Happy Easter to you all Nairalanders, please I need your mature and candid advise on this issue.

I want to go straight to the point here, last year July 2014, a friend of mine visited me in my house one Saturday afternoon, we were drinking together when his phone rang, a lady he scheduled for a date called him that she was waiting for him at First Bank side, then he rushed his drinks and pleaded I followed him to pick this lady, he also stressed further that he wouldn't like the lady to know his house, am married but my wife and kids resides in another country, but my so called friend is still single, so I complied...

I drove him and we picked the lady with my car to an hotel he has already arranged before coming to me, to cut the long story short, the lady refused entering hotel room with him, based on the fact they just met bla bla bla.

I later dropped both of them in their respective home and drove back to mine house around 8:45pm, when it was around 10pm, the lady called me and thanked me and asked about my welfare, she collected my phone number when she came down from my car in the presence of my friend, later saw her whatsapp message also.

This lady developed serious feelings towards me within a week, telling me she expected my friend to link us together the day we met, that his failure to do so made her deny entering hotel with him as she saw me first time and admired me so much, I told my friend all I got from this lady in a matured way and showed him the chats, he smiled and gave me full support to date her, but I declined as am married and she is NEVER my taste.

Ever since then, she has been calling, sending romantic texts, even sending airtime and always like to do more, etc, which i do reject, she always try to visit me or I should visit her, on Thursday my family arrived back home for Easter, last night I was with my wife in bed when I grabbed my iPad replying messages and my wife was right beside me, I opened her own whatsapp message and saw about 7 explicit nude pics she sent without my consent, my wife read our conversation and discovered am indeed innocent, but she is kind of moody.

I called the lady this morning and fought with her on phone due to her action, please how can I make my wife happy? and what do you guys think is making my wife Moody? my friend is also on NL reading this now. I called him and explained things to him.

The lady in question is a Nurse and 28 years old.

Counter thread? Thank God you're already married and thank God your wife already saw all the chats and equally saw that you're innocent. Not much work to do there. Just take her out on a date kind of, and give her a nice treat. Then tell her the lady was never your taste or class in the first place; and make her know and understand that you would [still] prefer her to a million of that lady anytime anyday.
I know you already know the words to use, sir. You can block the lady on whatsapp. Enjoy your marriage, sir.

Since your wife thinks u r innocent.. that means the wrk is reduced kinda..
Jes try to reassure her..
And please block that gal/lady /nurse
..

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Thank you

Why do you guys like stating the profession when it's a nurse that's involved
Abeg make una free us jare, the profession has nothing to do with her behaviour.
At least your wife has seen you are innocent, she will get over it, just treat her like an egg now and block all forms of contact with the lady and she will feel better.
Btw, you didn't mention anything about the lady knowing you are married.

Your friend no try, why would he support you dating her?
Does the lady know you're married?

sweettease:
Why do you guys like stating the profession when it's a nurse that's involved

Help me ask them oo
But some nurses can fall hand sha..

Tashaamania:
Your friend no try, why would he support you dating her?
Does the lady know you're married?

She is fully aware of my marital status, both on fb etc.

hmmm

tohpahz:


Help me ask them oo
But some nurses can fall hand sha..

I think it's mainly a ladies' thing, not necessarily a nurses' thing

Why is wifey moody?
Oya you too confess, is she sexier than wifey?


Seriously I blame you
The fact you know you never interested, why give her even an inch closer?
Don't lie you were contemplating doing her even if its just once
I don't understand you men
You claim you never interested
Not your taste
Yet you give her all the attention
Shior

Hehehe! See your round face! Man it's your responsibility as a man to be firm with people if you do not want them to cross a line especially an advancing woman since you are married. Your bad!

Take madam out, buy her gifts, kiss her like you've never done before, dance that beautiful tango with her, assure her anew of your fidelity and block that mo...tonic Bambi without shame. You need not sniff what u don't want to eat...put your feet down!

sweettease:
Why do you guys like stating the profession when it's a nurse that's involved

My mum is also a nurse, am not trying to bring sentiments.

Your wife is moody because she has not totally believed your innocence. There is always element of doubts even when we believe things, because believing is variant from knowing.

You must resurrect this issue and make sure you proof beyond reasonable doubts that you have not done anything wrong. A third-party, though women and others always counter it, has a way of settling minds. What if you invite your friend, the male friend to come home this Easter and during the drink and conversation in the presence of your wife, chip the issue in jokingly with your friend already aware of the plan. Like....'my brother see wahala oh. That lady i have been telling you that keeps disturbing don cause wahala between me and my beautiful wife oh"; Then your friend if he is smart, knows exact words to say, like " These girls are so desperate now, they want to ruin people's marriages and bla bla bla". It works with most women, although they will chastise you for bringing the issue up with an outsider, but the greater problem has been solved.

That is my way of handling these issues.

Nurses don't quite do it for me...I'm more of a dairy maid guy.

I put it to u that u are also developing interest and just want to hang the girl at a near corner that is why u kept entertaining her calls and visits. How can u say u do not like someone and she has been calling visiting sending pic since last year abi are u Mugu. Ur wife has every right to be angry and to punish u accordingly

goodmorning40:
I put it to u that u are also developing interest and just want to hang the girl at a near corner that is why u kept entertaining her calls and visits. How can u say u do not like someone and she has been calling visiting sending pic since last year abi are u Mugu. Ur wife has every right to be angry and to punish u accordingly

I never mentioned her visiting me, I SAID SHE ALWAYS TRY TO VISIT ME., I never said she has been sending pics, she only sent pics yesterday.

Assign ur wife to deal with d lady.

sweettease:

I think it's mainly a ladies' thing, not necessarily a nurses' thing

Ladies do.. yes..
Buh nurses in particular have gvn themselves a bad name especially in Nigeria

Sir, you're probably sitting down on a time bomb.

Story.

We are supposed to believe you couldn't fend off someone you aren't interested in? If I hear.

Fairgodwin:
Counter thread? Thank God you're already married and thank God your wife already saw all the chats and equally saw that you're innocent. Not much work to do there. Just take her out on a date kind of, and give her a nice treat. Then tell her the lady was never your taste or class in the first place; and make her know and understand that you would [still] prefer her to a million of that lady anytime anyday.
I know you already know the words to use, sir. You can block the lady on whatsapp. Enjoy your marriage, sir.

If my husband tells me he will not date a lady because she is. not his taste, There will be serious problems.

@OP:

I can deduce the following:

1. You are a runs guy yourself and just not interested in Aunty Nurse

2. Your friend knows the kind of pperson you are That's why he has the boldness to ask you to play the game with him

3. Aunty Nurse knows you are her customer unfortunately doesn't know that she is not your type. However, her persistence might earn her your sugar cane.

Luckily for you, wifey has seen your innocence but is disappointed you could not tell her off.

Solution: Delete Aunty Nurse's contacts and memory. And repent from all forms of runs. Assure your wife she is the only one eating your sugarcane and make it So.

That your friend: stay away from him, he is evil. Imagine him giving you the permission to sleep with Aunty Nurse

Happy Easter.

bukatyne:
@OP:

I can deduce the following:

1. You are a runs guy yourself and just not interested in Aunty Nurse

2. Your friend knows the kind of pperson you are That's why he has the boldness to ask you to play the game with him

3. Aunty Nurse knows you are her customer unfortunately doesn't know that she is not your type. However, her persistence might earn her your sugar cane.

Luckily for you, wifey has seen your innocence but is disappointed you could not tell her off.

Solution: Delete Aunty Nurse's contacts and memory. And repent from all forms of runs. Assure your wife she is the only one eating your sugarcane and make it So.

That your friend: stay away from him, he is evil. Imagine him giving you the permission to sleep with Aunty Nurse

Happy Easter.

Your Contribution would have made a lot of sense, but very contradictory type to be realistic.

1. If am a runs man, would I opened my iPad in the presence of my wife? not even with password o.

2. He left the lady based on maturity ground and obviously the lady showed him no affection and love, after he read the chats between us.. what else?

3. If am indeed her customer... this thread won't come up.

For your mind,you be C. Ronaldo abi?

Since she saw your conversation,and she knew you were innocent,leave her,she will come by..

Next time don't smell what you won't eat,block her number..

pafestula:


Your Contribution would have made a lot of sense, but very contradictory type to be realistic.

1. If am a runs man, would I opened my iPad in the presence of my wife? not even with password o.

2. He left the lady based on maturity ground and obviously the lady showed him no affection and love, after he read the chats between us.. what else?

3. If am indeed her customer... this thread won't come up.

1. You can have different devices for work, play, pleasure etc.

2. Your friend is evil (cutting him off is step one)

3. You are her customer meaning she knows you engage in extramarital affairs.


Okay, since you said your hand is pure, I believe you and Sorry for the wrong deductions

Your friend is a runs man That's why he doesn't want the girl to know his place. I am thinking he should matued agewise So jumping about ought not to be in his plans and a friend who does So is not a Good influence

He should have apologized when he saw the girl's chats and discharged her rather than saying you can 'date' her.

I would fault you in not discharging the lady quick. If you warned her and deleted her contacts after the first mess up, you would not be in This.

You even escorting your friend to pick her up already sent the wrong message to her. She would feel you are in the business together.

It is well.

bukatyne:


1. You can have different devices for work, play, pleasure etc.

2. Your friend is evil (cutting him off is step one)

3. You are her customer meaning she knows you engage in extramarital affairs.


Okay, since you said your hand is pure, I believe you and Sorry for the wrong deductions

Your friend is a runs man That's why he doesn't want the girl to know his place. I am thinking he should matued agewise So jumping about ought not to be in his plans and a friend who does So is not a Good influence

He should have apologized when he saw the girl's chats and discharged her rather than saying you can 'date' her.

I would fault you in not discharging the lady quick. If you warned her and deleted her contacts after the first mess up, you would not be in This.

You even escorting your friend to pick her up already sent the wrong message to her. She would feel you are in the business together.

It is well.

Yes, I admitted my faults now. Thank you very much, I really appreciate your contributions.

pafestula:


Yes, I admitted my faults now. Thank you very much, I really appreciate your contributions.

You are welcome

Regards to madam the one and only sugarcane owner.

Pm me her numba i nid 2 hear her story

austine4real:
Pm me her numba i nid 2 hear her story

Hmmm