue cards, or, as you get better at public speaking,
try to memorize what you're going to say – you can still refer back to your
cue cards when you need them.
Pay Attention to Body Language
If you're unaware of it, your body language will give your audience
constant, subtle clues about your inner state. If you're nervous, or if you
don't believe in what you're saying, the audience can soon know.
Pay attention to your body language: stand up straight, take deep breaths,
look people in the eye, and smile. Don't lean on one leg or use gestures
that feel unnatural.
Many people prefer to speak behind a podium when giving presentations.
While podiums can be useful for holding notes, they put a barrier between
you and the audience. They can also become a "crutch," giving you a
hiding place from the dozens or hundreds of eyes that are on you.
Instead of standing behind a podium, walk around and use gestures to
engage the audience. This movement and energy will also come through in
your voice, making it more active and passionate.
Think Positively
Positive thinking can make a huge difference to the success of your
communication, because it helps you feel more confident.
Fear makes it all too easy to slip into a cycle of negative self-talk,
especially right before you speak, while self-sabotaging thoughts such
as "I'll never be good at this!" or "I'm going to fall flat on my face!" lower
your confidence and increase the chances that you won't achieve what
you're truly capable of.
Use affirmations and visualization to raise your confidence. This is
especially important right before your speech or presentation. Visualize
giving a successful presentation, and imagine how you'll feel once it's over
and when you've made a positive difference for others. Use positive
affirmations such as "I'm grateful I have the opportunity to help my
audience" or "I'm going to do well!"
Cope With Nerves
How often have you listened to or watched a speaker who really messed
up? Chances are, the answer is "not very often."
When we have to speak in front of others, we can envision terrible things
happening. We imagine forgetting every point we want to make, passing
out from our nervousness, or doing so horribly that we'll lose our job. But
those things almost never come to pass! We build them up in our minds
and end up more nervous than we need to be.
Many people cite speaking to an audience as their biggest fear, and a fear
of failure is often at the root of this. Public speaking can lead your "fight
or flight" response to kick in: adrenaline courses through your bloodstream,
your heart rate increases, you sweat, and your breath becomes fast and
shallow.
Although these symptoms can be annoying or even debilitating, the
Inverted-U Model shows that a certain amount of pressure enhances
performance. By changing your mindset, you can use nervous energy to
your advantage.
First, make an effort to stop thinking about yourself, your nervousness, and
your fear. Instead, focus on your audience: what you're saying is "about
them." Remember that you're trying to help or educate them in some way,
and your message is more important than your fear. Concentrate on the
audience's wants and needs, instead of your own.
If time allows, use deep breathing exercises to slow your heart rate and
give your body the oxygen it needs to perform. This is especially important
right before you speak. Take deep breaths from your belly, hold each one
for several seconds, and let it out slowly.
Crowds are more intimidating than individuals, so think of your speech as
a conversation that you're having with one person. Although your audience
may be 100 people, focus on one friendly face at a time, and talk to that
person as if he or she is the only one in the room.
Watch Recordings of Your Speeches
Whenever possible, record your presentations and speeches. You can
improve your speaking skills dramatically by watching yourself later, and
then working on improving in areas that didn't go well.
As you watch, notice any verbal stalls, such as "um" or "like." Look at your
body language: are you swaying, leaning on the podium, or leaning heavily
on one leg? Are you looking at the audience? Did you smile? Did you speak
clearly at all times?
Pay attention to your gestures. Do they appear natural or forced? Make
sure that people can see them, especially if you're standing behind a
podium.
Last, look at how you handled interruptions, such as a sneeze or a
question that you weren't prepared for. Does your face show surprise,
hesitation, or annoyance? If so, practice managing interruptions like these
smoothly, so that you're even better next time. [/b]
www.mindtools.com/CommSkll/PublicSpeaking.htm 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 9:54pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Majority of introverts are extroverts in the e-world. joywendy: 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 10:07pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Olarewajub: Lol,True talk! Anyways am new here, so what are we to talk or discuss about? Btw not sure if am really introverted or not. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
joywendy:You're divergent. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 10:54pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
joywendy:What do you think? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 11:34pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
BoboYekini:Same |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by GRACEGLORY: 12:48am On Jul 06, 2015 |
As a personality developer, everyone is unique in his/her own way. Being an introvert is not a problem, but misunderstanding the temperament is the problem. I used to have a lot of problem myself trying to be somebody else, thinking I could become an extrovert. But became more fulfilled when I understand my introvertic nature. Being a Harp of Phleg is great. That's the reason why you are good at calculation, writing, drawing, and enjoy isolation, as a result of that, introverts are never bored. But miserable when this temperament is not understood. Let's chat on Whatsapp it overts.- 0803 054 6462. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by lovelyadeola(m): 3:17pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
keppyy:Yea lol. sumthing like that. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 4:45pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
If you haven't read or reading Quiet by Susan Cain, you're on a long thing. A must read. Please we still more books recommendation. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by joywendy(f): 4:56pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
Olarewajub: Wht of those who aren't deep into novel like that? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 4:58pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
joywendy:All got to say is that this novel is an exception. I'm currently in page 100 out of one thousand something. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 12:15pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
In the United States, medication is widely considered the first line of defense against every kind of ailment. As a result, we’re getting addicted to prescriptions, and not really feeling much better at all. While medication is truly necessary and can be helpful to some, my experience as a school counselor has made me witness to the growing social tendency to seek out a prescription as a first resort to an emotional challenge. If a child gets nervous around groups of people, they think they need anxiety medication. If they're sad because their parents are divorcing or they’re going through some other traumatic life event, they think they need antidepressants. This pervasive mindset disempowers us from working through our own challenges. It suggests that the solution is outside of ourselves, and that having these emotions means that we’re flawed and we need to be fixed. As an alternative, I’ve outlined a formula you can tailor to your own needs and use as a guide to help you work through intense emotional experiences. It may be more difficult in the beginning, but it’s the only way to truly deal with an emotional issue. Often, otherwise, you're just masking symptoms, creating a dependence on drugs, and effectively crippling yourself emotionally. We are resilient, resourceful beings, and owe it to ourselves to make the effort to surmount challenges independently, before turning to pharmaceutical alternatives. 1. Recognize that all your feelings are OK. You may have the impulse to pathologize and attempt to eradicate negative feelings as soon as you notice them. Reframe this. Intense or uncomfortable emotions are a byproduct of something unaddressed beneath the surface, the way back pain may be a sign that your spine is misaligned. Recognize that complex emotions are a part of your experience, and also part of the human experience. You are not flawed. You are simply feeling. Leave it at that for now. 2. Be kind to yourself. Don’t see the feeling as an enemy, or a disturbance to your life. Don’t judge yourself for experiencing it. This is the breeding ground for more negative emotions. Radical self-love and acceptance create an open channel of inquiry into your psyche. By accepting what is, we can begin to question the root of our feelings and behavior objectively. Try to sympathize with yourself like you would a loved one in pain. 3. Ask yourself what belief is producing this emotion. At the heart of someone’s social anxiety could be an unconscious fear of rejection — the belief that they are unlovable or only accepted under certain conditions, which they feel incapable of adhering to. Whatever the belief, challenge it. Identify all the ways that it is disproportionate to reality. Identify all the things that argue against that feeling. Will people really care enough to think you're weird if you don’t behave exactly how they think you should? Will everything in your life really fall apart if you don’t have time to get the groceries tonight? Reflect on all the reasons that prove these fears are unfounded, instead of surrendering to the belief that they are. 4. Find your catharsis. Maybe it’s further self-reflection and a creative pursuit like writing or drawing. Maybe it’s conversation with a loved one. Maybe it’s meditation or yoga. Don’t overthink it; find what feels best, and do it. 5. Take notes. Document the process however it makes sense to you, so you can return to the formula as needed. We are creatures of habit and similar situations will continue to arise. Knowing you have a proven plan to attack the problem can be comforting, and help you from going deeper into fear-based patterns in the future. Once an emotion has been compassionately witnessed, we can release it. As we develop this skill, we can consciously choose whether or not to engage in thoughts or behaviors that perpetuate certain feelings. We see this process in mindfulness, person-centered therapy, and many other spiritual and therapeutic practices. The first step to moving on is validating yourself, your feelings, and your ability to deal with them effectively. Why not give yourself the chance to try? www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20462/before-you-bust-out-the-anxiety-meds-try-this.html |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 12:27pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
How To Find True Love If You're An Introvert (And Hate Dating) When I plunged into the dating scene after getting out of a long-term relationship, my immediate inclination was to "play" extrovert by setting up numerous dates in a week, to give everyone a chance, to give those I was on the fence about a second chance, and to stay out well past my bedtime, even if I felt like I was losing steam. It took only a few weeks of this before I realized that dating was taking its toll and that I was becoming bad at it — failing to respond to texts and messages in a timely manner, rushing through dates with people I felt little connection with and, eventually finding myself leaving all of my dates with a nagging desire for the solace of my quiet apartment. That was when I realized that I was doing it all wrong, that I was tapping out and turning inward because I was jogging at an extrovert’s pace, even though I'm an introvert. So I reassessed my dating approach to better align with my energy levels and need for depth over breadth. Here are some tips for avoiding the dating drain and staying true to your introverted self. 1. Don't be surprised if you're misunderstood, because you will be. Introverts have deep inner worlds. Everyone does. But introverts specifically can be thought of as having minds like an onion: to gain access to those inner layers requires significant peeling, done with sensitivity and patience. Because of this, you may be initially unfairly labeled as shy (a common misconception), nerdy, or aloof. Keep in mind that whoever is worth your time and getting to know will take relish in peeling back those layers to tap into your rich inner landscape. And don’t feel the need to play extrovert just to fit in. 2. While boozing at a crowded bar may not be your thing, remember that a one-on-one date is where introverts really shine. In this format introverts can assert their curiosity by asking questions and participating in thoughtful conversation. The fact that introverts are highly observant and retain a lot of what they take in generally is where people come to learn how warm and compassionate these quiet souls are. 3. Only make dates with people you really believe have potential (not just people who look good on paper). Remember that extroverts get energy from being around people, and while introverts arguably make better conversationalists, they are depleted by constant social interaction. If you’re questioning whether it’s worth meeting someone in person (a blind date or online date, for instance), then schedule a phone call. You will know within a minute if they are. Avoid burnout at the outset by being both choosy and true to yourself. Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking , said that “Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality over quantity.” 4. Save time by getting real. A great ability of introverts is getting deep. Use this to your advantage and ask questions that are geared to determining whether your date is the right fit for you. I went on a few dates with someone I was intensely attracted to and with whom I had great chemistry, but upon his admission after the fifth date that he wasn’t a good communicator I realized it probably wasn’t the best fit for me. Had I been honest with myself and with him that communication was so fundamental to me, we could’ve saved ourselves some time. Lesson learned: don’t be afraid to ask tough questions from the get-go. 5. Don’t overlook extroverts as potential partners. Sure, most introverts prefer depth over breadth when it comes to relationships. Yet I'll speak here from personal experience: most of the people I’ve developed great connections with have been on the extroverted side of the spectrum. So long as they understand your need for recharging and downtime and you respect their need for significant social interaction, the introvert-extrovert pairing can be a very complementary combination. There's no reason being an introvert should make for a less vibrant dating life. So embrace all those things that make you you, including your introverted qualities , and show them to the rest of the world! Remember: authenticity is attractive. www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20613/how-to-find-true-love-if-youre-an-introvert-and-hate-dating.html 1 Like
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 12:32pm On Jul 08, 2015 |
Hey Guys! I need your assistance with something. Is there any one here that prefers fruit juice to whole fruit? If yes, why the preference |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by JeffreyJamez(m): 1:59am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Olarewajub: Fruit juice.... too lazy to chew |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 4:15am On Jul 10, 2015 |
JeffreyJamez:It has been a while. Thanks for that reply. |
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