Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

Sit down and work it out!



DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!!!

@OP
why would you stay in this unrewarding unhappy union, and keep on being miserable willingly?! if it doesnt go then it DOESNT GO. dont keep staying in some BS union because of that paper that called you Mrs. being a divorced lady or single again may scare you BUT being miserable in a dead end marriage will simply damage you for life. if you dont go toward where you wanna be in life then you will never get there; and unless you start making steps towards where you wanna be, you will always remain in that miserable place you find yourself today. so you simply have to tell yourself that you try and it didnt work out. we all make mistakes and its never too late to correct them.

here are a few questions for you before you should consider marriage though:
- when was the last time you were happy because of this marriage?
- when was the last time you felt blessed because of that marriage?
- when was the last time you felt good about yourself (or who you see in the mirror every morning)?
- what does your heart beat for, what are you passionate about, and is your life in anyway connected to any of it?

What God has joined together, who am i to put asunder

That the ups and downs of marriage. Sit your spouse down, have a talk I mean real talk. Talk about how you like it(sex). In terms of money you can try some petty petty trade. Quitting is not the solution for your replacement is right at the corner. Above all pray. All the best.

Try to solve all those probs uve just listed, and if it still doesn't work, divorce is d next thing. Btw, are there issues?

How did you marry someone who is not sexually compatible in the first place?

For the money: Men ought to be prepared before marriage.


Mothers coercing son into it, take note


germainediva Lol u too like sex.

As Tony will say. Let me even quote him sef. Na the Genesis be this o

He also said

Ahen

Ooo

Don't tell me you have been a stay at home mum for 14years oh
If not...

SAMBARRY:
As Tony will say. Let me even quote him sef. Na the Genesis be this o

I very much agree with This post

germainediva:
Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

I went through your profile and it seems the se.x issue is very bad with crazy requests.

Has things always been like This? Even pre-marriage?

pls take it easy, there are sure ways of handling this to turn it positive. you may contact me off NL. Some things on an issue like are better discussed offline, esp. cos of some funny/childish ppl we have here.
cheer up!!

if to say na man now,
that woman go Don dey post communication is the key
(she knows herself)

@op
if you try communication and it does not work,
then I must tell you that you don't deserve to die young all the name of marriage.


but check yourself first.

germainediva:
Abeg I nid encouragement.......am tired of ds marriage......been married for 14yrs.......no good sex,no money,full of emotinal abusive...........

OP be encouraged.
Have u thought of being the person you want your husband to be? Instead of waiting for him to provide good sex, you give him great sex whenever you guys are chanced to do it. Buy the book "how to improve your man in bed", it is phenomenal.

Having no money is a common problem, it's not peculiar to you. Make do with what you have. Pls don't compare yourself with your friends cos a lot of ladies do that and give themselves unnecessary heartache. Be happy with what you have and make the best of it.

Emotional abuse is still kinda better than physical abuse. Can you explain what you mean by him being emotionally abusive? Is it verbal or what? I've found out that sometimes the best thing to do is to ignore the demon that feeds on anger and hate that comes with abuse. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start living. Seek out the things that make you happy without resorting to illegal/immoral activities. Ignore him when he becomes emotionally abusive and fid something to do when he begins to behave badly e.g. Watching movies or chatting online or going to a a friend's place to stay.

You have wonderful kids, find joy in them. Take them out and have a good laugh with them together. Focus on being the happy partner. In turn your happiness will rub off on him or at the very least he'll stop harassing you.

And you think the next one will be better ehn?
Ask those who have tried the other 'man'?

KanwuliaJara:
And you think the next one will be better ehn?
Ask those who have tried the other 'man'?

wonderful advice coming from you

KanwuliaJara:
And you think the next one will be better ehn?
Ask those who have tried the other 'man'?

Sometimes, the next one may be way better.

Try the next man

Try the next man. U go hear whennn

@Op does your puccy stink and your attitude suck? Do you guys only try missionary style? Have you been faking orgasms to make him feel good? Any pre-intimacy before the real thing?
On the money side. Is he a civil servant? What do you do for a living?

mkpakanaodogwu:
wonderful advice coming from you

I tire ooo,
For a long time she has been making sense

bebe2:

I tire ooo, For a long time she has been making sense

wonders shall never end

Merlissa:
Sit down and work it out!



DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!!!

Y is divorce not an option? Is she to remain in an unfruitful relationship just cos you feel, without reason, that divorce is not an option?

ireneidiva:

Sometimes, the next one may be way better.

Hmmmmm!
Way better and still in THE MARKET?
Impossible!
Na only "rotten tomatoes" dey full basket for h-insai hot sun o!

The GOOD ones are all taken!!!!

Gbam!

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Your marriage may not be a bed of roses or paradise but there is still room for change i know of a marriage that went through hell for 21years for things later got better in all areas it can happen to you too.
Pray and believe in God for a miracle.




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