Discovering that your husband has fallen out of love with you or is ‘involved’ with someone else is simply horrible. Your heart races, it feels like a huge bowl of eba is lodged in your stomach and your mind starts working overtime. Why is he doing this? You’ve been a loyal and supportive wife, after al. He’s got a lovely home and children who adore him. What more does he want?
These are some of the questions that will keep racing in your head but you find no answer to it. But as you ponder on it, here are some of the don't you don't have to do to win him back because at the end of the day you always come worse out of the situation............
These are


1. Being especially nice:
You’ve cooked his favourite meals, kept the children off his back, told him how much you appreciate him and offered sex whenever he wants it. But he still doesn’t love you. For some men, your gestures will be too little, too late. In addition, your moods are probably all over the place: super-nice one minute, withdrawn the next, then biting his head off and quickly apologising. He won’t know what to expect when he comes home, and who wants to live like that!

2. Using the children as blackmail:
He’s going to hear your concern for the children as prof you’re interested in him only as a father. Let’s face it, if he suggested you act as a housekeeper and nursemaid and nothing else, would you jump at the offer. You also risk becoming the wife of every man’s nightmares – ‘she’s turning my children against me’. Yes, he might stay because you’ve held a gun to his head or maybe he’ss just say,”what else have I got to lose?” and leave, setting you up for a bitter and protracted divorce.

3. Having longer talks:
Good communication is at the heart of a good marriage, but going round and round in circles isn’t good communication. Constantly cross-examining him about his feeling is like digging up a seed to see if it has germinated. Worse still, these long talks suck any remaining fun and spontaneity out of your marriage. No wonder he wants to leave. Anything for a quiet life.

4. Guessing what he’s really feeling:
Hours of over-thinking will just result in a range of assumptions, often cobbled together from all the different things he says and does throughout his day, which may well be unrelated. As ultimately, it is better to ask, and take his answers at face value, than to over-analyse and then tell him what he’s feeling – that really puts men’s backs up.

5. Suppressing your own issues:
Walking on eggshells just makes your husband irritated. When you back down, he loses all respect.
However, it’s not all gloom and doom when your husband strays – there’s always hope. According to Andrew Marshal, “it is possible to turn around your marriage, even if he’s telling you he’s met his soul-mate. I’ve learnt there’s always hope for the future if you meet at least two of the following criteria – you’ve been together three years or more, you have children together and you truly love him and want him back.

Finally, you mustn’t panic. This is the worst thing you can do. More marriages end because of a wife’s panic than a husband’s determination to leave”.

Okay

Wearing red panties and black bra.

See what some women have to go through ehn
Not like it would even make them stop
A cheater that wants to cheat will always
Trying not to make a cheater cheat is more like time/energy/emotional wastage

Maybe the partner should either gbakamu or leave

Finally, you mustn’t panic . This is the worst
thing you can do. More marriages end because of
a wife’s panic than a husband’s determination to
leave”.

this is the best of all....... don't panic, don't let him know the degree of your hurt, be independent and let him know that even without him life will still move on.........

2. Using the children as blackmail:
He’s going to hear your concern for the children as prof you’re interested in him only as a father. Let’s face it, if he suggested you act as a housekeeper and nursemaid and nothing else, would you jump at the offer. You also risk becoming the wife of every man’s nightmares – ‘she’s turning my children against me’. Yes, he might stay because you’ve held a gun to his head or maybe he’ss just say,”what else have I got to lose?” and leave, setting you up for a bitter and protracted divorce

This one of ways women thinks they can use to tie the man down......
They feels using those children would make the man responsible and come back to his senses

Lalasticlala should we have this on FP