I really find it worrisome when people oppose others' choice of spouse. It's really sad.

I knew how some of my relatives initially oppose my wife. All manner of selfish and narrow reasons where brought forward. I was really passed off. The worse is, it's even our sisters that make matters worse. My brothers never had any issues with my choice. They believed I was making the best choice. My elder sister was a serious stumbling block.

It's inconceivable why I won't be comfortable with anothe person's decision about whom to get married to. If I do, I must give very cogent and compelling reasons. Even at that, I will only pass it off as an advice to my brother or sister that's getting married.

Some people just can't allow others to live their lives. This is wrong!

Why do people usually oppose others' choice of spouse? The convincing when I give my people no be small!!!!

Its Because every one has his or her own taste.

Instead of you to ask them why they are opposing. you came yer to complain. adonbilivit

Teempakguy:
Instead of you to ask them why they are opposing. you came yer to complain. adonbilivit

Dear, most of them do get good reasons. I have experience.

lets talk about this issue, am passing through it right now

Fantastic observation! Well let me outline a few reasons.

One, they are more rational than you in the particular circumstance. While your judgment has been beclouded and flawed by sexual and emotional fog, it isn't so with them.

Two, if the marriage turns out to be a disaster, they would be the ones to clean up your mess and carry your baggage. Nobody wants to be burdened in the future.

Three, they love you. They fear that they might 'lose' you to a possessive spouse, which is a possibility.

Four, where you are the breadwinner, everyone would show inordinate interest in your choice of spouse. Everyone would fight hard to make sure you do not go with a spouse that shows a tendency to cut them off from your feeding straw.

Five, the world is a community. You just cannot be an island! It's inborn in everyone to want to influence the decisions of others whether selfishly driven or otherwise.

It's a huge mistake to totally ignore observations of your loved ones concerning your choice of partner. Don't try to shut everyone out of your decision-making in this respect. If you do, you will regret it! I have a handful of married people suffering in marriage presently because they chose to decide alone by silencing all disagreeing voices. It's a heap of ruins they are immersed it now.

Of course the final decision rests upon you, but let others tell you what they see about it. A preacher friend of mine complains to me about his wife all the time. He regrets now that he didn't listen to his family when they told him how the woman would be a pain to him later in life. Today he comes to me anytime he needs solace and soothing words of comfort. He can't complain to any member of his own family about his marital ordeal.

Don't ascribe to yourself the role of the wisest man/woman in your family. Hear others out, your salvation could be wrapped up like akara in their 'silly' advice.

mastermaestro:
Fantastic observation! Well let me outline a few reasons.

One, they are more rational than you in the particular circumstance. While your judgment has been beclouded and flawed by sexual and emotional fog, it isn't so with them.

Two, if the marriage turns out to be a disaster, they would be the ones to clean up your mess and carry your baggage. Nobody wants to be burdened in the future.

Three, they love you. They fear that they might 'lose' you to a possessive spouse, which is a possibility.

Four, where you are the breadwinner, everyone would show inordinate interest in your choice of spouse. Everyone would fight hard to make sure you do not go with a spouse that shows a tendency to cut them off from your feeding straw.

Five, the world is a community. You just cannot be an island! It's inborn in everyone to want to influence the decisions of others whether selfishly driven or otherwise.

six...they hate the lady!!!