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Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by raumdeuter: 4:18pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Somewomen lack manners and in her mind she is within her rights to insult you Anyway just ignore, Dont go asking for anything or speaking to her yet to avoid another torrent of abuse and if she is still persisting leave the house before she provokes you to act in a way that might spoil your prayers |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by cococandy(f): 4:40pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
you say this is one occassion too many,means she's gone off the handle like this several times before. Since you understand verbal abuse and how damaging it can be to the psyche(as shown in your detailed OP), kindly educate her. All that speech that preceded your story should be given to her and since we don't know her, it is your duty to do that. If you find you can't communicate effectively to her, just type it and send it to her inbox. She will benefit from it as some women who are sharp tongued don't even realize it is a horrible thing they are doing. |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by freecocoa(f): 4:41pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
made2fit:As if death comes based on age or frailty,I think it's only natural to want to be first in your spouse's heart, she overreacted(if she acted solely on what OP reported) but don't make it sound like she's not even supposed to ask. P.S. Names calling isn't how to communicate. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by dein77(m): 5:27pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
cococandy: Thank you, my sister. I will find some calm time to explain how damaging hurtful words are to me.. It's just that I have always said I wouldn't tolerate direct insults. She knows my stand on it. But she keeps going at it..... |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by crackhaus: 6:43pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
dein77:Not to tell you how to run your home - but if your wife has been mouthing off to you and keeps going at it despite knowing your stand, then I'm afraid this stand of yours hasn't been made clear enough. 2 Likes |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by cococandy(f): 7:06pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
dein77: Sometimes saying your stand on something doesn't always mean the other person understands why that is your stand. The solution lies in her not only understanding it is your stand but also understanding why it is your stand. Knowing it is your stand alone is not enough to stop her(evidently) Make her understand the effects her actions have on you. One would think a grown up spouse understands the effects of deep hurtful words but you'd be surprised that not all do. So spell it out for her. That is communication. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by dein77(m): 7:07pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
crackhaus: Dear, what do you suggest? |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
dein77:lol |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by crackhaus: 7:22pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
dein77:Lol @dear I suggest you make her know the consequences of being mouthy and resort to actions if necessary, be firm. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by jnrbayano(m): 7:37pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
lofty900: It beats me. All these after apologies from the man. |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by Nobody: 8:15pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
dein77: Eyah. Kpele. Not eating can have serious effect in the brain. You dont think straight especially when you are fasting . You become easily paranoid and weak to do certain things. I hope she is not like this without the fasting if not..... Anyway, tell her to drink this custard and cool her temper. She should also consider fasting for only 4hrs per day to reduce her nagging and emotional abuse. That's what I would have done. I wouldn't dream of fasting as long as 6hrs unless I was sleeping. Even in my dream sef I dey eat. Kpele dear, cheer up ! 1 Like
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Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by cococandy(f): 8:33pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Chillisauce: Chilli you're not well o 1 Like |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by dein77(m): 8:48pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by Nobody: 9:03pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
cococandy: Why? Cos I eat in my dream ?. It's very normal. I remember those days I still go to church very well , was supposed to fast for three days. The first day was when I saw over ripe plantain and custard as breakfast. Na so I shift my fasting from 5 am to 9am. 4hrs. When you fast, you supposed to lock yourself up. Because you can be a distraction to your self and others . |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by dein77(m): 9:05pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Chillisauce: Hahahhahha. ..U go fear fasting na...Hahahhahha 1 Like |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by cococandy(f): 9:25pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Hehehehe It's the way you said it that's even making me laugh Chillisauce: |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Chillisauce,r u ever serious? Abeg @op, dont mind her. She is our resident troll 1 Like |
Re: I Was Wrong, But Did It Warrant A Season Of Verbal Abuse? by Sparkle777(f): 4:49am On Jan 31, 2015 |
dunwun: Omg, I love the way u put it. U re wise. As for the op, am a woman and we love to know that we re paramount in our spouses heart. I d have also flared up but witout the invectives. But that action would have put a dent on my trust for u. How would u feel if u saw a list for those dat would be millionaires this year and ur name comes out 3rd or more in ur wife s list? Methinks ur holding onto dis issue thus speaks volumes of lost affection,pls go back to the drawing board of marriage. |
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