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Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Jblacki: 2:50pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
1st she's a temperimental and u did not know b4 u probably marry her. I once date a lady dat z temperimental and I end up wit her coz been my fiance nd her temper is dat much den if marry her mistakenly she will stab me to death. 2nd she myt b kpin sm bad gossip frnds dat myt b causing dis too. 3rd she myt b pregnant so try 2 do a family investigation here @ dis point. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by dugochi: 3:02pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
My dear, dont give up too soon. Continue to be nice and caring, especially in the area of saying sorry. Very soon she will realise how silly she has been and turn a new leaf. God bless your marriage. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by QueenHeart(f): 3:18pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Pray about it also report her2her mum,Mothers hv ways of removing evil spirits from their daughtrs.she will change4gud jst b patient ok |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by lionphil(m): 3:26pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
The truth is, Ur wife still believes u guys are dating she hasn't come to the marriage reality, u need to treat her like u are dating her too. then, she will react better...trust me! Please don't divorce her oh...I'm not a party to divorce that's why I'm reconsidering the whole marriage ish... I don't think it's worth it. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 3:35pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
pomsky:I really wish Multicast can understand the dynamics pomsky: This why: pomsky:Lions don't beat Lionesses, they simply roar the loudest. 2 Likes |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Aminat508(f): 3:36pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
egbaguy:am here jawe.....malaria won kill me |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Sanguine(f): 3:42pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
coogar: I just hope they don't end up getting to the adjourning stage. I so feel for this OP. I can just imagine... |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by daillest: 3:47pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
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Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 3:48pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
StealthIdeals:Lol..come on |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Chigold101(m): 3:52pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
helen4:oh sweet angel am very sorry. Just look for a better spot in ur heart to forgive me. Am so so very sorry for all that i have said and will say. (kiss) (kiss) |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by egbaguy: 3:57pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Aminat508:eeeeyah.....pele!!!! Ao body now? She has been 'found' @dyt |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 4:07pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Eluala:Omg Eluala.. Multicast are you listening? @bolded Women hate it. Eluala:NEVER tell a woman verbally that you are the head. Do you know what women are capable of? SHOW that you are the head. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by helen4(f): 4:08pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Chigold101:accepted but watch out!!!!!!!!_ |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by frisby: 4:10pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Hmmmm... See why it's good to listen to people share experiences. Maybe we should just enjoy being single for as long as we can stretch it. And it's quite baffling because every gal who wants to describe her ideal man will ALWAYS Start with " loving" "caring" "good natured" "attentive" etc. So that leaves the questions: 1. does it mean they're just listing some empty memorized nonsense for the sake of social reputation OR 2. does it mean they live with the purpose of someday finding that IDEAL man who'll provide the IDEAL environment for them to finally show their true (IDEAL) colours? Thanks OP for this thread, for I've learned a lot from it. 1. Women don't know what they want 2. When they get what they want, they make you regret it 3. The nice guy doesn't get the girl, and when he eventually does, she makes him miserable...AND ENJOYS EVERY MINUTE OF IT. 4. You are not ready for marriage until you're ready to abandon your peace of mind (and probably your sanity too) And finally THERE'S "MR NICE GUY" and then THERE'S "A MAN", and only one run a. Family |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by OILOFGLADNESS: 4:24pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast: she loves you just that she gets annoyed and flares up easily, she doesn't keep malice, but only needs your attention show her love and whenever she starts be a man and quench it immediately. you can have many strategies od quenching it ignore her ans when she is done tell her sorry, show her how the words she uses pains you, its not wrong to show her crowded eyes sometimes(pretend to cry) most especially avoid doing those things that makes her complain always try to be transparent ans explain things for her without asking(don't wait for her to always ask for explanations) pushing her out is the worst thing you can consider. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 4:29pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
publicenemy:Wow..'just learned something new today. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 4:35pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Lol... Na her true colour be this. Bros, once in a while punish her. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by luckydion(m): 4:37pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Firstly, Peace & Joy in Marriage is very hard to get if God is abscent in the Home. Do u know God? Live and act like HIM? Does ur wife? Did u commited crame in her presence or to her knowledge? stop those things if. Build Your marriage foundation on Jesus Christ...... not just name christian but the Christ-like. ofcourse, go down to your knee whe she is present and when she is not, pray to God for Peace in Marriage. Secondary, how was your dating foundation like? was she like that or she started after wedding or of recent? Thirdly, how is ur action and reaction before and after marriage, the same? change for the better or otherwise? fourtly, check her associates, stop the bad ones. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Dyt(f): 4:46pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
egbaguy: oya take her home |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 4:50pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Cmeo:What an advice! I am seriously feeling the old man. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 4:58pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Fourwinds: Lol..Touchscreen issues. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 5:03pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Votukpa:You sound like a maniac! That aside, I know of a woman who died in that exact spanking position. You needed to see how muscular the husband who always spanked her on his knees looked, smh. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by hedgesfun(m): 5:05pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
I had always said loves end where marriage starts and this is it in practice, u can't tell me all these started after you got married, but you were condoning it when u were dating cos u don't wanna make her feel bad now u couldn't take it anymore cos u expected her to change which is not possible as its part of her, it's always better to have a broken relationship than to have a broken marriage. Now what I would suggest is you talk to her when you two had no quarrel and let her realise you don't like those things and that she might force you to do things you don't wanna do if she continues, and if she does continue just one day u angrilly leave d house for like two days and tell her u 're not coming unless she change, if she loves you truly she will change if she doesn't then you can talk to religious leaders you know she respect. If those two don't work well I think you will have to carry the cross o |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Ekun123: 5:21pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Hello my brother, I am particularly touched with your case. Many may assume is just one of those stuff for gisting but the reality is that we have many couples expriencing this ugly situation. To be on point, you are two different people from different background who are try to be together to run a family. In this your scenario, PATIENCE is the first tool to survive and you have find a suitable time outside the various scenes that normally happen and try to explain things in a very mature and understanding way. Let her understand that sometimes you don't need to be too serious on some matters not because they are not important but they more delicate to handle, otherwise you will cause more damage than good. Exprience has shown that every partner in a union will have some attitudes that the other will just have to endure when it seems difficult to be changed. I am sure every professional develops their professional attitudes through training and re-training and never a sudden achievement. You may need to sermonise and positively tease her to understand you in a sensible way. This is what make you a man that can head a home. "TO BE A COMPLETE HUSBAND IS NOT TWO MONTH JOURNEY AND NOT JUST TO SAY I LOVE YOU BUT TO BE ENDURING AND PATIENCE WHEN EVENTS DEMANDS". Just like this one! God is your strength. Pray hard also. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 5:26pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
johnbycee2015: |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Ewuro4: 5:28pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Chilax oga... You will never win & You can't do without us. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by beckycool: 5:36pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
what you'll do is ignore her a bit. I know it's hard,but just try... You may go as far as leaving the house for her just for few hours. it could be 24hrs,48 or 72hrs. I bet she'll reset her brain sharply. at times,na craze dem dey use support love |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Chigold101(m): 5:38pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 5:45pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
Hahaha.....@ Akanoye15 brover U soo funny.... See as you dey laugh d guy like say him no get feelings.... So U devorced the woman knowing fully well that another man will fall into her trap again? |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by bronzemannuels(f): 6:23pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
well.... I think you should just ignore her completely, if she really loves u she would come back to u. U are a good man , helping her to do house chores , giving her all d attention ; dats a valuable thing to do. I feel u shld just ignore her for a period of time and see wat happens. I don't think it is a good idea to keep apologising for no good reason, she might get used to it and dat would not allow her to see dat she may be wrong. Asides dat, U are d man and whether she likes it or not she has to respect you. Talking to you like her younger brother is not good at all. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Kobeje(m): 6:32pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
InestamablJewel: Thanks. Luff u too. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Kobeje(m): 6:33pm On Apr 10, 2015 |
InestamablJewel: Thanks. Luff u too. Those were some of the steps I took in some similar situation. |
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