I want to do my very best to understand and make my boyfriend happy. I am white, north american. His family opposes us getting married because I cannot have more children due to a medical situation I had in the past. I would give him 10 if I could but I can't. He keeps telling me his mother needs grandchildren and he admits he does want to have a child of his own, even though he cares for my children dearly. He is also the oldest male in the family. In our culture, it's not that important. I am trying to understand the importance of it in his/yours. So why is it so important? Our plan for the last 2 years is for him to join me here in my country. I know that he has even considered just getting a girl pregnant just to provide a child for his mother, but I think about that child and how I would like to provide and care for him or her. I'm sure no woman would just have a baby and give it up without another thought about that child. We love each other but can't seem to figure out a solution that will make his family happy. Any insights into this would be helpful.

Interesting

So hav u settled??

No sadly. We still don't have a solution.