Who/What is a Bond Friend?

According to wikipedia, a bond friend is a close friend or romantic partner whom you share emotions of trust and affection with.
There is an attachment of sorts between you two. When two males share this kind of attachment, it is called male bonding; among females, it is called female bonding.



There are friends and there are friendships.
An event that occurred has caused me to take a cursory look at what friendship means to me, what I - in my opinion, think it should mean to us.
I'll be writing against the backdrop of bond friendships.


#IfIWereYourFriend

Then you'd have the freedom to be you.
If I were your friend, then know that your weaknesses as an individual are before me.
Yet I'd love you.
I'd give my best to see you in a better position.


If you are my friend, I won't make you second guess yourself, either consciously or unconsciously. I won't make you feel "less".
I'll encourage you to be yourself and then strive to become the best version of yourself.
Even when I've found traits in you that are rather unbecoming and unlike you; instead of going all out and calling you names indirectly, labelling you and giving you the impression that I'm better than you, I'd rather I talked to your source about them, he created you, and I can rest assuredly leave the duty of making a better person out of you to him.
On my part, I'd be exemplary (without trying to exert/assert myself on you).
I'd do my best not to be judgemental of you.



If you were my friend.
I'll try not to abuse you emotionally.
Even if going by world standards, I am far better, in terms of wealth and riches, living standards, knowledge, wisdom, maturity et al --- I will not impose myself on you as someone you should look up to.
I will do my best to maintain an equilibrium of sorts.



If we are friends.
I will let you in on my worst fears; I'd encourage you to do same. I'd trust you. When thoughts that you could betray me seep in, I will do my best to always remain true to you, for I reckon that it could go both ways; a friend for life, or a lesson for life.
We would love HELL out of each other.
When I am angry or cross at you, I will do my best to speak courteously or postpone speaking for the time-being.
Perchance, if it were that I spoke carelessly to you, I would almost immediately realize it and probably lose myself in a bid to make it up to you.


If you are my friend.
I would wanna be that person you have this unfettered confidence in.
I'd lay my humanity before you (how I sometimes laugh in a socially awkward manner, how - depending on my clothing, I could pass off for a tomboy, how I could be quite loud voiced around those I love, my overly idealistic thoughts, my unbeliefs, beliefs, political affiliations, everything!)


Whether you've offended me or not, whether you've made my heart bleed or not.
I'd gather all the strength I need from within and I'd pronounce blessings on your life.
I'd speak his light, his love and his glory over you.
I'd ask them to stay with you, cover you and never leave you.


I will do my best to be better for you.
While I can never quite measure up, I will try to love you, as God loves you.


I'd want for you to accept me too.
Strengths or not, weaknesses or not, failures or not; successes or not.

This writ is meant to spur everyone who reads it to become a true friend, in the ways they can, to as many as they can today.
It is a call to active action.
If God, or the universe has directed/redirected certain persons or groups of persons into your life, then know that surely, you have been imbued with a capacity to love them, either from a distance or in close proximity (may wisdom guide you on which it should be).

Ultimately, our actions don't define us, our soul does. Let your soul always remain in a posture of love.....even when everything else negates and contradicts. Let your life be defined against this backdrop; Love (in its truest sense).



If you were my bond friend/friend --- if you were another's bond friend/friend, what would it mean to you?
What would you do for me? What would you do for them?

You can answer that^^^ here, or better still........in your private place of meditation.



Smiles.

Tallesty1:
This place belongs to the army

Ultimately, our actions don't define us, our soul does. Let your soul always remain in a posture of love.....even when everything else negates and contradicts. Let your life be defined against this backdrop; Love (in its truest sense).

pickabeau1:



What does this mean

MizMyColi

MissSlimbody:
I'm not much of a writer (I just hate writing), but I'll try my utmost to put something down.

A friend is an extension of yourself. Someone you're not afraid to be yourself around.

A friend see the tears behind your smile, makes you feel loved. Understands you even without saying a word.

A friend is not quick to judge you, but doesn't hesitate to caution you when you done a wrong.

A friend always want to share the good and bad times with you, put smile on your face and make you a better person.


A friend is;
Ogunnowo Caleb Temitope Abiodun Adebowale (Octaa)
...Missing you so much (RIP)

I'm sorry about that.

Errrrmmm.... miss, easy na.
Why you want discourage people like me that is trying so hard to write

There's a word I emboldened up there.
I have an issue with that.

So, just to be clear........
For example now,

You're my bond friend.
I just had an abortion.
I hid it from you.
3 days later, one way or another, you found out.

Oya, act film small, how would you react?
No mince words o

MizMyColi:


Some of us choose to let our past actions/inactions define us.
Determine the chart for our lives.....especially those bad ones.

All I'm saying is that what really matters is not who you are out there.
But who you are in here.
That's what should be lifted out, that's what you should be striving to become.

All too often, I've heard comments like --- "I know I shouldn't have done that, but somehow I did."
"I'm not a bad person (soul), but I don't know why I can't seem to control my urge to lie (actions).

Now, invariably....to the ordinary mind ^^^ the person above is a liar, innit?
But then again, some of us choose to see people for what they really are.....despite their wrong ways.
We figure it's the only way to help lift up the good in them, maximally.

You get?

pickabeau1:


I understand all you say however actions are the best indicator

All else are intentions

If a person wants to help me with a loan and says all the time he wants to help
yet he wants to always help

And never does

How can I rely on.him

Using a loan as an example

I agree that past action should not hang over one

MizMyColi:


This could go both ways y'know.......
What if the person always means to give but always can't.

In the end it boils down to a person knowing one's self.
That statement, the one you first quoted is a rather personal talk between soul and self.

For example, people may look at me and see a cheap wh0re.
But in my heart of hearts, I know that it's not a life I want.
I may be doing my best possible (to the best of my knowledge) to become who I truly desire.......but no one would know, and they'd still keep labelling me as such.

That is what brought about the statement.

pickabeau1:



1.if he or she is my friend I would be aware of what he or she can do

So not helping when the need is here
How can that be a friend

A friend in deed is a friend indeed

2.On the statement being self and soul..does it relate to friendship then?

3.
If the person is a cheap whôre..does it mean she is not a good friend

I thought your article was about friendship and not self discovery and awareness

MizMyColi:


Okay, first off.....I think the emboldened have a role to play in our becoming better individuals to one another.

Plus, I was trying to broaden my take on the statement "Our actions do not define us, our soul does"
You get?

pickabeau1:


your soul is unknown - to people (majority)? yes.
What you can hold is your action - what they can hold on to is your action.

Hence, you should try to put forward the good in you.
That which bears witness to your soul (assuming it is a light filled soul), irrespective of the darkness around.


Thank you for getting .

snadguy007:
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and If I don't?

Enegod:

CrazyMan:
Friendship means being honest and upfront with each other.

No matter what decisions you make in life, a true friend will let you know what he/she thinks, but still stand by your decision.

Friendship means keeping away from backbiting. A true friend wouldn't say bad about you behind your back, rather they would defend you when you are not capable of defending yourself.

They stand by you during the tough times, and darkest of hours. They do these things and so much more.

MizMyColi:


Hence, you should try to put forward the good in you.
That which bears witness to your soul (assuming it is a light filled soul), irrespective of the darkness around.


Thank you for getting .

Tallesty1:
This place belongs to the army

MizMyColi:

What is your take on a friendship where only one of them is permitted to be "honest" and "upfront"?
If the other so much as tries to be as expressive, albeit courteously.....well, that is not even allowed.
Where the party just spews stuffs, and treats you like you're employee or a beneficiary, because they love you and want the best for you.

CrazyMan:

Then you should ask yourself this simple question "What do I stand to gain by remaining friends with smeone who doesn't reciprocate, or friends who treat you with disdain"?

I think its absurd staying in a friendship where one party feel like he's doing the other party a favour.

Friendship in my understanding is all about mutual respect, and freedom of expression. If you respect someone, you would respect his/her decisions. You wouldn't try to dictate or try to control his/her life.

MizMyColi:


and If I don't?

MizMyColi:



I'm sorry about that.

Errrrmmm.... miss, easy na.
Why you want discourage people like me that is trying so hard to write

There's a word I emboldened up there.
I have an issue with that.

So, just to be clear........
For example now,

You're my bond friend.
I just had an abortion.
I hid it from you.
3 days later, one way or another, you found out.

Oya, act film small, how would you react?
No mince words o

Dyt:
Friendship to me is love
And love is life

I love my Mynd44