Mindfulness:


Where you staying?

Where do you stay?

delugadou:
They turn me on. Their bride price doesn't cost much

How many u don marry

BISIXCLUSIVE:
Please your candid advice needed. No insult

yes and no !

Depending on the mental state of the woman, a broken home can somehow influence the behavior of a woman.

That's why you will see most of them with lack of respect and MANNER, saying anything that just come out of their mouth without thinking cos they have no parental guard of what no to say or don't speak any provocating words.

butterflyatalan:


Okay.....what's the mother's briefing got to do with her rship with her mate?

Maybe a lot, maybe a little. I am not so sure, what do you think?

butterflyatalan:


Where do you stay?

Europe.

Mindfulness:


Maybe a lot, maybe a little. I am not so sure, what do you think?

What if I told you that you're so wrong

Mindfulness:


Europe.

Mind narrowing it down ?

Mindfulness:


Trying to keep a family together no matter what can be hell as well. We should stop generalizing. There are millions of "intact" families in which everyone suffers and which ultimately produce pathological personalities. Equally there are millions of families that are "broken" but create beautiful minds.

You are very right. what I meant by hell,the condition was so terrible. it wasn't a healthy one. They are still broken home where the children have access to necessities of life,but mine was something else.

I am presently dating a girl from a broken home, and I understand why some people don't want to get married to a girl from a broken home.

I always pray to God to give me my own wife, I don't want a broken home, I don't want my children to experience it.

My g/f grew up with her mom, unfortunately for her, she grew up with a greedy and Owambe mom who once sold her to a rich man old enough to be her grandfather. Unfortunately for her, she's a replica of her mom, her mentality is different and her lifestyle is like that of a woman who will raise children for different men.

I believe if her father was wit her mom, things would have been different.

I can't. History most times repeat itself.

emerged01:

You are very right. what I meant by hell,the condition was so terrible. it wasn't a healthy one. They are still broken home where the children have access to necessities of life,but mine was something else.

Very well said.

What people forget here is that a "broken" home is not necessarily a damaging environment. Neither is an "intact" family automatically a happy family.

butterflyatalan:


Mind narrowing it down ?

You wish

butterflyatalan:


What if I told you that you're so wrong

You could be possibly right, you could be possibly wrong. Where you staying?

Shymm3x:


Lol. Not taking shots. They know that is how Nigerians in diaspora are classified in everyday interaction in diaspora. Folks get along on the surface but that is where it ends - different mentality/outlook, experience, and knowledge scope.

It is not an assumption - that is the reality. Our outlook and behavioural pattern are influenced by what we were raised around. It is just basically like chics who grew up around dads who are supremely loving and successful. Subconsciously, they will always scheme for guys who are or have the same potentials, as their dads. That is what they will subconsciously be attracted to. Just like every guy out there will always be subconsciously attracted to chics who are like their mums.

Chics from broken homes are also always quick to drop that "you're just as useless as my dad" line. If that doesn't tell a story...I don't know what it represents. The truth is: as a guy you will spend most of ya time trying to prove to them that you are not anything like their dads, due to all the negativity their mums must have instilled in them. And that is pretty much hard work.

Err, you are from a broken home. You just need a guy with a lot of patience who can play the role of a dad/partner at the same time. Run as far as you can from knuckleheads like me looool. But you'd make a great mum though.

this kinda girls are hard to convince. I drop my g cos her mum wasn't in good condition with her dad and she is supporting her mum instead of reconciling. I can't keep with such mentality.

TooNoisy:


Good advice! Some parents even tell their children that getting a divorce was the best thing they ever did. Those children may grow up to believe that divorce is an easy escape from marital challenges.

ORO NLA

butterflyatalan:
We should totally hang out

alright

quote me ,he is very right most especially those brought up by women,if it is a male child,the wife is in trouble because his mother would run his house and his wife would become a maid,if it is a woman,infact the man is best dead.the mother would use the daughter to suck the life out of her husband,in the end the marriage must fail because the mother would see no reason for it to last.go and check all those claiming to be feminist,you would quickly discover that they are either from broken homes or they are divorced

yetseyi:



You are entitled to your opinion but using the word "most" in the first paragraph is wrong. Just say the ones you know. So children from complete families are the only ones taught how to keep a relationship or home together right?

Are you saying one should not find out the marriage ideals and conflict resolution methods of a "product" of a complete home because it is assumed that once you are from a complete home your marriage ideals are the best.

BISIXCLUSIVE:
Please your candid advice needed. No insult

A lady who walks away from her first marriage is 90% likely to do so again in her second.

TooNoisy:


Marriage itself is very discriminatory. If as a young lady, I have about 100,000 men that could potentially be a partner and I had to choose only one, then I will discriminate a whole lot. You will have to discriminate based on religion, height, weight, looks, character, feelings, culture, education, intelligence, background, etc

If you don't want to discriminate, you can go ahead and marry any man that proposes to you! The act of making one choice among so many potential choices is discriminatory.

And who told you after all those discriminations and investigations into those angles that you will eventually pick the right one?.. Ask God to lead you.. THAT'S ALL

BISIXCLUSIVE:
Please your candid advice needed. No insult

People should be judged based on the content of their heart, the character they display and not on any status.

Anyone could have come from a broken home, it could be me, it could be you

They only have trust issues. But can go extra mile to make things work.

BISIXCLUSIVE:
Please your candid advice needed. No insult

As long as she has no kids from that marriage, Sure.

Yes.

Every individual is different.

Coming from a broken home doesn't mean the person will not have a successful marriage and coming from a stable family background with good parental care, successful marriage doesnt guarantee successful married life for the children.

emerged01:


alright

You don't stay in Europe, do you?

Im following one right now and mehnnnnn its so difficult as her views and perceptions no be for here

butterflyatalan:

You don't stay in Europe, do you?

No,I'm in a Lagos. I thought you are hoping to chat

emerged01:

No,I'm in a Lagos.

Too bad...oh well. Good luck chum!

I'd marry me.

holwadamilolah:
My mom warn me so much about this Topic, I still don't know why, Anytime I bring up any topic about my gf jokingly, she's always serious about it.. Sha no b person go marry them.. #

Do you know our parent's problem? Whenever they see someone from a particular place who did evil to a person either a relative or a far away person but one way or the other got the news.. They take all the people from the place as the same.. They begin to give you several warnings. You must not marry from here, from there.. They are evil, They still believe in traditional cultures (like our own town doesn't do the same), They don't stay in husband's house, They don't make a good wife, They don't Bury their daughter in their husband's house... All this got me thinking if I will pick my wife from heaven.. GOD bless this OP from raising this topic.. At least it makes more sense and educative than the porns we have been seeing on FP lately

Do you know all these my parent's warnings had really affected my choice of choosing.. I'm the kind of guy that leap b4 looking, I would be seriously involved in a lady b4 I begin to make her backgrounds research and whenever I get all this blemishes my parents had warned me about.. I get fed up and begin to find a way out.. Ignorance is still the problem anyway

I wouldn't because they show signs of being less emotional and they pretend a lot. They are ready to be the best until you put a ring in their fingers.

I would only marry one if I have dated her for up to 6 years. Then, she would have learned about how a family can be stabilized using mine as a case study. That would be achieved by treating her like my blood sister.

Nigerians can like to discriminate kai next thing u will ask is can u marry somebody who is fatherless