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Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by ihedinobi2: 12:44pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
TV01:I think I see your point. Start with it nau. I've been thinking along those lines for a while now. I think it'll make a good start. |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by bellong: 1:15pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
mos123: Bros, this lady will end up giving you what is called High Blood Pressure if you end up marrying her. You don't have the guts and wits to handle this type of lady. You are a square peg in her round hole. The pregnancy isn't yours, the church excuse is only to keep you shut. Call off the relationship completely. Let the two parties count their losses and gains and move on with life. My advice, get a gut. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by mutter(f): 3:30pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
mos123: This girl was cheating on you. That is hard but we do know that with the situation in Nigeria today, in fact it even happens in some European countries- students are forced into a form of prostitution to fend for themselves. So I am very careful about outright condemning the girls. If the soul is left in darkness, sins will be committed. The guilty one is not he who commits the sin, but the one who causes the darkness. ― Victor Hugo, Les Misérables So basically I blame the politicians and others that made Nigeria what it is today. She aborted without telling you- that is her right as an unmarried woman. Pregnancy before marriage is hard on the girl and has long term consequences. The most important thing is that you FORGAVE her and went on to plan marriage. The sad thing is that you never really forgave her. You just never realized it that you do not have a big enough heart to forgive and forget. Let me tell you allot of men even husbands of so called virgins are or were in the same position as you. They just did not come on the forum crying. Be a man and stand to your bride. What counts is that she has changed drastically and she promised to change and you granted her that chance. So what is confusing you now? I have seen allot of things in my life. So called virgins that turn out to be a nightmare in marriage. Then again women that have even once been in prostitution that turned out to be the most humble and loving wife`s. Forgiving her and starting a life with her shows character and that you are a real man. Don`T mind some men here that have Ego issues. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by dBard: 4:03pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
chaircover: seconded, thirded, fourthed....n all d 'eds that follow. in the words of Chris Rock, kick that bitch to the curb n move on. p.s..the pregnancy wasn't yours.. |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by dBard: 4:10pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
mutter: O.k... nice advice. Dude, if u end up marrying that girl, I'll personally fly there,or with any other NLander that wants to come along, search u out, n whoop ur dumb ass till am personally satisfied/fatigued for being inexcusably stupid. Haha!!! |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by LordReed(m): 4:46pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
mos123: You can't live by only what she wants, I mean someone who can cheat on you is not exactly looking out for your best interests, you better think this through very well. If you feel the need to take a pause or even leave her for good do it, marriage is not a place for revenge cheating. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by 2goodbobo(m): 6:34pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
Why go into something you already have the plan to make her pay for what she did to you? Is pointless marrying her because you will always think of what she did to you and that will surely affect your love for thereby leading to a loveless Marriage. If you want a relatively happy Marriage, then get married to someone you love genuinely and not someone you have an unforgivable personal vendetta. |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by cococandy(f): 10:08pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
You don't even love her anymore. Why punish yourself getting married just because your wedding plans are advanced and you can't call it off. So you're just getting married to save face? You shouldn't even have let things get to that stage since you knew you had so much angst against her in your mind. How do you know she agreed to marry you for love? Maybe you're a means to an end for her in certain ways. Is that what you want for yourself? how do you intend to pay her back in her own coin? Cheating on her ? Lol. Dude that's messed up as you would end up hurting yourself and not her. You don't cut off the ear to spite the head. If she's marrying you for her own selfish reason cheating on her as revenge for what she did to you in the past and what she will probably still do in the near present won't make a difference to her. Just your loss all round. Sorry it is true. If you're sure she's sincere in her promise to change then good for you. If you're not sure about her sincerity, then pls pause and make sure you know what you're doing before you cuff yourself to her but don't enter the marriage with this mindset.. |
Re: I Need Advice Urgently Before Doing Something Crazy. by soulglo: 11:09pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
You are too unstable to get married. Are you even sure she knows you guys are getting married On a serious note, you need to get the hell of of dodge. You are already processing things in an unstable and unhealthy manner. Her behavior is abusive and you are definitely showing the symptoms of an abused person. This is your chance to make the right decision. Cut her off!!!!! |
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