I'd make sure my child knows it's natural, knows they got to set their own boundaries, and can come talk to me about concerns if they got any.

Really depending the age of the child honestly and where is it they done it (public x private, two different things).
Say a teen kid? It's really not my business to lecture one way or another.
A small child? A small child may need to know why this or that feels how it does. It's my responsibility as a parent to explain, just like I'd explain why them clouds in da skies.

Bible got no place in this, religion doesn't come before learning anatomy and self care correctly.

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

Lol.. Sorry bros but how sure are you that the so called priest you'll take him to is not a pedophile... Cos the rate at which we hear news of pedophile priests these days no be joke oh

BlackLeopard:
I'd make sure my child knows it's natural, knows they got to set their own boundaries, and can come talk to me about concerns if they got any.

Really depending the age of the child honestly and where is it they done it (public x private, two different things).
Say a teen kid? It's really not my business to lecture one way or another.
A small child? A small child may need to know why this or that feels how it does. It's my responsibility as a parent to explain, just like I'd explain why them clouds in da skies.

Bible got no place in this, religion doesn't come before learning anatomy and self care correctly.

Oh perfect... The most mature and reasonable comment so far.
Funny how most Nigerians have been mis-educated about mastubation. It's perfectly normal for a teenager to masturbate. Most of us did it while growing up. Research has it that mastubation is very healthy as long as it doesn't becomes an addiction. And by the way there's no connection between mastubation and homosexuality

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

Have you ever considered that if your child is smart enough, you will never catch him?

I may be too shocked to say anything at the very moment i discover but after getting myself i'd chastise such a child and if could enlighten him/her more on his/her sexuality. I don't pray that such should happen for real though.

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

lol! Undiluted Nigerian

who are all dis nairalanders dat said everybody masturbates? dats totally rubbish, i mean wat happen 2 cynthia,joy,jane, aunty rebecca,fumi,nneka,iya latifa, baliki e.t.c? wen i hav these ladies/women in my life then its no to masturbation.

ohaleoghene:




me just think the addiction part is worrisome. it might stop the child from developing other interest and will always want to be alone.

Enlightenment comes when u test higher authorities.

ohaleoghene:




while there are a lot of verses which speak on sexual immorality. getting girls isn't the solution. what happen to abstinence? what about helping such child to build a new interest ?

makes sense.

I'm not religious but I don't think these things will bother God.

rationally, mastubation may help a married spouse overcome the urge to commit adultery in dire situations when madam or oga is not around and body begin charge. lets not pretend like these things dont happen.

And in young people, Abstinence is a very expensive catholic Joke... research the epidemic of underage and out of wedlock pregnancies in the Philippines due to the State/Church's stand on premarital sex by outlawing abortions and not promoting the use of protections... The result is probably the worlds highest level of teenage pregnancy.

anyway, what i am saying is taking the biblical route instead of common sense when faced with social issues can lead to more serious problems.

absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, unless it becomes an addiction of some sort... same as overeating or excessive intake of alcohol.

this, self-service that you are talking about, isn't it masturbation?masturbation being a sin. teaching the child that's a sin, that he should stop it is the right thing to do. (even though after receiving some straight lashes if he is young). why did I say masturbation is a sin? because it's gingered by the lust of the flesh. moreover he is wasting lives, ie the sperm he is taking out of him and nevertheless, he's endangering his health.

softapple:
who are all dis nairalanders dat said everybody masturbates? dats totally rubbish, i mean wat happen 2 cynthia,joy,jane, aunty rebecca,fumi,nneka,iya latifa, baliki e.t.c? wen i hav these ladies/women in my life then its no to masturbation.

chairman is very wrong I tell you, if you take all of them where I go get my own na to marry?

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

i will simply walk away and scold the child jovially, referring to the act rubbish.
that he should occupy his mind on better things in life

show him/her the right way to do it

Trust me, its better for a guy to commit fornication dan to be a secret self servicer..... At least one is bein don in d open why d oda one is secret...and such people might be condemnin people who fornicate when they knw in thr hearts dey do d worst....

You really think Fornication is better than Masturbation? Wow!!!

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her, but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

So what is the danger of it if I may ask?

Masturbatíon is not bad in itself. But EVERY addiction is.[/quote]how will you taste a delicious meal without you wish to eat it again if opportunity presents...

I'd encourage him/her to continue until when him/her feels mature enough to switch lane....

wangdu:
this, self-service that you are talking about, isn't it masturbation?masturbation being a sin. teaching the child that's a sin, that he should stop it is the right thing to do. (even though after receiving some straight lashes if he is young). why did I say masturbation is a sin? because it's gingered by the lust of the flesh. moreover he is wasting lives, ie the sperm he is taking out of him and nevertheless, he's endangering his health.

i also thought about that but ion there is life yet in the sperm he Is ejaculating Cause not all sperms ejaculated into a woman's vagina survives

wangdu:


chairman is very wrong I tell you, if you take all of them where I go get my own na to marry?

ha ha ha ha ha ha broda im only occupying Nigeria, so u can take ghana.

Trust me, its better for a guy to commit fornication dan to be a secret self servicer..... At least one is bein don in d open why d oda one is secret...and such people might be condemnin people who fornicate when they knw in thr hearts dey do d worst....

then tell the child he can either do it himself or do it with someone else while telling him the beauty of sharing

If I walk up on him/her doing it
I will say gross and leave immediately
cause it's not my place to tell him to stop masturbating
It will be so damn awkward talking about masturbation with him

Educating!

BuddhaPalm:


There are no verses, in the bible, that talk about masturbatíon.

And on another note, sexuality is not immoral. Yes, there could be a state of excess - as with anything. So there should be moderation.

Even too much oxygen can kill you. Yes, oxygen.

Society has evolved to maintain order, so preaching abstinence and imposing sexúal restrictions on people is was a way to check kids from popping out babies with reckless abandon. And adults, from not causing too much strife by banging other people's spouses.

For the first reason, we now have something called condoms.

New interest you say? Lol.

Interest is such a weak word, really, to describe one's compulsion. It is called sex drive for a reason.

Here's what the dictionary says drive means: "urge or force (animals or people) to move in a specified direction", "an innate, biologically determined urge to attain a goal or satisfy a need."

Determined urge. Force. Innate.

Your son's sex drive is not a passing fancy. It is a force of nature, like gravity or magnetism, seeking expression. It cannot be wished away.

ChurchillStorm:

And here you are, the one without 'sin'. Bravo!

guy!I'm not righteous... dummy!

EfemenaXY:


Well, you're wrong.

hello ma...she's not wrong on this particular one....

ohaleoghene:
To me, I won't condemn him or her,but teach the danger of it to such a child,using bible principles ,informing the child how if the act not stopped ,might put s strain on his or her self esteem. I won't tell the child that doing it is abnormal. otherwise,he might begin to think he is abnormal. I will be shock though! what will be your own reaction?

join him... idiaat..beat the hell out of him

@OP, u have taken ur decision so i don't think u need advice again. He/she is ur child and for he/she to be doing that, it means u did it too.

WOW!!! Somebody just said fornication is better than m.asturbation. The way some people think baffles me...

show him these divine bible verses to meditate upon
Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies. [Song of Solomon 4:5]
I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour. [Song of Solomon 8:1
This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes. I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples; [Song of Solomon 7:7-8]0]
While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth forth the smell thereof. A bundle of myrrh is my well-beloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts. [Song of Solomon 1:12-13]
And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey: He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed. With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; [Proverbs 7:7-22]
Their children also shall be dashed to pieces before their eyes; their houses shall be spoiled, and their wives ravished. [Isaiah 13-15]
But all the women children, that have not known a man by lying with him, keep alive for yourselves. [Numbers 31:18]

Lol i will flog that demon out of him befor it destroys him..den i wil take him to see our priest and tell the reverend father to advice him on the dangers of such...den after dat, he wil go for confession and confess it.... Den i wil ask him to open up to me as to what made him to be doin dat.... Wether its pressure, or him bein to shy to talk to girls.. Or wether he has ths crush for reading porn...

After the aforementioned you expect the child to open up abi?