amazing, i just read a story where a Nigerian (?) lady said she had UNPROTECTED SEX TWO years ago and got pregnant.


which Nigerian culture encourages this, since we all know not every culture in Nigeria is the same.



yes, i know Nigeria is also a center for baby farms where males and females are paired together, inseminated and children delivered with no visible father.

this is not an indictment and i am in no way criticizing the lady in the situation, just wondering why this is still happening and recurring frequently.

i think those of us who say its not Nigerian culture, are missing something.

Are you baffled on why they still having unprotected sex OR
Why they keep the baby and not abort it instead??

i'm baffled on why they are having unprotected sex.

which would eliminate the need to have an abortion afterwards.

its called civilisation

sex without boundaries.. carry go

Nigerian women in diaspora you mean.

pickabeau1:
its called civilisation

sex without boundaries.. carry go

civi kini?
This should ONLY happen in marriage. Nothing more..

Godmystrength:
civi kini?
This should ONLY happen in marriage. Nothing more..

Welcome to the 21st century... actually that should be 20th century

pickabeau1:






Welcome to the 21st century... actually that should be 20th century

maybe i was slow in arriving...

Godmystrength:
maybe i was slow in arriving...

hmmm.... let me tell u more......this century is renowned for sex without consequence
sex is routine

bootycalls
runz ism is now fashionable - babes are proud to be called runzers
baby mamas abound
absentee sperm donors on the loose saying no be my pikin

welcome oo

pickabeau1:


hmmm.... let me tell u more......this century is renowned for sex without consequence
sex is routine

bootycalls
runz ism is now fashionable - babes are proud to be called runzers
baby mamas abound
absentee sperm donors on the loose saying no be my pikin

welcome oo

Na wa o. Anyway sha, i am already praying for my children in advance

Godmystrength:
Na wa o. Anyway sha, i am already praying for my children in advance

hahaha...

i say amen to ur prayer

Let me tell u more

In the West, a girl as young as 13 can start using birth control pills without parental consent
In Canada, she can get an abortion without parental consent.

U know in naija,,,we like to copy

so stay tuned

And all I ask for is a GF

itstpia1:
this is not an indictment and i am in no way criticizing the lady in the situation, just wondering why this is still happening and recurring frequently.

i think those of us who say its not Nigerian culture, are missing something.

get used to it......
the stigmatisation of polygyny brought this nonsense to our society. back in the days, if a man impregnates a woman, he must marry her & he wouldn't have any qualms about it cos he knows he could always get as many wives as possible.

these days, that option of polygyny has been taken away from the men. he only gets one chance to marry a woman of his dreams. if he gets a woman he doesn't really love pregnant, he is not likely to stay with her....who wants to marry a woman he doesn't love?

crackhaus:
Nigerian women in diaspora you mean.

Is abortion a better option?

soulglo:



Is abortion a better option?

Not getting pregnant in the first place is the best option.

itstpia1:
amazing, i just read a story where a Nigerian (?) lady said she had UNPROTECTED SEX TWO years ago and got pregnant.


which Nigerian culture encourages this, since we all know not every culture in Nigeria is the same.



yes, i know Nigeria is also a center for baby farms where males and females are paired together, inseminated and children delivered with no visible father.

Because gone are the days when such was a taboo and the whole family would be talked about
Now its just "one of those things"
Many familys now have at least one person in their extended family who has done such
because now especially in developed countrys baby and mother wont go hungry and any father that disowns his daughter for getting pregnant, the govt is ready to provide shelter and money for the mother and baby
The other day I heard of an 11 year old saying that she wont be going to Uni becasue she would have had a kid by 17
In city centres on a Saturday afternoon, its like a fashion show of which teenager pushes the best buggy
Things have changed. . . . .and sadly the cycle just carrys on.

if you are bent on having an out of wedlock baby, then go to a baby farm nah?

@ topic.