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Frustrated by aakinyosoye: 9:02pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
I actually need to let off the lid off my emotions I actually need to let off the lid off my emotions |
Re: Frustrated by Arsenalholic(m): 9:22pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
aakinyosoye: @Bolded, You don't need to be. Sometimes it needed, to make you feel better. Anyways just for the laughs... 2 Likes
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Re: Frustrated by Ewuro4: 9:46pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
OP you're allowed to vent. Hit the gym and blow off some steam. It's okay. over a decade hallmark and can tell you it wasn't all a smooth ride, lots of patience and letting things slide for peace sake. But you deserve to be happy and nagging about it won't help you either. It takes two but since you're the one mostly yearning for attention and change, I'd advice you to work on your communication with her, call her , maybe your hands on her nape during convo, rubbing softly ( that's one of his tricks and my head just cool down and I surrender )... My lovely wife.... Blah blah ( you know what she's complaining about so adress them with that approach) and talk about it. Try it. It gets better with time. **** That reminds me Edwife.. I watched "Keeping my man" and didn't like the ending atall. I mean the strongest couple's marriage broke while the crawlcrawl ones worked out? not cool. Not cool atall. I don't like that. It broke my heart 3 Likes |
Re: Frustrated by Nobody: 9:55pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
did her behavior start when u got married or did u notice it when u were dating ? |
Re: Frustrated by kukuruku156(f): 10:18pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
Bros you have just described a lot of us women to the 'T'. A lot of us women do these things but we really do not know the effect it's having on our spouses. Maybe she's reacting to a perceived repeated behavior from your end that rubs her off the wrong way. Does she often say you do not take her advise or respect her opinions? Maybe that is what is causing the raging hormones. It's good to let off steam here as you have done instead of entering a shouting match with her as that just makes things worse. |
Re: Frustrated by BluStreak(m): 10:50pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
But how long can one keep up with having to let things slide or looking the other way? The painful part is that, these women don't know when to call it off and realize they are sowing a seed of discord. |
Re: Frustrated by lilmax(m): 10:52pm On Apr 28, 2015 |
Smh,next generation of W men |
Re: Frustrated by SAMBARRY: 9:02am On Apr 29, 2015 |
frustrated little men are around the corner too |
Re: Frustrated by klark3: 10:16am On Apr 29, 2015 |
Weak men everywhere... Too many weak men in nigeria, I don't just know why... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Frustrated by blazetitov: 10:52am On Apr 29, 2015 |
klark3: Strong man, so what advice do you have for the poor weak man. SMH |
Re: Frustrated by Nobody: 11:02am On Apr 29, 2015 |
Op has removed his post, who knows maybe the wife saw his post on here and has nagged the hell outta him.... Chaiiii, man don suffer It shall get better 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated by femmy2010(m): 11:17am On Apr 29, 2015 |
aakinyosoye: Simply do. |
Re: Frustrated by socrateez(m): 2:04pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Let me start by saying I strongly believe there is no problem without a solution, so, there's a solution to the challenges you're facing in your matrimonial home. First of all, for a woman to be so abrasive and intolerant, there must be a reason for it. Most people come into marriage with noble intentions and joyous expectations, it's when those expectations are not met that frustration sets and the relationship begin to deteriorate. My question is for how long have you been married? do you have kids or is she pregnant? are there demands from her family that she's unable to meet? Do you have time for her? Does any other person live with you? what usually are her specific complaints when she nags? are there promises you made before your wedding which you have not kept? do you attend the same church and is she comfortable there? A thousand and one reasons could be responsible for her frustration and the earlier you identify them, the better you'll be able to handle her. I'm ready to follow up with you if you respond to these questions. BTW, I've been married for over 25 years. 3 Likes |
Re: Frustrated by Kanwuliajeje: 2:09pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
Learn to cook nsala soup like my darling husband. There would be LESS nagging in your home! Cooked fresh from yesterday!
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Re: Frustrated by Nobody: 3:29pm On Apr 29, 2015 |
aakinyosoye: Sorry to read about your frustrations It cant be easy Marriage is full of ups and downs and its in our own best interest to work to ensure that the ups overwhelm the downs so that we live a happy and fulfilled life rather than a frustrated and unhappy life with our spouses. Without knowing more about the situation, The only thing I can suggest, which does sometimes work is to take a step back from the situation and rather than being on the defensive, try and listen and understand what exactly she is criticizing and complaining about. Listen to what she is saying. Put yourself into her position and try and see things from her eyes. You may find that you see more than what you see now. Sometimes couples get into a situation where becasue previous issues have not been resolved, they all add up and the baggage is taken from situation to situation and they never get out of argument mode and they go on and on like that and things that are not even issues suddenly become issues and they are always "fighting" You need to break that cycle. She is your wife. You should know what puts her in a good mood and what calms her. Put her into that state and then talk to her. You mayalso find that its something completely different thats bugging her. For all you know it could be your working hours, your lack of time with her, your relationships with collegues, it could even be issues in the bedroom . . .Im just giving different examples. Sometimes people find it difficult to talk to their partner about ceetain things so they latch onto other things out of frustration. In short open all avenues and ask her to talk to you, however you both need to be in a good place to be able to gain anything useful from any discussions. All the best. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Frustrated by Dbestmax(m): 8:18am On Apr 30, 2015 |
mehn ........u dey crazy shaaa |
Re: Frustrated by edwife(f): 10:44am On Apr 30, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Lol,that's what happened when you are busy trying to fix everyone "issues" and seeing yours.I learned long ago that all that glitter is not GOLD ,we need to be contend with what we have. |
Re: Frustrated by Ewuro4: 2:18pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
edwife: Hmm .... I agree with the paradigm but a bit rattled by how it all played out hence the bad reviews the movie got. so what's wrong trying to support your friends and still maintain a good home? Afteral it was from her goodness of heart and her home is not lacking as a result of this. Tokunbo is sexually satisfied and his meals were adequately supplied on his office table and on top, great desert a man could ever asked for. This same lady cleans after him and always waiting for him every freaking night. I guess my q is; Where did she go wrong? You really believe that line of story? I don't. 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated by justwise(m): 2:28pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
kukuruku156: But why? That is what i struggle to understand sometimes, i wish somebody can explain that. |
Re: Frustrated by justwise(m): 2:30pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
BluStreak: But how long can one keep up with having to let things slide or looking the other way? The painful part is that, these women don't know when to call it off and realize they are sowing a seed of discord. Honestly you are a legend. |
Re: Frustrated by Ewuro4: 2:39pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
justwise: It takes two you know? No right thinking person will start nagging out of the blue without any precipitating factor. Anyway , I believe many relationships are lacking effective communication; if she wants to talk about it and he doesn't wanna hear it , obviously somebody's demands are not being met hence the katatata we read on NL. If you're not ready to hear boring dinner table stories every night and overflogged complain about the bent garage door that needs to be fixed ASAP.. Stay single. |
Re: Frustrated by ifyalways(f): 2:40pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Oh Chim. Kanwuliajeje and mouth watering meals. See as i dey look your nsala Ori nri @OP, vent, rant as much as u want.Its normal. Seems you've cooled down, moved on and hopefully addressed the situation. Good on you! |
Re: Frustrated by Stillfire: 2:41pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
rather I should understand that she has hormones and sometimes they take the better of her. Huh? She had better go and see a doctor if her hormones are always taking the better of her. Don't fall for that excuse. A well mannered woman is a well mannered woman whether during "hormonal high or low" |
Re: Frustrated by Nobody: 2:46pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Ewuro4:Very correct. One bottle of Drostyhorf Red wine for you |
Re: Frustrated by Ewuro4: 2:48pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
crowns2: TENK 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated by justwise(m): 3:00pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Yes it does take two, i get that but this is the thing...if someone constantly run you down with every little opportunity, every little misunderstanding then you will move into your shell just to avoid another run of moaning. Must everything be confrontational? Some women seems to have a rule book only men should obey, just don't put a foot wrong it will be thrown at you followed by insults and next minute they started talking about love.....seriously what bloody love? |
Re: Frustrated by edwife(f): 3:52pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Well don't we read here everyday that a man still cheat irrespective of anything you do for them.It is a personal choice,maybe he was tired of the monotony,he needed something other than wifey was offering . But honestly you will never understand what human beings want sometimes,you can't predict them. read this story and you will understand where i am coming from.... It's with a heavy and confused heart that I write this email to you. As I speak to you, I just landed back in the U.K leaving my husband in Lagos, barely one week after our 1 year wedding anniversary. |
Re: Frustrated by edwife(f): 3:56pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
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Re: Frustrated by Stillfire: 6:02pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
edwife: Wow that story... He sent me various emails saying he doesn't know what had gotten into him. That I'm too independent and don't allow him to feel like a man, and I don't ask about his movements like a normal wife. that all I do is cook, clean, make money and go to the gym to look good for others so he allowed me to be married to myself. Nigerian men are scary! These men scare me for real, I cannot lie. See his reasons. Shivers down my spine, goosebumps on my goosebumps. Hanhan... I'm speechless 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated by edwife(f): 6:46pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
Stillfire: Lol at goosebumps on my goosebumps.. That's how some of them are my dear,i only commend the woman for not fighting in public and leaving gracefully.Now that's how a Lady should act! On their first year anniversary? that's very mean,and honestly i don't even know if i will be able to forgive. |
Re: Frustrated by armyofone(m): 6:51pm On Apr 30, 2015 |
this soup with hot eba or Ema yummy Kanwuliajeje: After cooking nsala and working out he is going to feel real good. |
Re: Frustrated by Ewuro4: 2:44am On May 01, 2015 |
I edwife:Sad story. Not condoning excuses for his infidelity but they were seperated for six months. Zion was there 24/7 with her man ... Abeg , what's his excuse? You're very right; we will never know what human beings want. |
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