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6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by adonbilivit: 9:16pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
1. work stress The Task: Make your marriage a place of peace. The Solution: Acknowledge that at the end of a long, stressful day you may need time to yourselves to decompress before interacting with each other. If you bring your work stress home, it will sabotage your marriage. Build time to unwind into your daily schedule. Once you’re both feeling relatively composed, it’s time to come together and talk about each other's day. Have a stress-reducing conversation. 2. In-Laws The Task: Establish a sense of “we-ness,” or solidarity, between partners. The Solution: Side with your spouse. Establish your own family rituals, values, and lifestyle and insist that in-laws respect them. An important part of putting your spouse first and building this sense of solidarity is not to tolerate any contempt toward your spouse from your parents. 3. Money The Task: Balance the freedom and empowerment money represents with the security and trust it also symbolizes. The Solution: What’s most important in terms of your marriage is that you work as a team on financial issues and that you express your concerns, needs, and dreams to each other before coming up with a plan. You’ll each need to be firm about items that you consider nonnegotiable. Itemize your current expenditures, manage your everyday finances, and plan your financial future. If you’re having trouble, see a financial planner. 4. Sex The Task: Fundamental appreciation and acceptance of each other. The Solution: Learn to talk to each other about sex in a way that lets you both feel safe. The goal of sex is to be closer, to have more fun, to feel satisfied, and to feel valued and accepted in this very tender area of your marriage. A major characteristic of couples who have a happy sex life is that they see lovemaking as an expression of intimacy but they don’t take any differences in their needs or desires personally 5. Housework The Task: Create a sense of fairness and teamwork. The Solution: The simple truth is that men have to do more housework. Maybe this fact will spark a husband's enthusiasm for domestic chores: Women find a man's willingness to do housework extremely erotic. When the husband does his share to maintain the home, both he and his wife report a more satisfying sex life than in marriages where the wife believes her husband is not doing his share. However, the quantity of housework is not necessarily a determining factor in the housework = sex equation. Two other variables: whether the husband does his chores without being asked, and whether he is flexible in his duties in response to her needs. 6. A New Baby The Task: Expand your sense of "we-ness" to include your children. The Solution: In the first year after baby arrives, 67% of wives experience a precipitous plummet in their marital satisfaction. Lack of sleep, feeling overwhelmed and under appreciated, juggling mothering with a job, economic stress, and lack of time to oneself, among other things. Why do the other 33% sail through the transition unscathed? What separates these blissful mothers from the rest has everything to do with whether the husband experiences the transformation to parenthood along with his wife or gets left behind. http://www.gottmanblog.com/2014/08/6-arguments-all-married-couples-have.html?m=1 24 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by CORELDRAW(m): 9:26pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
hmm Yeah! Yeah! I knew it dis gonna made front page. I made d investment b4 I went to bed yesternyt and see me dancing shoki dis mowin on FP... Anyway, am first to comment for d first time after so many yrs on Nairaland. 4 Likes |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by egopersonified(f): 9:27pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
For the first time on nl, pictures or adonbilivit. Nice one op. Think I should look into some of these issues. 1 Like |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by adonbilivit: 9:35pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
egopersonified: For the first time on nl, pictures or adonbilivit. Nice one op. Think I should look into some of these issues.lmao. u don't need pictures to believe it. when you get married, you will. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Nobody: 10:06pm On Sep 16, 2014 |
Very good write up,got me thinking. ..... 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by iheanyi40(m): 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Ure correct op |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by datguru: 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Not all 1 Like |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Blackchampion(m): 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Reading thru thread... |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by QMark: 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
True |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Kayraph(m): 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Spot on! So on point. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Sagytarius(m): 6:35am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Are these arguments or challenges? At least I expected a scenario where the points you raised degenerate to arguments. I see just challenges (tasks) and their solutions. No argumentative picture. 3 Likes |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by datbay(m): 6:36am On Sep 17, 2014 |
This is absolutely correct, talking from experience. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Afrocatalyst: 6:36am On Sep 17, 2014 |
We even have more than that. But at the end of the day,it makes our union stronger although not always easy. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by uzomore(m): 6:37am On Sep 17, 2014 |
U see money and inlaw of a thing makes man in marriage go gaga |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by OLAplusONE(m): 6:37am On Sep 17, 2014 |
This nairaland app nawa oo, d tin just dey buzz evrytime. To the topic, let them keep on wt d arguement, that's life for u |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Nobody: 6:37am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Am bookmarking this,as a prospective husband,and father to be. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by alberto2k(m): 6:38am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Still single, handsome but not searching.. . . . . . . . . . . . . Maybe I'll just end up being a POPE *Dope POPE* 3 Likes |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by lovinhubby2wife(m): 6:38am On Sep 17, 2014 |
my wife and I rarely argue, All thanks to baba God. **ps- for the unmarried folks, compatibility is the key. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Dygeasy(m): 6:39am On Sep 17, 2014 |
adonbilivit: In-LawsI see the ladies throwing the whole of their weight behind this particular point. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by omicron(m): 6:39am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Been a long that a mature topic such as this graced the homepage. |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by gift01: 6:40am On Sep 17, 2014 |
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Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Cbntlt(m): 6:40am On Sep 17, 2014 |
When I get to the bridge, grace will help me cross it |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by AlfaSeltzer(m): 6:41am On Sep 17, 2014 |
where r the arguments? |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by ggrin(f): 6:41am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Team single |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by strykr: 6:41am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Too |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by 1stola: 6:41am On Sep 17, 2014 |
really? |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by ignis: 6:41am On Sep 17, 2014 |
Seriously? |
Re: 6 Arguments All Married Couples Have by Lexcom20(m): 6:43am On Sep 17, 2014 |
nice 1 op. NOTED 2 Likes |
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