I have always bin of the opinion that if I were a lady, I won't just marry because our culture sees no life for its ladies outside marriage. Though our culture is such that truly allows and provides for long lasting marriage, it in many ways put our ladies under pressure, as such, they succumb to just any man. Given that once out of marriage(through divorce or simple separation) getting married again is a toll order given the mind set of the typical African man, it is therefore paramount that measures should be taken to avoid regrets.
Hence, I tot it wise to gather these facts obtained through interaction while Nigerian men get into marriage:

1- I have made money syndrome. This is seen amongst young promising men who feel they should have an 'Oriaku' to spend on.

2- Am of age. Funny enof people still sponsor other people's marriage because they feel he should have a wife considering his age. Most often however, men are cajoled into marriage becos of their age and some, to avoid this would rather do the presumed needful.

3- I need a cook. After all, women's education ends in kitchen. Beware, the bulk of people in this category are wife beaters.

4- Mark of manliness. Who says marriage is synonymous with manliness

5- Financial security. If you are a lady who is established or has potentials, beware you may fall for this. Most men marry doctors, nurses, lawyers etc for what they can get financially.

6- Bear children to continue linage(if there is anything like that). What is the guarantee that you or the man is fertile enof to start producing immediately? Beware of mother-in-law sickness.

7- To curtail promiscuity. Brother, if you are promiscuous before marriage, are you sure u're gonna stop once married? Prayer is the way out.

8- Old age security! Young wives versus old men. Wonder why you women marry men thrice their age?? Nigerian men are truly wise.

Finally, marriage is an institution installed by our creator. Reasons as to entering this should be genuine and all encompassing. I there urge you to seek Him diligently for he has the answers.
I rep Naija

'Some Nigerian men'

Don't worry some people are on their way




let them come back from school

Op, you have nailed it. I'm always of the opinion that ladies try to find out reasons why their partners want to get married. One of the worst reasons to marry is to fulfill all righteousness. ladies, stay away from men with such mentality. Also stay away from men who believe women in general are only good for baby making and s.ex. such men have a horrible history with women.

Unfortunately, judging by how much nigerian ladies breathe marriage like oxygen, these things would not matter to them until after marriage when they start to face all sorts of horrible surprises and start sending stories that touch to social media.

Sophy some people will soon be enraged by your post



watch out

Sophyrocks:
Op, you have nailed it. I'm always of the opinion that ladies try to find out reasons why their partners want to get married. One of the worst reasons to marry is to fulfill all righteousness. ladies, stay away from men with such mentality. Also stay away from men who believe women in general are only good for baby making and s.ex. such men have a horrible history with women.

Unfortunately, judging by how much nigerian ladies breathe marriage like oxygen, these things would not matter to them until after marriage when they start to face all sorts of horrible surprises and start sending stories that touch to social media.

OK I didn't school in France,but as an Igbo man some of the things u mention are part and parcel of marriage in our culture,after stating a problem tell us a solution,WHAT IS THE BEST REASON FOR GETTING MARRIED?

SAMBARRY:
Sophy some people will soon be enraged by your post



watch out

It means such people are as guilty as charged. I even met one who has this mentality in a thread and im sure he will soon be here to quote me. He is my bodyguard. He follows me wherever i go to quote me. aint that lovely?

The Op has stated the sad bitter truth. Since hypocrisy is the oxygen of nigerians, a lot of guilty people would be outraged. I am glad this post is coming from a Man not a woman.

so so true, especially the 'I need a cook' and 'bear children' yet they rant if they think a woman wants to marry them for money.

dont do unto others what you don't want them to do to you

sometimes this sort of thing could be difficult to find out as the mind of a human is farther than heaven. they tell u what they want u to know

its unfortunate that these mentalities trends among our naija guys. we don't have to wonder why a lots of home are not in peace

True that....like seriously who is gonna argue about this?

Nothing despicable about this bro. Marriage is nothing but a market where two or more people come together to trade desires and is often regulated by the government. Those are the men's desires and ladies barely have anything else to sell. Women have their desires too. So, if you don't have anything to trade, don't venture into the market.

They will call the man woman wrapper

Sophyrocks:


It means such people are as guilty as charged. I even met one who has this mentality in a thread and im sure he will soon be here to quote me. He is my bodyguard. He follows me wherever i go to quote me. aint that lovely?

The Op has stated the sad bitter truth. Since hypocrisy is the oxygen of nigerians, a lot of guilty people would be outraged. I am glad this post is coming from a Man not a woman.

SAMBARRY:
They will call the man woman wrapper

Or pvssy hunter or panty snifer.

MegMich:
I have always bin of the opinion that if I were a lady, I won't just marry because our culture sees no life for its ladies outside marriage. Though our culture is such that truly allows and provides for long lasting marriage, it in many ways put our ladies under pressure, as such, they succumb to just any man. Given that once out of marriage(through divorce or simple separation) getting married again is a toll order given the mind set of the typical African man, it is therefore paramount that measures should be taken to avoid regrets.
Hence, I tot it wise to gather these facts obtained through interaction while Nigerian men get into marriage:

1- I have made money syndrome. This is seen amongst young promising men who feel they should have an 'Oriaku' to spend on.

2- Am of age. Funny enof people still sponsor other people's marriage because they feel he should have a wife considering his age. Most often however, men are cajoled into marriage becos of their age and some, to avoid this would rather do the presumed needful.

3- I need a cook. After all, women's education ends in kitchen. Beware, the bulk of people in this category are wife beaters.

4- Mark of manliness. Who says marriage is synonymous with manliness

5- Financial security. If you are a lady who is established or has potentials, beware you may fall for this. Most men marry doctors, nurses, lawyers etc for what they can get financially.

6- Bear children to continue linage(if there is anything like that). What is the guarantee that you or the man is fertile enof to start producing immediately? Beware of mother-in-law sickness.

7- To curtail promiscuity. Brother, if you are promiscuous before marriage, are you sure u're gonna stop once married? Prayer is the way out.

8- Old age security! Young wives versus old men. Wonder why you women marry men thrice their age?? Nigerian men are truly wise.

Finally, marriage is an institution installed by our creator. Reasons as to entering this should be genuine and all encompassing. I there urge you to seek Him diligently for he has the answers.
I rep Naija

If these are the 'despicable' reasons for getting into marriage, what then is/are the good and 'not despicable' reason(s)?

Love?

@op, to everything we do in this life, there is a reason. Why did you go to school or choose the career you are in today? it is because of one thing or the other. And mind you, I see nothing wrong with the reasons you posted? do you know the reasons why some ladies get married?? no you don't. And a man without reason is a man without vision/mission. If you ask most ladies why they got married, they would tell cuz they don't want to be stigmatized by the society including their family. What's the essence of a tree that does not produce fruit? my advice to ladies out there. Once you are sure of the man you want to marry and he proposes, do yourself a favor by accepting. Some of the ladies you see on NL spewing jargons about men are simply bitter women who have had failed relationships due to their own doings.

SAMBARRY:
Sophy some people will soon be enraged by your post



watch out

yes o, they are coming. Make I buy chewing stick come. Keep space for me

avuekwe:
yes o, they are coming. Make I buy chewing stick come. Keep space for me

before nko. Idon bookspace for you and I don pprepare food join sef so when you are ready let me know

SAMBARRY:
before nko. Idon bookspace for you and I don pprepare food join sef so when you are ready let me know

Thanks dear, but first lets start with the chewing stick before the food# passes him one stick#.