koife:
I met this young Lady some years ago, fell in love with her and finally proposed last year. I decided to make neccesary findings so as to get the whole deal through, but hit a serious brick wall. She said that the tradition in her church and family is that the man does the wedding in her church or nothing ...her mother isn't helping issues. My dad is a Bishop in a church that doesn't believe in white wedding talk less of going to another church to do it. I had a chitchat with him and he declared to me in confidence that I am the man and I should be the shot caller. The downside is that if I dare try it, my dad will be excommunicated. Having seen the danger that lies ahead I confided in my father that we can take the so call white wedding to a neutral place outside the walls of her church so not to give my church the reason to lynch my dad. I disscued this with her but she and most esp her mom aren't giving my proposal a thought. First her mother has nothing to loose been that the proximity will be such that her friends and colleague will still turn in their numbers..since her reasons in the first place was because she wanted a good attendance esp from people within her church circle and that she has been attending peoples wedding and they all are waiting for her daughters and that I can't afford to dash her own chance of inviting people.I find this very selfish....considering the fact that she hasn't given thought about my faith and what will happen to my dad...hence my proposal for a neutral place. I am very confused as I write and really want some good advise here.....
Pls I beg you, it a thing of the heart...
Kindly ignore if you don't have any reasonable contribution
Tnx

Justosaus:
White weddings are done in the lady's church, that's the tradition

Vision4God:
Koife, I think u shud do it in ur gal's church since its der tradition.
Moreover, ur dad's church aint gonna b livin wt u so y shud de impose such unnecessary rule. Afterall its not ur dad gettin married its u his son.
For a r/ship to work, sacrifices has to b made/paid.
Its ur future!!!!!!!!!

Pavore9:
You are the one getting married, not your dad nor his church members. On a curious note, this is my first time hearing of a church that does not believe in white wedding

koife:

Coz its not biblical