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| Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by lawlahbammy(f): 10:35am On Oct 24, 2014 |
One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview. The director discovered from his CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent. He asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "no". " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.” he replied. " Where did your mother work?" "My mother worked as clothes cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect. " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, my mother can wash clothes faster than me. The director said, "I have a request. When you go home today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning. The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back home, he asked his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son. The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother winced when he touched it. This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fees. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future. After cleaning his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, when he asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?" The youth answered," I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes' “I know now what appreciation is. Without my mother, I would not be who I am today. By helping my mother, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own. And I have come to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family. The director said, "This is what I am looking for in a manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.” “You are hired.” A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop an "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead? You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your child learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by EfemenaXY: 10:45am On Oct 24, 2014 |
Lovely post. Me likey.  1 Like |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by Nobody: 10:59am On Oct 24, 2014 |
Ehnnn na question before i get stoned to death. Why must the epitome of motherhood in every story be a suffering tired woman? Why cant it be one of a successful, smart and gifted woman? Must women suffer and suffer before they qualify and " sweet mother"? If a woman worked hard gave her kids a good life and still looked hawt and well is it a crime? What is wrong of not being a suffering mother in african context? The stories are always 2 extremes, the working qoman who abandoned her kids for work and suffered neglect in her old age and the old tired mother who sacrificed all for her kids. I get the sentiments of the story am just asking why the image of a good mother has to be one who must suffered and is worn. There are several great mothers who have never washed thier kids clothes or engaged in any manual labour for a single day yet have great grounded kids and a successful life with thier manicured nails and nice hair great clothes and hawt figures in their 60s and 70s look 40 why cant we ever celebrate these women? Why must it only be suffering women we celebrate? Must all women suffer and be worn out before they qualify as sweet mothers? 3 Likes |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by SAMBARRY: 10:59am On Oct 24, 2014 |
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| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by SAMBARRY: 11:02am On Oct 24, 2014 |
I TIRE MYSELF O AISHA SORRY TO EVEN DERAIL.WAS IT NOT THE KORANIK AISHA THAT WAS THE GIRLFRIEND OF MOHAMMED? NO BE YOU?  aisha2: |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by EfemenaXY: 11:04am On Oct 24, 2014 |
aisha2: Lol! I get where you're coming from. But I think the emphasis here is on appreciation. No one's perfect and I've certainly learnt a thing or two from it. Even if the woman in this story wasn't widowed and is as you described, that act of selflessly giving, to the point where the kids start taking things for granted / the world owes them something still comes into play, moreso if the parent(s) had a tough childhood whilst growing up... 4 Likes |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by Nobody: 11:09am On Oct 24, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: True lovely story great morals but my own na why must the image of a mother always be a suffer suffer one? Tu- sh moms no be sweet moms abi? |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by EfemenaXY: 11:24am On Oct 24, 2014 |
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| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by smartmom(f): 11:34am On Oct 24, 2014 |
This is so so beautiful and a needed lesson for ALL parents rich or poor to to teach our offspring. Sharing this in the www. nigerianparentsforum.com. 1 Like |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by slimyem: 11:46am On Oct 24, 2014 |
aisha2:Maybe because manual labour and/or "dirty" jobs is what is generally judged to be HARDWORK in our society and especially since it takes a toll on the body physically,it's easier to relate to and acknowledged.  |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by Nobody: 11:47am On Oct 24, 2014 |
It seems it gives some kind of pleasure when we see suffering women. I remember growing up men would wake up and throw their wifes ghana must go outside the women will be rolling on the floor and crying. She will call people to beg and beg. Then divorce was not evil but as soon as women started filing for divorce not waiting to be thrown out suing for custody and support then divorce became a feminist evil. Before women will suffet alone to raise their kids np support from the man they will grow old and die miserably while waiting for the man to " come back" it was fine and well then now when women get divorced, seem to be enjoying their lives and even remarry they are hells candidates Poster sorry for digressing. No more i promise |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by Nobody: 11:48am On Oct 24, 2014 |
slimyem: Ehnn so why is the image of a successful man quite different. He must be in suit with a big car? |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by slimyem: 11:55am On Oct 24, 2014 |
aisha2:I'd think you mean to say the image of a "hard-working" father -one who labored over his children as it a pointer in the original post. It really isn't any different. It is perceived the same way mostly. |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by lawlahbammy(f): 12:44pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
Aisha, I quite understand d points u trying to bring out. Well, as a matter of fact my self as d poster is neither married nor have a child but dis post is to bring out d family values in our children. Alright talking on d hardship painting dat was given to d woman in my story, d suppose man there is someone in his 20s if not 30s even. Some decades ago ao many women r educated or exposed? How many of dem focus on their own body as it is dis days?etc those days most women lived for their children so don't feel dis is a biased or sentimental based post. But in all I will want u to read and digest d 2nd to d last and d last paragraph cos dat d moral that I want us all to gain from my post. TGIF.......Have a great weekend! |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by perry2020(f): 1:42pm On Oct 24, 2014 |
lawlahbammy: 1 Like |
| Re: Teaching Our Children Family Values..... by lawlahbammy(f): 7:23pm On Oct 25, 2014 |
smartmom:Good |
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