iykedare: where are these nairaland e warriors that attack cheating men? Why are they scared to comment? Have they run out of free data or they are fantasying over what Tony did to Op?

Godmystrength: see how you just spoilt everything

But you still didn't answer my first question...

markpenk: hairspray... I can understand your predicament. Truth is it is extremely difficult to endure and forbear with your hubby if he's not doing his "job" properly. So, I won't do what most nairalanders are doing right now: judge you. Instead, I need to ask you a few questions:

1. How old is your husband and how long have you guys been married? I don't need specifics. Just age range is good enough for me.
2. Have you spoken to his pastor/priest about this? If you say he hasn't been doing his duty because of his religiosity, then you should talk to your pastor about this.
3. Does he have any health issues?
4. What was his intimacy.u.a.l appetite like before you both got married?
5. Have you been taking care of yourself? If you've gained weight, you need to lose it very fast. I'm single and young, but I've seen some married women with kids that I've completely admired. Just had to get my mind off them because "thou shalt not covet thy 'neighbor's' wife".
6. Have you tried putting some aphrodisiac in his meals? Might sound weird, but he's your husband and this beats cheating anytime.
7. Did you ever make him feel inadequate intimacy.u.a.l.l.y? Please think real hard about this.

I ask these questions because I'm going somewhere. if you could please indulge me, let's see what we can do to help remedy the situation. Cheers.

markpenk: hairspray... I can understand your predicament. Truth is it is extremely difficult to endure and forbear with your hubby if he's not doing his "job" properly. So, I won't do what most nairalanders are doing right now: judge you. Instead, I need to ask you a few questions:

1. How old is your husband and how long have you guys been married? I don't need specifics. Just age range is good enough for me.
2. Have you spoken to his pastor/priest about this? If you say he hasn't been doing his duty because of his religiosity, then you should talk to your pastor about this.
3. Does he have any health issues?
4. What was his intimacy.u.a.l appetite like before you both got married?
5. Have you been taking care of yourself? If you've gained weight, you need to lose it very fast. I'm single and young, but I've seen some married women with kids that I've completely admired. Just had to get my mind off them because "thou shalt not covet thy 'neighbor's' wife".
6. Have you tried putting some aphrodisiac in his meals? Might sound weird, but he's your husband and this beats cheating anytime.
7. Did you ever make him feel inadequate intimacy.u.a.l.l.y? Please think real hard about this.

I ask these questions because I'm going somewhere. if you could please indulge me, let's see what we can do to help remedy the situation. Cheers.

lawrenceunaa: state the question again pls undecided

lawrenceunaa: now i understand u BUT
We own our body right? So we got to control it and not the other way round
If she true loves her husband she could @ least control herself not to demand too much
Man must hustle and sper*m no the drop from heaven
On the part of the hubby, he should @ least step up his game and the lady lowers to the man's level so as to balance the equation

With constant practise and correct sactisfaction he will definitely crave for more

Godmystrength: let me say i kinda agree with you.
But please be honest and tell me if it was a man asking this what your response will be...

.............

iykedare:

Remedy what situation? Just say you want a shot at the honey pot. If Tony can have it,why cant you? Make good use of the opportunity when it comes.

iykedare:

Remedy what situation? Just say you want a shot at the honey pot. If Tony can have it,why cant you? Make good use of the opportunity when it comes.

markpenk: hairspray... I can understand your predicament. Truth is it is extremely difficult to endure and forbear with your hubby if he's not doing his "job" properly. So, I won't do what most nairalanders are doing right now: judge you. Instead, I need to ask you a few questions:

1. How old is your husband and how long have you guys been married? I don't need specifics. Just age range is good enough for me.
2. Have you spoken to his pastor/priest about this? If you say he hasn't been doing his duty because of his religiosity, then you should talk to your pastor about this.
3. Does he have any health issues?
4. What was his intimacy.u.a.l appetite like before you both got married?
5. Have you been taking care of yourself? If you've gained weight, you need to lose it very fast. I'm single and young, but I've seen some married women with kids that I've completely admired. Just had to get my mind off them because "thou shalt not covet thy 'neighbor's' wife".
6. Have you tried putting some aphrodisiac in his meals? Might sound weird, but he's your husband and this beats cheating anytime.
7. Did you ever make him feel inadequate intimacy.u.a.l.l.y? Please think real hard about this.

I ask these questions because I'm going somewhere. if you could please indulge me, let's see what we can do to help remedy the situation. Cheers.

Godmystrength:
your answer

my question afterwards

Angeldemivida:

I hope the aphrodisiac you are recommending is food and not drugs. If it is drugs then i will lose all my respect for men who are suggesting to a woman to drug her husband. Nobody should drug another without their consent even if it is medicine for runny stomach. How can you guys tell a woman to drug her husband so that he can be able to expand the walls of her p*ssy in many directions. (backwise/frontwise) WTF-ck!

lawrenceunaa: same, he should also control it .

markpenk: LOL... no one is talking about medications here o. Nairalanders can so misinterpret things. I asked those questions because I want to know what the real issue is. If she makes his meals with lots of garlic/onions and a few other veggies, cuts out his sugar an supplements it with honey, then he shouldn't be able to keep his hands off her. But if she's done all that and he hasnt improved, then.... but like I said I want to hear from her first.

Godmystrength: telling a man to control/reduce his sexual appetite because his wife's is lower than his? okay o

jnrbayano:

I just can't reconcile the two emboldened sentences....

Angeldemivida:

Yeah I didn't misinterpret, I asked that I hope the aphrodisiac you are recommending is food and not drugs. I went on to say the other thing because somebody here has already recommended that she drug him which is disgusting.

sunvick:


You are not proffering any soulution to the op's problems, rather you are only countering the opinions of others.
we need suggestions n practical workable solution and not counteracting pple here.

thandii1: This has got to be fiction. How dare you even type "I love my husband and will never cheat on him again' after the vivid description of your escapades with tony. Are you for real? You remember the details of all your steamy sessions and feel no remorse describing it all? If tony had not seen your ring, you'd have continued straffing him? For a moment I was even hoping tony was an ex and had to re read the post again.

I'm so irritated by the Op. I hate cheats, unrepentant ones at that..urrgh!!!

edwife: @Chillisauce come o,are you are this is not your tony?Come and see things....

Angeldemivida:

I already proferred workable solutions, Darling. You didn't see my posts. I respect the opinion of others, never cancelled out the opinion of others one bit. Was only disgusted by someone suggesting that the man gets drugged or do you agree with that too?