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Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by corisande: 7:31am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by StanleyDivine(m): 7:48am On Jan 13, 2015 |
baby124: I'll excuse the subtle insult and feminist reasoning. What "bad behaviour" or "mental illness" could have led to this after about 5 years of dating? We lived together for about 2 years before the proposal and the parents had about a complete year to find out all they could about me. The marriage was approved and blessed by the parents, only for them to make a u-turn just few hours after the event. I brought this to the public domain to seek for advise and solution from experienced and mature minds, after internal ADR has failed. Tanx. 3 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by ifyalways(f): 8:24am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Well, strange as it may be but if the lady says she don't want you no more, there's nothing you can do about it. Worst case scenario, ask for a return of bride price and move on. Sorry! 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by StanleyDivine(m): 8:48am On Jan 13, 2015 |
ifyalways: Ify, is it that simple? How would you feel if after your trad wedding your husband refuses to take you home, and worst still tells you it's over right there in your father's compound? |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by ifyalways(f): 8:58am On Jan 13, 2015 |
StanleyDivine:Nna, I didn't say twas easy but what else will you do? I want to believe the Lady gave you one or two reasons she don't want the marriage anymore. Pleading with her to come back would be counter productive as she would resent and frustrate you if she does. Rejection is not easy to deal with but you must move on. Gini ka I choziri ime 5 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by eclectic7: 10:43am On Jan 13, 2015 |
3 years ago you @Stanley you said your girlfriend dumped you when you couldn't find a job after school only to resurface when you got a job, my man, I hope this is not one and the same girl cuz if it is, you dug your grave, if it is not, then maybe you have a bad choice in women, not to beat yourself up, get a refund of your bride-price, if she say she nor want again, and move on with your life, there are many fishes in the sea that are good for you, also I think you dodged a bullet here. We don't know all the details tho if you elucidate, more advise might be proffered 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by baby124: 12:33pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
StanleyDivine:They will not prevent you from taking her home without her consent and without giving you the reason why. You know exactly why they changed their minds, so you don't need to come online to demand for a wife, in fact it will make them hardened. Feminist what? I now see why you are where you are. No insult at all, but you don't have to be forceful or a certain type of way to be a man. See you are even manipulating and disgracing the girl after the break up. To force her back whether she is happy or not. I suggest you collect your bride price, learn from this and drop all this behavior . Life na jeje and rejection happens to everyone 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 12:59pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Op, go and collect your bride price back with 13% increase per annum. If she doesn't want again, there is nothing you can do. Hopefully you will find your missing ribs 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
na wao, wonders shall never end....... |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by nefertiitii: 8:54pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Haaa this one is strong ohh |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by IDEApro(m): 11:51pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
baby124: You are just stu.pid 3 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by baby124: 2:03am On Jan 14, 2015 |
IDEApro:Just like your mother is stup*pid 4 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Amhappy(f): 8:15am On Jan 14, 2015 |
OP take your people to go and meet your inlaws and clear things up. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by freecocoa(f): 8:20am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Is this story for real or what? Why did she say she's no longer interested? How does bringing on NL help? Is she a Nlander? Hian o. 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Femsyn(m): 11:20am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Premise: You dated for about 5years. 3 years ago you posted this. StanleyDivine: First Response ednut1: Another Response greedie1: Conclusion: Like someone said, you dug your own grave!!! Lesson: Never ever convince or coersce someone into marrying you, it MUST be done willingly. Solution: Move on, what will be, will be. Afterall you havent legalised the marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by IDEApro(m): 10:05pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
baby124: Whoever like this post is a witch. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by IDEApro(m): 10:06pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
baby124: Whoever liked this post is a witch. 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by shitshappen(m): 10:58pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
I will only talk again when he is willing to talk, like I said before and this time I am serious. Bros they discovered something sinister about and acted promptly. Or you cajoled them into allowing the marriage happen in the first place. Which ever way bros you saw it coming, learn from my moniker. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Jan 15, 2015 |
baby124: 2 Likes |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by StanleyDivine(m): 1:39pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
shitshappen: Your assumptions baffle logic. I ve known her for 4yrs + and I lived with her for almost 2yrs. The parents had a year to find at whateva "sinister" u assumed before approving the wedding. How then did u come to the conclusion that they acted promptly? Could u please explain how I cud ve cajoled them into allowing the marriage? Problem started when my father-in-law, after the wedding, asked me to sleep-over in his place against the tradition of going home with my wife and my people refused to concede. He flared up,locked up my wife and has been insisting on calling off the union. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by pickabeau1: 1:44pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
So whats your plan of action Do you want to call off the union as the family has been stubborn on this action StanleyDivine: |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by digitsolution: 1:48pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
Can this be real?
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Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
StanleyDivine: So your wife has been kidnapped by her parents? does she have a cordial relationship with her parents? I don't understand how she can be so passive and not attempt an escape or try to reach out to you to let you know what is really going on. 1 Like |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by StanleyDivine(m): 10:19pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
andromida: Kidnapped? That I can't say. Cordial relationship? Yes. Infact she said she has been threatened to be disowned if she attempts that move. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by marcjane(f): 3:40am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Following. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Ewuro4: 9:40am On Jan 27, 2015 |
This is serious. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 3:55pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
StanleyDivine: Bros, was that what really happened? Did she dump u after the trad wedding? That's mean. Just get urself together and move on. But hope she didn't find out u had other secret babes just before ur wedding and had to play along with u so that the trad weddin will go on and so u won't be embarrassed cos of the plenty invited guest? |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
eclectic7: Just saw the story where his babe dumped him when he had no job and came back again in 2012. I'm sure she must be the one. OP, if she's the one then it was ur fault for allowing such to happen. Any lady that leaves u anytime in ur life when things are not smooth does not deserve a second chance. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 4:03pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
Femsyn:the OP really messed up big time. No wonder her look on the second pix was mean. Like I go show this guy pepper and she actually did. OP pls forget her and move on. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 4:05pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
baby124:na man go still marry this one o. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by Nobody: 4:08pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
StanleyDivine:are u married to ur father inlaw? Why will u sleep at his place? Get the police and lock him up for scamming you and allowin u pay bride price money without the bride. |
Re: Dear In-laws, Where's My WIFE? by shitshappen(m): 7:01pm On Jan 28, 2015 |
StanleyDivine: Finally the cat left your tongue. Father in-law insists groom stays back after traditional marriage. Groom refuses, father in-law gets infuriated grabs brides and locks her up in the dungeon of the castle. Bride willingly goes with father. Bros is her name Fiona, or Berbie? Stop handing us half truths. Speak or remain silent. 2 Likes |
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