Hmm... sometime last year, i posted a topic on ''Whose name should the baby bear?'' To continue the story, the baby daddy in question has finally agreed to have a DNA but the mother who has been SOLELY responsible for the upkeep of the child since conception will be the one to pay for the DNA test even when she asked him if he'd be contributing to the payment, he said NO!

The girl went ahead to inquire from him his plans after the DNA result is out but the dude claims not to have any plans yet. He told her that he'll start making plans when the result is out. Hmmm... The questions running through her mind

1)should she trust him?

2)what if he doesn't come up with a good/reasonable plan that will favour the girl and her child..., should she go ahead and pay for the DNA just for the sake of her child EVEN THOUGH its not convenient for her?

3)Should she insist on knowing the guy's plans before proceeding to pay for the DNA?

4)Should she demand from him every dime or half refund of what she has spent after the result because she is 100% sure he's the father being intimate with him ONLY & to add, the baby is the father's typical carbon-copy.

5)WHAT SHOULD SHE DO

NB: The truth is, paying for this DNA is not convenient for her at all, coupled with the fact that she has been taking full responsibility of the child including paying the school fees, etc


Genuine and reasonable advices are needed please.

Pay the damn money and be vindicated...my 2cents.

Why don't she focus and raise her child, she is actually dragging this dude thrashing and kicking to be a father. The resources for the test is better off utilized raising the kid. Isn't it obvious that the dude is not interested in this child irrespective of what DNA has to say?

The onus lies on the accuser to prove her case beyond reasonable doubt. The accused can only defend himself by denying the allegations. If found guilty, then he takes responsibility for his actions.

She should pay for the DNA and be sure who the father of her child is. If the guy doesn't want to take responsibility, she should then go ahead and focus on the child herself .

Or is this a case of trying to get money from a supposed baby daddy ?

how much is the DNA test?

Chillisauce post=/post/26830543:
She should pay for the DNA and be sure who the father of her child is. If the guy doesn't want to take responsibility, she should then go ahead and focus on the child herself .

Or is this a case of trying to get money from a supposed baby daddy ?

Not like She's trying to get money from him, she's willing to pay to vindicate herself.. but these are just the questions running through her mind.

Utchry post=/post/26830822:



Not like She's trying to get money from him, she's willing to pay to vindicate herself.. but these are just the questions running through her mind.

Can you please tell us how much we are talking about here?

If he refuses to take responsibility of the child because he doesn't believe it's his, then she should pay for it.

If the child is then proven to be his, he should return her the money and take responsibility.

eagleeye2 post=/post/26830608:
how much is the DNA test?

97K

To
what end if i may ask?If he cant pay to have a closure,what then do one
need a useless baby father for?She better focussss on herself and her
child and leave irresponsible man.God knows if na me,that child will
grow u believing her dad died from a stray bullet!Better of,than knowing
her father is a hopeless buffalo!

Lynpetra that was harsh o




Truth is,if his absence wasn't felt (by the mother and child),then his presence wouldn't make a difference..
If person dash her 97k,shey na DNA go be the next thing on her mind? Since she's not financially bouyant,she shouldn't risk it..

I thought there's a line that says"everywoman knows whom the father of her child is"

lynpetra post=/post/26831617:
To
what end if i may ask?If he cant pay to have a closure,what then do one
need a useless baby father for?She better focussss on herself and her
child and leave irresponsible man.God knows if na me,that child will
grow u believing her dad died from a stray bullet!Better of,than knowing
her father is a hopeless buffalo!

That is a bit unfair as we do not know why the guy denied the pregnancy in the first place. Only a fool will let another party pin a pregnancy on him and take responsibility for another man's child. If there were no trust issues involved, I doubt if this would have come up.

You can never blame a man or woman for having no trust in their spouse. The way we behave, the friends we keep and the things we do always serve as a determining factor.

Why should I use my hard earned money to proove that an irresponsible,selfish man who bears the name animal for a character is my child's father.
Ok,after d test tests positive and he demands for child custody what happens?,would you be comfortable to leave even your dog with this sort of man and be sure u will come back to meet it alive,not to talk of your flesh and blood.or you think the devil will suddenly change and become an angel because of a DNA result,Women and their dreamy world.As you pay for the DNA you also pay for lifelong emotional torture for yourself and d child.shikena.

carefreewannabe post=/post/26830970:
If he refuses to take responsibility of the child because he doesn't believe it's his, then she should pay for it.

If the child is then proven to be his, he should return her the money and take responsibility.

True

[quote
author=1stCitizen post=/post/26831971]

That is a bit unfair as we do not know why the guy denied the pregnancy
in the first place. Only a fool will let another party pin a pregnancy
on him and take responsibility for another man's child. If there were no
trust issues involved, I doubt if this would have come up.

You can never blame a man or woman for having no trust in their spouse.
The way we behave, the friends we keep and the things we do always serve
as a determining factor.[/quote]What manner of a man will not seek to find out if he actually fathered a child with his own money?The idiot is scared of responsibility jare.If my own brother does this,i will to his face call him a waste of my father's seed!

lynpetra post=/post/26831617:
To
what end if i may ask?If he cant pay to have a closure,what then do one
need a useless baby father for?She better focussss on herself and her
child and leave irresponsible man.God knows if na me,that child will
grow u believing her dad died from a stray bullet!Better of,than knowing
her father is a hopeless buffalo!

Why do u always talk so aggressively? Always taking evrythin personal!

lynpetra post=/post/26832171:
What manner of a man will not seek to find out if he actually fathered a child with his own money?The idiot is scared of responsibility jare.If my own brother does this,i will to his face call him a waste of my father's seed!

Well, we have read and even witnessed cases where people pinned pregnancies on simple acquaintances because they are rich, famous etc.
Is it advisable to pay for everyone that comes by? How many u go pay?

Refusing to subject oneself to such test is what may constitute as irresponsibility and not refusing to pay the bills for it.

Odilafta post=/post/26831848:
Lynpetra that was harsh o

Abi o.Because man wey no want wahala go drag the babe by himself go hospital.What if the babe still go forge am since na she dey pay?The guy no serious jare.Na Otondo!

[quote
author=1stCitizen post=/post/26832339]

Well, we have read and even witnessed cases where people pinned
pregnancies on simple acquaintances because they are rich, famous etc.
Is it advisable to pay for everyone that comes by? How many u go pay?


Refusing to subject oneself to such test is what may constitute as
irresponsibility and not refusing to pay the bills for it. [/quote]My dear,once a man sleeps without protection with a fertile woman,be sure to know a baby might come out.Find out to know if its your product.Easy!

lynpetra: My dear,once a man sleeps without protection with a fertile woman,be sure to know a baby might come out.Find out to know if its your product.Easy!

Well have you considered the fact that the man might be denying the pregnancy because he is 100% he used protection?

If she's sure she has no skeleton in her cupboard,let her convince him by paying,and when she comes clean,she should dump him

Respect is earned,not given.

1stCitizen:

Well have you considered the fact that the man might be denying the pregnancy because he is 100% he used protection?

If that was the case,there wudnt have been any allegation in the first place.

fabiano09:
Why do u always talk so aggressively? Always taking evrythin personal!

Am i aggressive to you?Why take it personal?Abi u follow for men wey dy give woman belle run?

lynpetra: If that was the case,there wudnt have been any allegation in the first place.

Don't be naive. You underestimate what human beings can come up with

lynpetra: To
what end if i may ask?If he cant pay to have a closure,what then do one
need a useless baby father for?She better focussss on herself and her
child and leave irresponsible man.God knows if na me,that child will
grow u believing her dad died from a stray bullet!Better of,than knowing
her father is a hopeless buffalo!

harsh but true

1stCitizen:

Well have you considered the fact that the man might be denying the pregnancy because he is 100% he used protection?

you clearly missed primary school science classes because if u did go you would know that condoms aren't 100% safe

Mondisweets: you clearly missed primary school science classes because if u did go you would know that condoms aren't 100%

I don't see the reason why the man can't pay for the test, 97k is big but still let the man take responsibility if he is the one demanding for the test, even if he is not sure the kid is his , the more reason to pay for the test and be free of any or all paternity saga and lay the matter to rest for once

1stCitizen:

Don't be naive. You underestimate what human beings can come up with

You are the one not shooting properly here.See,as long as he had sex with her,he is answerabl.If him like make him wear condoms,or do withdrawal method,all can still lead to pregnancy to some degree.As long as condom isn't a 100% secure,anything can happen.Some sperm sabi deliver sharparly,the thing go just travel straight with chain and padlock go tie itself for woman ovaries.

Gbam

beeevan: Why don't she focus and raise her child, she is actually dragging this dude thrashing and kicking to be a father. The resources for the test is better off utilized raising the kid. Isn't it obvious that the dude is not interested in this child irrespective of what DNA has to say?

Mondisweets: you clearly missed primary school science classes because if u did go you would know that condoms aren't 100% safe

Is that necessary? I wished you had at least tried the least intelligent way to pass a childish insult. I am not surprised that you were taught how to use a condom in primary school. Speaks a lot you see.

Back to the argument, does the fact that condoms are not 100% safe remove the fact that one cannot use it to prevent pregnancy.

Secondly if one has used it as a preventive measure does it not mean that there might be some doubt when the woman says she is pregnant. Please argue constructively based on facts and stop sounding like a three year old.