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Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 9:03am On Oct 20, 2014 |
preciousberry: A little digression from the purpose of the thread. May I know the problem you encountered with your nanny. Will like to learn from you. |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 9:08am On Oct 20, 2014 |
NairaMode:Okay o |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Busybody2(f): 9:15am On Oct 20, 2014 |
JOB related All I see is the average $25,000 course fee, accommodation allowance, etc one would gross in the first year of study and the average $35,000 adding the children would gross following year! And these figures are on a scrimping and counting every kobo and penny levels too! N4M - N6M/annum. Osanobua I am not one to knock anyone's hustle if one is not business-minded inclined...If studying abroad is no longer guaranteed to get a better job abroad, take your children along with you from day one...at least for the better life abroad always purportedly offer... |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by kandiikane(m): 9:41am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Acidosis: After you have children they become your number one priority not your husband. She is right to think of her kids because if anything they will be affected more. The husband travels anyway so I don't see how it will affect him. His problem is what people are saying which isn't his concern. 3 Likes |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by rolled: 10:08am On Oct 20, 2014 |
U studied engineering and now wants to abandon it for a nursing career abroad I give up I wish you well in your canadian Dream |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 10:29am On Oct 20, 2014 |
I think i have said enough because no matter what,people will always find a way to oppose what you do or not 1 Like |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 11:40am On Oct 20, 2014 |
kandiikane: Children are blessings from God. What should be the priority of a couple without Children? |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 2:09pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Acidosis: You obviously did not understand the post you quoted. Maybe you should read her first line again. |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 2:26pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
jennykadry: Children should never be no.1 priority in any marriage (they're gifts from God; not everyone get these gifts). I clearly understand her first line; and I understand most married women always divert their attention from hubby immediately after child birth. Atimes I feel women get married in order to get pregnant & raise cute kids (selfishness), that's the reason some men do not appreciate these marriage stuff. |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Acidosis: This is where you speak for yourself. You can only suggest but can't tell anyone how to prioritize. For some women the children come first and for others hubby. They both play different roles in ones life. 2 Likes |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 5:38pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
jennykadry:hmmn... #speechless |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 6:13pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@jennykadry 10. Putting your children before your spouse Kids matter. They are very important people in your life, but not more important than your spouse. If you knock your spouse off the top of your priority list you are not showing total fidelity to him or her. Your mate must come first. Not only does it cement your marriage and make it stronger, it gives your children the best security blanket they will ever have. https://www.nairaland.com/1958293/10-ways-being-unfaithful-spouse#27302256 |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Kanwulia: 6:19pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Life is about SACRIFICES! Personal sacrifices. You do not need any form of validation from ANY one. 4 Likes |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 6:28pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Acidosis: You don't get it. That article was written by who? Someone of the same opinion as you. It does not make it right or wrong and it still leads me to the same point I made earlier...we are not in the best position to tell a woman who should be top in her priority list and who shouldn't. Women can go through hell and back for their children and so also men For their children. I can imagine a woman married to a man who sleeps with anything with hole in the lower frontal part of her body...don't expect such a woman to put hubby first. Hubby is an adult...kids are little. They require guidance from both parties to excel in life and the guidance does not stop even after they are out of the home and caring for themselves...if a woman for this reason decides her children come first while also giving her husband the attention he needs...what exactly is the problem there? Children and fathers/mothers have different roles to play in a relationship and it is left for a parent to decide where her priorities lie. It doesn't mean the husband isnt a priority but he just isn't on the tip of the list.The bond a mother shares with her child is unfortunately one thing that a man cannot compete with. It doesn't mean they are neglected it just means that she shared her life with someone else inside of her until that someone was ready to Pop out. 2 Likes |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 6:31pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
i think its always best to go with the plan that will keep u guys safe in case anything happens to the sole provider. Unless u can stay home and start a little something of your own, just to make sure u are always covered, in case there is a sudden unexpected change of events |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Acidosis(m): 6:38pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
jennykadry: You don't get it. We are talking about an ideal marriage. |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by widowhusband: 8:38pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
It will be fine, i know a nurse widowed after just 6yrs of marriage with 3 children. after strugglin to make ends meet for about 2 yrs she left the children with a friends family, went to canada, by then the eldest child was 8 and could communicate by calls with her.She has come to carry all them now.she was away for about 2 1/2 yrs. it will be fine, thank God its your mum.The only thing keep reminding mum not to over pamper, and to. watch out for paedophile things. The world is a terrible place. it will be fine 1 Like |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by Nobody: 9:39am On Oct 21, 2014 |
Acidosis: I do get it. You however don't get it. You can't sit behind your computer and tell people how to prioritize just because someone who shares same opinion as you wrote an article. That article you quoted tell me, is it a peer review article? Is it best practice? In relationships what works for A might not work for B 1 Like |
Re: Does This Make Me A Bad Mother? by mutter(f): 10:33am On Nov 06, 2014 |
A hard price to pay. But i have seem many such cases. When you get there remain focused and try to get them over as soon as possible. Some women start having kid`s abroad and just leave the others in Nigeria and that would be bad. I wosh you all the best. As long as they are withyour mum they are in good hands. |
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