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Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 12:27am On Sep 03, 2014 |
zboyd: Your points are not clear In one breath you are condemning men of the flock who manipulate women and in another saying religion is responsible for them staying single Which is it The acts of the manipulating men are to be condemned What I don't get is your stance that church will make a lady single. 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 12:35am On Sep 03, 2014 |
zboyd: You are free to disagree However I know of many churchgoers who have normal social lives outside life Saying they are brainwashed to live like zombies is sensationalism at best These same women you call victims of manipulation are well open eyed n amiable when the pockets of the suitor are sufficiently deep That is when they see visions for the rich dude in the aisle They have met their potential mate long ago but he did not have a car, or he had a less fashionable one. He did not live in a highbrow apartment He did not travel overseas once a year or does not have a dual citizenship. Most of these women are victims ..yes of their own greed!! 2 Likes |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by cococandy(f): 12:56am On Sep 03, 2014 |
First I don't think this thread condemns all pastors,so why are some folks getting all hot under the collar? Like pointing fingers at any corrupt pastor means cussing the whole of christainity? Secondly I agree with coogar. Any adult woman that let's herself be brainwashed into believing any xtupid thing should have herself to blame. No need creating a thread to discourage some pastors from their scam. Man must wack! Sorry. They gotta eat. If you decide to be their meal ticket,na you sabi. Wisdom is what? Profitable to... |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by cococandy(f): 1:22am On Sep 03, 2014 |
In this day and age? Frankly I think pity or whatever it is(empathy maybe) that we feel for such women is misplaced. IMO. I get real pissed when I see or hear ladies who go on and on about what their pastors say and instruct them to do. IT IS IRRITATING!!! The other day it was one church asking all the single ladies to wear wedding dresses to church on one particular sunday to claim their husbands by faith. And they did. What nonsense. I roll my eyes if I'm in church and the pastor begins to pray about the husband hunt. It's silent pressure that these women buy into and begin to feel less than worthy when they don't get theirs 'soon' Any lady who gets with that programme deserves not my pity. Even the bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. It should be men running the race and hunting for that good thing with all their might.they should be the ones missing something when they aren't married because according to the bible the wife is a missing rib. right? Makes you wonder what kind of low self esteem a woman will have to believe she's nothing without a man. I don't waste my pity on anyone like that. I understand the need for companionship and love and family. But the truth is that in most cases that's not even the driving force behind these husband hunts. It's more about social status and belonging to the club. The self worth they then believe they've achieved by adding Mrs to their names. And I don't blame pastorpreneurs who key into such weaknesses to make some cool cash. It's so bad now that from 20yrs some girls are already beginning to get worried that their boyfriends haven't mentioned marriage once. Not realising that the desperation pushes calm and rational guys away. A normal pretty,educated and wifely lady will get loads of proposals(speaking from experience) that she'll be the one having her pick of men based on the qualities she wants. But most of our ladies get too desperate early on in life and miss their golden opportunites with the hurry Or they fail to see the good guys around them when they had hordes of men flocking all around. Such that when they are older they begin to fret and pastors use them. Which business man will miss such investment? I blame such ladies zboyd: 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by Nobody: 4:52am On Sep 03, 2014 |
Speaking about pastors, here is a message on marriage by Chris Oyakhilome. http://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=483898375087752&fref=nf When Christians come here to spill bullsh1t, I just want to punch them in the face. What did your bible say? |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by segefx(m): 8:28am On Sep 03, 2014 |
cococandy: In this day and age? 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
coogar:Funny you have plenty of these folks around. Very few can actually decide that the society can't pressure them. And a laughable situation is when a graduate decides to focus on marriage rather than trying to develop herself first. I don't blame the pastors at all. If you talk they say you are possessed by demons . Until they decide to find out the truth by themselves then they have no one to blame. Agreed the orientation has to change. These days I tell you what I feel, it's left for you to accept or not. You know your strength and weakness. If you decide going to church will get you husband...then go ahead. If you think without a man from your village , you won't be complete , go ahead and look for it. As an adult you can decide how you wanna live your life but what I won't accept is trying to justify your stupidity to me. Just like you said, marriage is not for everyone. I didn't wanna go through the marriage route the way I was going. But along the line I gave up everything for someone who matters . I didn't need no pastor, or society to tell me, this is it. We all have brains, everyone should use theirs . |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by TV01(m): 1:13pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
Zboyd, Your undertone of beefing Christianity is still quite evident . Why are so many women, who go to church year after year, praying to God to bring them a man worthy of marriage, still without husbands? There are also men in this position, but – and listen clearly now; 1. it’s not the remit of the body of Christ to find spouses for anyone 2. the women typically take their issue “husbandlessness” to the church, the church did'nt cause it many single women attend church, because they have been brainwashed into believing that, if they're faithful enough and profess love of God with all their being, He will send them a worthy man to marry. 1. Brainwashing apart, why is church attendance a bad thing? 2. And why does being faithful and loving God require slavish church attendance or veneration of “robe-clad” ones? 3. I was faithful and loving towards God and God sent me a wife . So yes faith in and love towards God is rewarded. Having said that, I also wonder about some of the practices that go on in some religious circles. I also believe that people who are truly faithful and love God will be safeguarded by Him. So please don’t conflate God with perverse religious practices. If women lack an understanding of the marriage imperative, miss it, and then become so consumed by their desires, that they seek succour from religious charlatans, it’s not Gods fault 0! Sorry eh! TV 3 Likes |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by SAMBARRY: 1:56pm On Sep 03, 2014 |
coogar: another weird thread from zboyd!for the very first time in your life you have spoken like a wise man. You really impressed me today with your posts no be all this outrageous and inciting/provocative post wey you go dey type up and down nl |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 1:13am On Sep 04, 2014 |
pickabeau1: First, I am condemning predatory pastors and their minions who use Christian women's fear of never marrying to s-xually exploit them and gain access to their money, in the name of 'sowing seeds', as a way of gaining blessings from God, in the form of God-sent men, worthy of marriage. Second, it's the single women who have bought into this mindset that are now complaining...not me. I'm just critical of the teaching (belief). Third, it's the women who formerly embraced this belief who are now shunning it...and finding it ineffective...especially women in their late 30, and 40s...who still have...NO HUSBANDS! |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 1:46am On Sep 04, 2014 |
gidjah: First,the church I attend has always been a target of criticism, because our pastor dares to challenge the status quo. He doesn't subscribe to such beliefs...neither does he urge us, the congregants to do so. Most of the unmarried women that DO subscribe to such thinking came from other churches. Second, do not subscribe to me what is not of me. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 1:57am On Sep 04, 2014 |
cococandy: In this day and age? Very good observation! 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 2:12am On Sep 04, 2014 |
TV01: Zboyd, I have no beef with Christianity. I have a beef with predatory pastors and their minions who exploit single women who truly believe that God will send them a worthy man to marry...something taught to them in their specific churches...just like I was taught...but chose to ignore. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 6:42am On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: Then your points are clear Your initial post sounded like a rant on Christianity coupled with an chant on its ineffectiveness in finding men for women |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by SAMBARRY: 11:19am On Sep 04, 2014 |
You don talk am finish. Oya take I dash you. Go and buy house in Victoria garden City cococandy: In this day and age?
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Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by cococandy(f): 11:48am On Sep 04, 2014 |
Lmao. SAMBARRY: You don talk am finish. Oya take I dash you. Go and buy house in Victoria garden City 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 12:15pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
pickabeau1: You and anyone else should ask yourself... What is it about Nigerian society that deems women less than because they're unmarried? What drives Naija men to refer to single women over-30 as old hags and expired goods, especially if women challenge (disagree) with them? What makes some Nigerians assume over-30 women are lesbians? What makes over-30 women lie about their age? Why... ...is there such a double standard regarding over-30 women, compared to over-30 men? ...do some married women look down their noses at unmarried women over-30? ...do some women throw up single women's unmarried state in their faces, as in "At least I'm married!", especially in the midst of arguments? ...do so many unmarried women think they're 'incomplete' without a 'Mrs.' in front of their names? ...are so many women living lives of quiet desperation, lonely and depressed because they're not married? ...do some women deplore their unmarried state so much that they're willing to marry men other women wouldn't even consider? This is the type of social conditioning that drives single women into the arms of predatory pastors and their minions and pushes them to do all kinds of outrageous things. And some single women will do just about anything, to end their unmarried state and proudly claim their 'Mrs.' title. And they will hold on to it for dear life, even if the marriage turns out to be unfulfilling and/or disastrous. For them, divorce is not an option. The only thing worse is being married and remaining childless. But that's another issue entirely. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by TV01(m): 12:21pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd:It's either you have beef or are talking out of ignorance. The bible is pretty clear - marriage is pretty much the default - it's the duty of family to prepare their sons and daughters for marriage - there is conduct - submission, love etc. - expected from spouses once wed. Spouselessness is not a church issue. If you so choose, marry, if you like, don't marry. It is not an impediment too, or a criteria for Gods love or salvation in Christ. There is a fraudulent and parallel system of religion out there. If you mindlessly follow it without seeking God for yourself, there will be consequences. So which are you? TV CC I hear you about pastor loffas 0! "MyPas" girls l call them. Everything is " my pastor says" . I had to deal with so many of them on my journey to marriage. Sheesh! 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by coogar: 12:38pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: you nigerian women set those standards - don't lump nigerian men into it. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 12:39pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
TV01: Who am I? A woman who knows her own mind and follows her own counsel, because I'm me and know my own needs, and detest being spoon-fed beliefs I don't believe in and expected to follow, without question. It's said that religion is the opiate of the masses but I refuse to become addicted. And I don't appreciate you insinuating that I'm an atheist or ignorant. Disagree with me, if you will, but do not insult my intelligence. I don't know why some men try to insult women who challenge their opinions, as a way of shutting them up, aka 'keeping them in their places'. That approach has never worked with me and never will. And...if you deny it...you're outright lying. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 12:39pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: People should take personal responsibility for their own lives Yes some are genuine miguided but these are few. the majority are willing to be misled First believe in yourself, seek God for who he is and not through middlemen, develop yourself to be worthy spouse but above all, believe in yourself and be ready to face the consequences of your choices. At the bolded.. we await your next |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 12:40pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
coogar: Im surprised she made it all about the church and later the men |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 12:42pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
coogar: Usually, women are not calling each other old hags and expired goods - men are. Btw...I'm not a Nigerian woman...but as a woman...I find it highly insulting and offensive. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by Nobody: 12:44pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
All I prayed for was for a sign when I met the HIM I can LIVE with and when I met the HIM and locked eyes with the HIM I just knew it....that's the HIM and my shakara begun . |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by TV01(m): 1:40pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: A woman who knows her own mind and follows her own counsel, because I'm me and know my own needs, and detest being spoon-fed beliefs I don't believe in and expected to follow, without question.So why can't all women do this? Especially the gullible unmarried ones? There are lots of men desirous of marriage and lots of older me. They don't blame the church for their predicament or give themselves over to wierd techings by robe-clad ones and then whine about it. zboyd: It's said that religion is the opiate of the masses but I refuse to become addicted.There is good and bad religion. Let everyone choose wisely. zboyd: And I don't appreciate you insinuating that I'm an atheist or ignorant.You speak as if both apply. There are bad eggs, bads religious institutions. Attack them personally and individually if you will. Do not denigrate the whole. Your experience and the experience ot the gullible robe-clad venerators is neither prescribed, nor universal. zboyd: Disagree with me, if you will, but do not insult my intelligence.I couldn't care less about your intelligence, I'm interested in your position. zboyd: I don't know why some men try to insult women who challenge their opinions, as a way of shutting them up, aka 'keeping them in their places'.Make the arguement, don't feigh offense and indignation. Shut you up? Who engages in a discussion to shut the other up? I merely want to hear a full explanation and defence of your position zboyd: That approach has never worked with me and never will.Getting over yourself would also help somewhat zboyd: And...if you deny it...you're outright lying. Shut up jor TV 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by coogar: 3:53pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: yes, women do! women are more likely to use age & expiring eggs to attack each other. women are more likely to flaunt their married status or use it to look down on the other. women set those standards, leave the men out of your bullshyte. no one is forcing nigerian women to church. they aren't held at gunpoint or knifepoint. if anyone willingly goes where she can be brainwashed or manipulated after spending almost 20 years in school, then she fully deserves the consequences.
old hag is old hag - there's nothing insulting in saying someone is old. it's a description. the one you should address is married women making single women look like social outcasts. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by TV01(m): 4:41pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: Just a big unnecessary and incoherent rant. If a man - of whatever age - decides a woman - of whatever age - is too old for him or too be considered an old hag, he has every right to think that and make his choice of a wife - or no wife - based on that. It may well be crude and uncivil to voice it out, but no one has any right to shame him because of his choices. You'd be best advised to take your crusade to young women - best write-off the "old hags" - and educate them about the biological and social imperatives that will come to bear in their lives and the expedient of maturing and marrying in a timely fashion. This will avoid long lines of egg-shrivelled old hags with calcified uteri trooping into religious institutions of questionable nature and parting with large sums to robe-clad men of questionable character and possibly being "coerced" into questionable or immoral activities. All the best TV 1 Like |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 4:46pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
TV01: The bolded......OUCH! |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by zboyd: 6:04pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
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Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by pickabeau1: 6:05pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by coogar: 6:22pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: Men have biological clocks too. just like everything in life does have a biological clock....the difference is the rate at which this clock is moving. a man's bio-clock is slower than earth's revolution......while a woman's bio-clock ticks faster than usain bolt. zboyd, the difference is clear. |
Re: 'Dear God, Send Me A Husband' by Nobody: 8:46pm On Sep 04, 2014 |
zboyd: Ur beef are misplaced, it should be with the full grown women who allow themselves to be manipulated.... Atleast, no guns were pointed at their cranium.... 1 Like |
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