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How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 12:06pm On Dec 11, 2014
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Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:13pm On Dec 11, 2014
Hmmm..I think u been stubborn while seeking their respect..
A u av to do is find ursef a little job and start planning how to stay on ur own..they probably tired of seeing y around without been busy..when u settled,the respect will come baq gradually..go to d Job section abi vacancy threads and post smtin like this..sm1 myt help..

Be strong man..d world ain't an easy place
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:14pm On Dec 11, 2014
Brito ..I see u ..lolzz
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Diffdeef(m): 12:17pm On Dec 11, 2014
You have met the love of your life and you want to settle down? Asin...you wan marry?
Re: How Do I Get Out? by kristonium(m): 12:17pm On Dec 11, 2014
brother!
stop looking for a job!
create one!
opportunities abound everywhere!
why not start selling and buying..buy some items like phones,tablets,ipads and resell!
by all means do something!
u dont have to start big!
start small!
Go now!
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:20pm On Dec 11, 2014
SuperMartins:
Brito ..I see u ..lolzz



I know. The guy want to marry without a job
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:21pm On Dec 11, 2014
Diffdeef:
You have met the love of your life and you want to settle down? Asin...you wan marry?




Free the guy abeg, what's wrong if he want to marry
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:22pm On Dec 11, 2014
brito:




I know. The guy want to marry without a job
u no go blame am naa..Life cheat some people..all fingers no fit equal..we just gats pray for him success..
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Dec 11, 2014
sad
It's a pity
this is what our dear country offers us...

I would suggest you get something to do even if it not going to be bringing in millions but you would go out in the mornings and come back at night...

Don't despise these days,it's only a foundation into becoming a tycoon.

That you've already found your better half should be a bonus at least she would be standing by and supporting you...
Going into marriage now is gonna be extremely tough..
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Curiouscat: 12:26pm On Dec 11, 2014
Bro... you know what they say about overstaying your welcome?? Yeah!! that is it. Go out there and find something doing and the desired respect will come by default. Its not always easy i know,but you just make up your mind and leave that comfort zone. Start doing something,no matter how small.
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:28pm On Dec 11, 2014
SuperMartins:
u no go blame am naa..Life cheat some people..all fingers no fit equal..we just gats pray for him success..





I pray he get a job before the end of this month

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:30pm On Dec 11, 2014
brito:





I pray he finds a job before the end of this month
Amen ..
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 12:34pm On Dec 11, 2014
SuperMartins:
Amen ..

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by dre11(m): 12:53pm On Dec 11, 2014
Get a job
Create a job








And all other things will fall into places
That's just the magic
Re: How Do I Get Out? by thorpido(m): 12:58pm On Dec 11, 2014
Like some people above me have said,try to create something.It's not about getting a job in a particular office,it's more about creativity nowadays.
How much helping out do you do in your house?You can't expect to live with your parents and not take up chores.I'm sure if you were doing much around the house your parents wouldn't complain.

The question of settling down next year depends on when you are able to secure a source of income.I think you should concentrate more on that.
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 2:05pm On Dec 11, 2014
brito:





I pray he get a job before the end of this month
thanks
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 2:10pm On Dec 11, 2014
Mmmmmmm
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 2:12pm On Dec 11, 2014
Curiouscat:
Bro... you know what they say about overstaying your welcome?? Yeah!! that is it. Go out there and find something doing and the desired respect will come by default. Its not always easy i know,but you just make up your mind and leave that comfort zone. Start doing something,no matter how small.
I get ur point my brother... am considering going into porn sef.... embarassed
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Goldenboy007(m): 2:20pm On Dec 11, 2014
First point!!! Most of us that are working today went through all what you said, so I will tell you..this too shall pass.
Parents are frustrated when they see the child they spent so much to educate become unproductive..i can't blame you and I can't blame them..its Nigeria! Don't worry keep up the search, you will get a job soon and their attitude will change! Avoid sitting at home most times, find somewhere to go..even an unpaid job,it gives them the feelings that you are putting effort! Don't move out without funds, you will regret it o!
Point 2 - Forget about marriage or any form of commitments without money! Walahi,hugs and kisses won't pay the bills! Your case would be worse off if you bring a woman into your predicament!
Re: How Do I Get Out? by thorpido(m): 2:45pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:

That's the part that relly gets me annoyed. I do practically everything they wnt. Infact at times when I wanna travel to go see my fiance my daad will tell me he h's one occasion to attend I have to drive him to or my mother remembers she wants to go to market and I have to carry bag and follow her while she buys foodstuffs. Infact the building my dad just finished building I supervised it till completion and most times I even carry cement and help out. What more do u want from a loyal child? I don't listen when people insult me that after travelling out I came home and don't have a job.. emotionally I am about to commit suicide..
I guess your parents are frustrated with the fact that after all they have done to put you through school,you can't get a job and be on your own.
Just take this as a passing phase and keep hope alive.Quite a number of people have been through and are going through this phase.
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 3:26pm On Dec 11, 2014
Hjkl
Re: How Do I Get Out? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Dec 11, 2014
Did I hear say you want to marry?

Guy,if you marry without a job,your wife too will disrespect you.

So its your choice to determine the preferable disrespect from your parent,and your wife..

Hope you no dey do yanga for some jobs sha?

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by Goldenboy007(m): 3:43pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:
with this situation of Nigeria tell me how that is a fault of mine? I have searched. I am trying not ma fault.. really na to run comot naija.. what I don't get is why should the frustration be directed towards me..

Also..you sound young and restless...then always know that you will never get a second chance to give a first impression..why is your username DickofLife? Little things matters a lot in this race of life..pay attention to details. What if there is someone on Naira land willing to help you? DickofLife? Be diligent young man!!! Make good use of every opportunity! I am talking from experience!
Re: How Do I Get Out? by 2goodbobo(m): 4:00pm On Dec 11, 2014
Bro if you want them to respect you, the best thing is to move out of the house and get your own place no matter how small.
Dey don see you finish that is y.

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 4:25pm On Dec 11, 2014
Goldenboy007:


Also..you sound young and restless...then always know that you will never get a second chance to give a first impression..why is your username DickofLife? Little things matters a lot in this race of life..pay attention to details. What if there is someone on Naira land willing to help you? DickofLife? Be diligent young man!!! Make good use of every opportunity! I am talking from experience!
Lols.. well you have a point but young Aand restless? Lols... don't worry wen u get in my shoes age will not be a matter to you.
Re: How Do I Get Out? by thorpido(m): 4:53pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:
with this situation of Nigeria tell me how that is a fault of mine? I have searched. I am trying not ma fault.. really na to run comot naija.. what I don't get is why should the frustration be directed towards me..
I'm not blaming you for the current unemployment.Things are tough in the country.
If I may ask,whose idea was it to go abroad for studies?Who sponsored it?Did you make the choice to come back after your studies and why?
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 5:14pm On Dec 11, 2014
Aiye o
Re: How Do I Get Out? by thorpido(m): 5:36pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:

It was my idea.. I sponsored it cus I was working with a big company before. 60 percent of the cash came from me while they paid the rest. My mum insisted I come home cus my friends and cousins told her I wanted to marry aa white girl... I accepted nd came home before the end of my programme to search for a job... now I expected they would be patient even if it takes donkey years. I finished the first year of my programme. A language programme.. as I told you I studied mass comm so I decided to study a foreign language so I could get worldwide acceptability cus I wanted to emigrate permanently without having to marry for green card or that shit. So you see why I feel bad. I could have stayed back in moscow and at least get a job as a translator for English rather I chose to come home cus am the only son of the family and first.
Well I don't think you being home is a bad idea after all.You will need a lot of patience.
Just keep being on the lookout for opportunities.Have you tried embassies?
Re: How Do I Get Out? by dickoflife(m): 5:44pm On Dec 11, 2014
thorpido:
Well I don't think you being home is a bad idea after all.You will need a lot of patience.
Just keep being on the lookout for opportunities.Have you tried embassies?
embassies are sorta booked up.. I have been home since April 19, 2013 so I guess I have been patient alot.
Re: How Do I Get Out? by thorpido(m): 6:37pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:
embassies are sorta booked up.. I have been home since April 19, 2013 so I guess I have been patient alot.
One think I can tell you.........keep hope alive.

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by Goldenboy007(m): 7:15pm On Dec 11, 2014
dickoflife:

Lols.. well you have a point but young Aand restless? Lols... don't worry wen u get in my shoes age will not be a matter to you.

I have been in your shoes some years ago and I understand what you are going through. Endure it for now, it's not permanent. There was even a time I thought I won't ever get a job..i will drive my mum to the market, go grind pepper, even wash plates for my younger siblings because they go to school and I am at home. Then it was everyday war with my mother because I thought she doesn't respect me; a whole graduate! When you get to their stage you will understand. When you start sponsoring your younger ones and they finish school without work...you go everyday to work and come back dog tired to meet them watching TV at home,your food empty!!! Looooool, then you will understand transferred aggression!

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Re: How Do I Get Out? by Curiouscat: 12:43am On Dec 15, 2014
Did you get my mail?
dickoflife:

I get ur point my brother... am considering going into porn sef.... embarassed

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