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Re : Man Is Not The Head Of The Family / Men Are NOT The HEAD Of The Family! Read My Reason! / Why Is The Man The Head Of The Family? (2) (3) (4)
Re: Head Of The Family by AlienSPY: 11:01pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Head of family is the MAN that married a woman to start his own family unit. This is not a responsibility status, it is a natural phenomenon. Nature dictate it, God approves it. MAN is the head of the family...Take it to the moon and back, it remains. 2 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by damiso(f): 11:18pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
Stillfire: I can't speak for All african men naa That's why I said its individual family individual thing. I try not to stereotype though(its hard sha I won't lie) but there are african men who are not egocentric. Besides not all African Men are Christians.I see it from the Christian view but not only Christians see men as the head of the family. In a way its that pervasive culture of Authority meaning subjugation and this is not just husband wife relationship. Its madam- house help or driver, its teacher- student boss- subordinate even elected official feels he can subjugate those he is elected to serve.Some pastors sef If we imbibe that thought that when I lead or hold authority its not an avenue to lord it over people I think things might be a bit better. |
Re: Head Of The Family by bukatyne(f): 10:05am On Nov 13, 2014 |
Nice Thread I have never really understood 'a man makes the final decisions' etc. because I look at it practically. @Chillisauce and damiso, nice one 2 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by bukatyne(f): 10:10am On Nov 13, 2014 |
damiso: I always thought that is how it should be Sometimes, NL makes it easier to be a Christian than to be a wife |
Re: Head Of The Family by Stillfire: 12:47pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
damiso: Ok let me paraphrase do African christian men imbibe the exceptional qualities of Jesus Christ? We can say some men are not egocentric, but reality shows men even evident on NL crying always for their egos to be kissed be it christian or animist. The word head defined by attaining the qualities of Jesus Christ is a biblical construct. African culture/religion practices something else not headship. Those who are not christians better choose something else to call themselves. Maybe oga! Those who choose to be called heads must exhibit the qualities of Jesus Christ. On the other hand, do you think there's more emphasis on female submission than teaching the qualities of Jesus Christ to men in churches today? 4 Likes |
Re: Head Of The Family by bukatyne(f): 12:58pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
Stillfire: It is more of a societal stuff Muslims complain of the same too Let's say mixing religion with culture never produce good results |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 1:41pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
First of all,in my home,by defacto I assume it's the hubster.Fortunately,he has a great head on his shoulders and is calm..I can be very temperamental and this sometimes affects my judgement ,so when my blood is boiling he takes over cos i know whatever i decide at that moment may lead to disaster. How would you explain to someone who comes from another planet what the head of the family is? Head of the family is the person who leads the rat pack..whose moral and intellectual behavior are scruitinised at all times..someone who must not be a hypocrite so as not to lead the others astray.Must be humble and a servant to the followers I know for sure that it's not sitting on a couch like a sack of beans and expecting to be served day and night or snoring into my ears like an ox. - Which responsibilities / duties and privileges does it entail in your opinion? In my home,it's a cross,a huuuge responsibility.Head of the family carries the heavier bags.When we are staying at a hotel,head of the family has to hunt (go and buy)for food for the pack. Ofcourse if fire is burning,the head of the family is required to wait for other members to get to safety before saving himself. Also jump infront of and take bullets for the rest if such a case arises. - What makes the person different from other family members? Nothing much,just that you know your life is more endangered than others if duty calls.Yeah and you eat the drumstick,while i eat the thigh. - In which situations specifically would the head have to make the final decision? When we are lost and needing directions,he's good with maps.I do the planning,he executes.It's a symbiotic relationship,we have different strengths. Generally before any major decisions are made,we have to discuss it in order to avoid unnecessary friction and arrive at a compromise. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 2:16pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
First of all,in my home,by defacto I assume it's the hubster.Fortunately,he has a great head on his shoulders and is calm..I can be very temperamental and this sometimes affects my judgement ,so when my blood is boiling he takes over cos i know whatever i decide at that moment may lead to disaster. How would you explain to someone who comes from another planet what the head of the family is? Head of the family is the person who leads the rat pack..whose moral and intellectual behavior are scruitinised at all times..someone who must not be a hypocrite so as not to lead the others astray.Must be humble and a servant to the followers I know for sure that it's not sitting on a couch like a sack of beans and expecting to be served day and night or snoring into my ears like an ox. - Which responsibilities / duties and privileges does it entail in your opinion? In my home,it's a cross,a huuuge responsibility.Head of the family carries the heavier bags.When we are staying at a hotel,head of the family has to hunt (go and buy)for food for the pack. Ofcourse if fire is burning,the head of the family is required to wait for other members to get to safety before saving himself. Also jump infront of and take bullets for the rest if such a case arises. - What makes the person different from other family members? Nothing much,just that you know your life is more endangered than others if duty calls.Yeah and you eat the drumstick,while i eat the thigh. - In which situations specifically would the head have to make the final decision? When we are lost and needing directions,he's good with maps.I do the planning,he executes.It's a symbiotic relationship,we have different strengths and we pool these together for the good of the family. Generally before any major decisions are made,we discuss it in order to avoid unnecessary friction and arrive at a compromise. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 4:21pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
damiso: They were similar and yet quite different. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 4:25pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
hispinkolo: Thanks, this was very insightful. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 4:45pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
I see very few answers from men. Aren't more men able to answer these questions? Don't they know what it means to be the head of the family? |
Re: Head Of The Family by barapistis(m): 7:32pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
damiso: |
Re: Head Of The Family by barapistis(m): 7:37pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
quote author=carefreewannabe post=27961144] It would be interesting if you answered my questions. [/quote] every other answers ....you get in the myles books really your questions are lame aint you a queen |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 4:40am On Jan 15, 2015 |
First of all,in my home,by defacto I assume it's the hubster.Fortunately,he has a great head on his shoulders and is calm..I can be very temperamental and this sometimes affects my judgement ,so when my blood is boiling he takes over cos i know whatever i decide at that moment may lead to disaster.You have said it all. I think a responsible husband and father is unarguably the head of the family. |
Re: Head Of The Family by Nobody: 6:11am On Jan 15, 2015 |
softysparky: Ehen.. Who be the yansh of the family? |
Re: Head Of The Family by dinachi(m): 6:50am On Jan 15, 2015 |
No man worth his salt will waste his time on this thread knowing full well that it was primarily set up by feminists and lesbians to challenge and disparage the authority of a husband in the house.You pretend you don't know what a head of the home entails. Didn't you have a father while growing up? What was his role? Hypocrites everywhere! I am outta here. 5 Likes |
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