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Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by shizzle11(m): 9:15am On Oct 09, 2014 |
^Its never being easy moving on after such, but the earlier you face the reality the better. I wish you the best. Cheers! |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by breadplanets(f): 12:04pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
@op i know right now its seems as if your world has ended. That u just cant face tomorrow. The thought of life without him makes your heart sink. You are hurting, you will cry, n cry again n then cry some more. But guess what... U'll get over him. Just give it a little time. Pls dont beg a man to marry u. There are no relationships dat are devoid of misunderstandings, u have made the mistake of threatening him, u have apologised but if he stills insists on not going ahead then let him be. Just like smone here said, meeting your mother acutually made everytin real to him and he is just not ready for that commitment. Let him be. In a short time u'll be thankful. Just like i am now. It is well. Tkia |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by breadplanets(f): 12:25pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
i just saw where u said u'll keep on communicating with him till u are emotionally stable. To me that would be prolonging d inevitable. A clean break is way better and before u know it you have moved on. But if u keep on communicating with him each day u'll see or hear smtin dat would always hurt u. Maybe the way he sounded, what he said, etc. It is well |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by rolled: 1:56pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
Oh my God Can't you see he is notstable yet for marriage You are still 26 And when next you start a rship put age as a big factor He has moved on oh |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by ogawisdom(m): 2:15pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
kingchi32: U want to tie a 27yrs old man down by force nawa listen marriage is nt n shldnt b his priority nw. He ll get more serious @ 30yrs plus. U can let go if u ve back up plans . D communication gap btw u two is quite wide, by d way hw old r u bc ur desperation ll even scare a lion to death |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 8:49pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
kingchi32:It's well sis, I understand what you're going through. .. you have to move on, there are still alot of good guys out there, maybe he isn't meant for you. .. I also guess he isn't ready for marriage hence feels so rushed.. Stop pushing him into it Also, rem everything to put everything in prayers shaa |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 9:52pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
shizzle11: ^^^^So uncalled for. |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by shizzle11(m): 10:01pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:ok, sorry if my comment got to you. |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 10:03pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
shizzle11: Apology accepted. |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 10:44pm On Oct 09, 2014 |
kingchi32: He's lying to you, otherwise, he would have accepted you back... I felt so emotionally down with the way he talked to me.. he totally changed overnight....that I kept wondering if i m dreaming because this is the Ist time we had issues and it turned out this bad. Nobody 'changes overnight'. He always knew he wasn't going to marry you... I felt i was the one that gave him opportunity to say or do what has been on his mind because this is an issue we can easily talk over. I'm glad you figured this one out on your own. These thoughts were always there...in his mind. All my efforts to make things straight went bad as he will tell me that i have quit the relationship already even after apologizing yesterday. Excuses, excuses! I begged him not to, he said his mind is made up, i cant say whether its another strategy to force me out as he knows that I wont be part of that. Its time to let him go... Please you guys should not crucify me.....but analyzing things... If only you knew that there was NOTHING you could have done to prevent this. It was bound to happen someday...men can be mean like that. Wise up! Don't know whether this is bad as i planned to b communicating with him until i feel emotionally stable & leave him. The more spontaneously its done, the less pain you feel. Get over him fast! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 8:49pm On Oct 10, 2014 |
Thanks very much at shizzle11 |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by shizzle11(m): 11:57pm On Oct 10, 2014 |
kingchi32:You are welcome; my pleasure. |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by blank(f): 3:00pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
The guy has shown his hand. Even if he had plans of marrying you, the money ish scattered everything. The way he is going now, its as if he has given up on you and was just waiting for you to be the one to do the breaking up, happens all the time. What you should do now is to leave him alone. Break off all communication and start your life afresh. The more you hang on to him, the more he will treat you like dirt cos it will seem like you are desperate. That is my advice. 1 Like |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by EfemenaXY: 11:53pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
kingchi32: Twenty-six years of age is not the end of the road girl. Marriage isn't about how soon, but how well. Getting married is the easy bit. Staying married despite your individual differences and the challenges that life will eventually throw your way, is the hard bit. Yes, it is painful - as it may seem like wasted effort after giving the relationship your best shot over the years, but it's way, way, better to discover any "incompatibility issues" now (pre-marriage) than later (post marriage). Take as much time as you need to grieve over the breakup of your relationship. Don't rush the healing process. Use the time to discover yourself and please, please, please, don't jump into another relationship on the rebound. That's a classical recipe for disaster. You're young and you've got your whole life and future ahead of you. He just wasn't the one for you. You will find your missing half. All the best. |
Re: Modified....Please I m In Need Of Advice..... by Nobody: 6:23am On Oct 19, 2014 |
Move on he is not into you. I understand the 26 year itch, you have crossed 25 and suddenly feel the need to marry as soon as you can, well stop, slow down, calm down. 26 will pass, 27 will come there is not telling when the right man will show but it is a million times better to marry the right man at the right time than marry any man at 26. I am talking because i almost made the same mistake, ibwas ready to endure all the things he kept pushing on me, all the rudeness, the girls calling me etc because i figured i was 26 we had been together a long time and he would change, afterall it was me he would marry. He kept getting worse i kept assuring myself we would get married. Then one day i woke up. I walked, 26 passed i didnt die, 27 passed i didnt die, 28 passed i still wasnt married and still very alive,29, 30 but when the right man came it was magic, still is, the only thing i endure is constant switching of tv channels without " excuse me" no cheating, no rudeness no abuse. Calm down dear, you cant force love 3 Likes |
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