Asalam alaykum,
It is no news that a lot is happening to Muslims nowadays, From Suuni/Shia, ISIS, Boko Haram and host of others. Apart from our obligatory prayer and other act of worship, more still need to be done especially to let the upcoming Muslims know the difference between Islam and Politics. I thinks this brother will help us with his piece of write-up. Please read!
5 Ways To Protect Your Teen From Joining ISIS

1. Proper Parenting

Good parenting strengthens the bond between parent and child. This might seem like common sense but unfortunately it isn't. Two key ingredients in good parenting are patience and respect.

Being patient is a crucial part of being a successful parent. Understand that every single child learns in a uniquely different way. Every child absorbs and processes information differently. If one child is a straight-A student, don't be surprised if the other isn't. That doesn't mean he/she is dumb. It could mean that the other child has a different learning style – more attention, more time, less distractions, etc.

Respect is also crucially important. Parents usually think the child must respect them without reciprocation. If children learn from their parents, how can they learn to respect if they don't see their parents respecting them? Remember, that the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) never disrespected anyone, let alone children. A child deserves to be treated fairly. Being a “dictator parent” that always says “no” will only make the child rebel. It's important to note that the acts of rebellion don't necessarily become noticed immediately. It could take years. This will open their mental doors to outside influence (i.e. ISIS recruiters). I believe the term “rebel” is even a negative word. Teens are learning independence. Parents should not resist this, but help direct teens.

I highly recommend the following two books. They completely changed my outlook as a father, parent and husband:

How Children Succeed by Paul Tough

Do Fathers Matter? by Paul Raeburn

2. Understanding Islam

Patience comes with knowledge and understanding. As Khidr told Musa 'alayhi'l-salām (peace be upon him):

And how can you have patience about things which your understanding is not complete? (18:68)

Parents must take it upon themselves to learn and understand their religion. Not only to perform the obligatory acts like praying and fasting, but also the wide range of topics that their children will ask them about. Whenever my daughter asks me about something, I immediately go through my mental “rolodex” of Qur'an, Hadith and stories. The Qur'an and Hadith provide so much applicable information that, in most cases, I can perfectly answer my daughter and, at the same time, educate her.

As your children grow into teens, they will run into social issues that are potentially un-Islamic. This is when all those ahadith that you educated them on start to act as reminders of the Islamic boundaries. In turn, they will have a higher appreciation and respect for you. This instills a love and connection between parent and child. It is also very important that during these times when your teen comes home to tell you their day at school, you be very attentive on how your child reacted to whatever social pressure they faced. Acknowledge their decision and respect their judgment. Don't forget that their judgment is maturing so they will make mistakes. That is perfectly fine, as that is part of growing up.

3. Instilling Self-Worth and a Sense of Belonging

Instilling self-worth and a sense of belonging comes with time. Sometimes as parents we want our kids to “change now” but, unfortunately, that's not how it works. If parents do not take it upon themselves to be patient and instill these values in their kids then someone else will. One way to help instill a sense of self-worth and belonging in your child is to ask for their opinion on family related matters. Below are a few examples of what I mean:

We plan on purchasing a new car, are there any cars you think we should test drive?

We plan on buying some new furniture, would you like to look online at a few items?

Yes, I know that these seem like common sense questions but I am surprised at how many parents do not incorporate their children's opinions in family matters.

Value their capabilities, judgments, and opinions, and educate them in secular and religious matters. Religious education is wonderful, but do not be of the mindset that as long as you take your child to an “Islamic school” they will turn out to be great Muslims.

Religious education is instilled at home first.

4. Limit and Monitor Social Media

It's not only crucial that parents know who their children's friends are and where they are spending their free time, but also monitor their social media and internet usage. Of course this is hard in today's world. Kids have access to the internet and social media at such a young age. If you allow them to use social media, have them choose ONE social media platform and only stick with that. If they decide to go with another one (which they will later) then they need to make a choice: deactivate the current one and create a new one, or stick with old one.

Parents must monitor every single friend request. Pre-teens and teenagers are extremely impressionable, making them extremely vulnerable to their peers. It is absolutely crucial to watch their internet and social media activities at this very vulnerable age. Teens just want to be loved and treated with respect. They need the most love when they are pushing you away. Bad behaviors are cries for attention.

We highly recommend Ourpact. It's a mobile app that makes monitoring your child's phone extremely easy!

5. Ask Him

Make duaa that Allah keeps your children on the right path. You must get as specific in your duaa as possible. Understand that Allah is in control of every single thing. Nothing happens without His knowledge. As it says in the Qur'an:

Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. (6:59)

Being conscious of this fact is absolutely necessarily when making duaa. We must constantly remind ourselves that He knows all. Nothing happens without His knowledge. Make sincere prayer and duaa asking the Protector to Protect, and He will.
Culled from Muslimmatters.org

Thanks for sharing. May our children not be a source of sorrow to us! Aamin.

sometimes you have to be the change you want in a society. Nothing wrong in u unchaining urself and ur unborn generation from mental slavery, i thank God for my grandfather that left islam. Having lived and worked with Arabs i and my family will never pray or worship their gods.


Have you asked yourself

why must u pray facing an arab town ?

Is God everywhere or in an Arab town?

Can you pray to Allah in your mother tonuge or any other language apart from arabic?

At least God is supposed to be multilingual

quickly:
sometimes you have to be the change you want in a society. Nothing wrong in u unchaining urself and ur unborn generation from mental slavery, i thank God for my grandfather that left islam. Having lived and worked with Arabs i and my family will never pray or worship their gods.


Have you asked yourself

why must u pray facing an arab town ?

Is God everywhere or in an Arab town?

Can you pray to Allah in your mother tonuge or any other language apart from arabic?

At least God is supposed to be multilingual

You life must be so worthless

Justfollowit:


You life must be so worthless

You wish!!




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Ppl like u make africans disrespected all over the world

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quickly:



You wish!!




If u were a sensible person at least refute those claims or come up with a counter argument.


But abed (under yansh) ppl their password is lost in arab server.


Ppl like u make africans disrespected all over the world

Critical reasoning skills is zer0

just continue following and following as ur user name suggest gombeh

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My belle

Continue, Mr philosopher

I think the best way is not to let them lay their hands on the quran and ahadith let alone read the content.