yeah dats true

Ok

marriage this cold morning

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Nice post!
Marriage is all about understanding.

Nice one op. Especially on the area of IN-LAWS and money.

noted but no 5 get as e be. House chores are mearnt 4 d woman. Once u start doing them u v started, any day u fail to do them she'll assume u're shying away 4rm ur responsibility. As 4 me, she does all house chores coz no time.

Great tips

Lol

every day 1 stupid list or the other. most presumably from people who have never tied the knot.

Great point OP. These the only topic on NL that kept me thinking. Married NL who have missed step can re-step. Nice one.

Lesson

i'm happy no body, especially the men, is disputing the list. it goes to show how willing we are to make our marriages work. nice one guys

Stil single

All this looks true, indeed. However, it seems it's too much work, and for what?. Better stay single and be happy.

The one I like is number 4...

Tnx for d education

Hmmm.... Looks pretty simple but yet it is very complicated. Sometimes I just want to be free from my marriage.

so true. like you understand my pains.

Very good right up.I'll be gettiing married in some months and I find these tips handy.I must say that money and family are one of those things couples find quite difficult to manage.as for me,I really don't have a problem with that cuz we've come to a level in our relationship where we have one voice.its so amazing that we can predict each others reactions to situations even without the other party being there.as a woman,u cannot leave all the financial burden of the home u to your hubby.matured women don't do that.u r a help mate and not a parasite.marriage is teamwork and synergy.u have to be ur husband's rock and biggest cheerleader....may God help us all.

holluwai: Hmmm.... Looks pretty simple but yet it is very complicated. Sometimes I just want to be free from my marriage.

practice these with your spouse and you will be glad you did

how about arguments about the side chicks or the school boyfriends ?
or the too many calls from folks the other spouse don't know? or the late night keeping? or the sudden wearing of weight ?
or the impulse buying of the female folks and their herbalist attitudes (always collecting , never contributing? or wisely contributing because they know they would collect such back a thousand fold over latter?

how about d arguments that springs forth from the husby been carried away by a fine sontin only to stare wantonly gallantly disrespecting d wify?

how about those that spring forth when the man zooms off leaving her behind for an occassion because she is always making him late from make ups?

got solutions for these?

the list is endless , and as I hv always said, the ain't no fast and hard rule, fashion ur path

These are good points.

only if women can keep up with the "Let me be, and exhale stress from work before telling me how bitter you felt seeing a colleague wear thesame top as yours" rule.

Hmmm. Did number 6 baby thing...ur analysis no correct o. Should be more like 90% than 67%

After doing something bad

Mother :i will kill u 2day

Child:mummy please,please...

Father:leave him,do u want to kill him 4 me,is dat how ur mother killed u

really

adonbilivit: 1. work stress

The Task: Make your marriage a place of
peace.

The Solution: Acknowledge that at the end
of a long, stressful day you may need
time to yourselves to decompress before
interacting with each other. If you bring
your work stress home, it will sabotage
your marriage. Build time to unwind into
your daily schedule. Once you’re both
feeling relatively composed, it’s time to
come together and talk about each other's day. Have a stress-reducing conversation.

2. In-Laws

The Task: Establish a sense of “we-ness,”
or solidarity, between partners.

The Solution: Side with your spouse.
Establish your own family rituals, values,
and lifestyle and insist that in-laws
respect them. An important part of
putting your spouse first and building
this sense of solidarity is not to tolerate
any contempt toward your spouse from
your parents.

3. Money

The Task: Balance the freedom and
empowerment money represents with
the security and trust it also symbolizes.

The Solution: What’s most important in
terms of your marriage is that you work
as a team on financial issues and that you
express your concerns, needs, and
dreams to each other before coming up
with a plan. You’ll each need to be firm
about items that you consider
nonnegotiable. Itemize your current
expenditures, manage your everyday
finances, and plan your financial future.
If you’re having trouble, see a financial
planner.

4. Sex

The Task: Fundamental appreciation and
acceptance of each other.

The Solution: Learn to talk to each other
about sex in a way that lets you both feel
safe. The goal of sex is to be closer, to
have more fun, to feel satisfied, and to
feel valued and accepted in this very
tender area of your marriage. A major
characteristic of couples who have a
happy sex life is that they see
lovemaking as an expression of intimacy
but they don’t take any differences in
their needs or desires personally

5. Housework

The Task: Create a sense of fairness and
teamwork.

The Solution: The simple truth is that men
have to do more housework. Maybe this
fact will spark a husband's enthusiasm
for domestic chores: Women find a man's
willingness to do housework extremely
erotic. When the husband does his share
to maintain the home, both he and his
wife report a more satisfying sex life than
in marriages where the wife believes her
husband is not doing his share. However,
the quantity of housework is not
necessarily a determining factor in the
housework = sex equation. Two other
variables: whether the husband does his
chores without being asked, and whether
he is flexible in his duties in response to
her needs.

6. A New Baby

The Task: Expand your sense of "we-ness"
to include your children.

The Solution: In the first year after baby
arrives, 67% of wives experience a
precipitous plummet in their marital
satisfaction. Lack of sleep, feeling
overwhelmed and under appreciated,
juggling mothering with a job, economic
stress, and lack of time to oneself, among
other things. Why do the other 33% sail
through the transition unscathed? What
separates these blissful mothers from the
rest has everything to do with whether
the husband experiences the
transformation to parenthood along with
his wife or gets left behind.

http://www.gottmanblog.com/2014/08/6-arguments-all-married-couples-have.html?m=1

it is very romantic wen a man helps his wife with domestic chores once in a while