#1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you’re married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The
golden rule is, if you can’t be happy with the
person the way he or she is now, don’t get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after their married… for the worst!” So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality,
character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
#2. Choosing a life partner based on physical attractiveness is not bad but, before that , it must be taken into consideration that beauty, as it is, is a natural wealth for a short period of time. Humans change with respect to time. If the person does not age, there are other factors that can really take the attractiveness of the without us not able to do anything about it. We are just life flowers, wild and all rosy in the morning but gloomy and weak by night fall. Have you asked yourself whether you will be able to live with the person should all the attractiveness fade away?

#3.Another factor that influences bad partnership decision is sex. Most ladies especially, when in their youth, desire men who can actually make them feel good in bed. But we must not forget that it is a lifetime decision and a long term execution of plan
not a short term one. The problem is that sometimes we forget that it is a long term decision we are taking and thus choosing a partner for that journey should go far beyond the physicalities. Imagine eating one particular food for a month, two or three. Would you ever have an appetite for that particular food in the next month to come? Definitely no! It is same with sex. Having sex with one particular person for a long period of time can be boring sometimes thus not good factor to consider when choosing a partner. Intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, “Men have two
speeds: on and off.” Women are experience-
oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure,amazing things happen.

#4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person: chemistry and compatibility share common interests share common life goal Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart.
To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re “living for,” while you’re single — and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you.
This is the true definition of a “soul mate.” A soul mate is a goal mate — two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

#5. You choose the wrong person because you get intimately involved too quickly.
Intimacy before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Physical involvement tends to cloud one’s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions.
It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in order to find out if a couple is physically compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don’t have to worry about it. Of all the studies done on
divorce, incompatibility in the intimate arena is
almost never cited as a main reason why people divorce.

#6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: “Do I respect and admire this person?”Most people choose to accept anyone as a life partner because of the fact that they are probably ageing. This is most common among women. Most women believe that once they get to their late twenties and still man less, must accept anyone without consideration if not, much about the composition of the man they are going to tie the knot with which sometimes ends up in disaster.

#7. Pity, they say is the sweetest form of love.
Actually, I don’t see any sense in that. How can you make a choice of a wife or husband based on that?
It is too cheap. If you going out with someone and think the person doesn’t march the kind of
husband or wife you intend marrying, why don’t you just forget about the person and ignore the fact that the person will probably change one day.
In fact it is the worst mistake and harm you can
ever do to yourself.


#8. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You’ll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

ur name is babyboy right?

Now u know how to make a d right choice, I no wan hear story for ur marriage and choice of woman


Make use of d advice



Am married

You're so on point. It takes grace to have a blistering marriage dis days. I kinda pity single guys sha, just can't wondering if there's still sincere lady out there.

Tats y I stay SINGLE... & happy

Taylor86:
ur name is babyboy right?

Now u know how to make a d right choice, I no wan hear story for ur marriage and choice of woman


Make use of d advice



Am married

Bros, am married...jst passing advice to unmarried wife hunters like you.

KashyBaby:
Tats y I stay SINGLE... & happy

Really?

Babacele:
Really?

Aahh hmmmm...y wonderin?

KashyBaby:
Tats y I stay SINGLE... & happy

empress deep down down in your heart of hearts are you really "HAPPY" WITHOUT MARRYING??

obiak4:

empress deep down down in your heart of hearts are you really "HAPPY" WITHOUT MARRYING??

Is this pidgin?? Coz i dnt get it...

KashyBaby:


Aahh hmmmm...y wonderin?

cos I no think say na true you dey talk. When u see your soulmate baby, you won't let him go, cos d only 2 times u will want to be wt him shall b now n forever. Na lie?

Dis is so onpoint

#9 - Not having a vision of the person you want

When you have no standards, it's easy to setup with just anyone and have regrets
Nothing wrong with having standards
You can decide to willingly and consciously lower them but start from somewhere, don't just settle
Everyone should have minimum reasonable standards

KashyBaby:
Tats y I stay SINGLE... & happy

Not for long... I'm coming for you!

Qualer:


Not for long... I'm coming for you!

Mmmmmm.....

Babacele:
cos I no think say na true you dey talk. When u see your soulmate baby, you won't let him go, cos d only 2 times u will want to be wt him shall b now n forever. Na lie?

Hhahahah..but bae, lemme tell u sumtin too...tat not all of us,regardless of ur age,race or gender has its own soulmate...so i am ok being single..i am happy & i am fine

KashyBaby:



Hhahahah..but bae, lemme tell u sumtin too...tat not all of us,regardless of ur age,race or gender has its own soulmate...so i am ok being single..i am happy & i am fine

Your wish.

KashyBaby:



Hhahahah..but bae, lemme tell u sumtin too...tat not all of us,regardless of ur age,race or gender has its own soulmate...so i am ok being single..i am happy & i am fine

Your wish , but factor x can change ur mind. don't tell me u ve never felt butterflies in yr tommy n sweet fever for any Adam b4?

Babacele:
Your wish , but factor x can change ur mind. don't tell me u ve never felt butterflies in yr tommy n sweet fever for any Adam b4?

Been there,done tat but i am talking abt my present status & not the past

KashyBaby:


Been there,done tat but i am talking abt my present status & not the past

Ouch! sorry baby. you just inspired a song n ll gist u abt it later. Enjoy your new status.

Babacele:
Ouch! sorry baby. you just inspired a song n ll gist u abt it later. Enjoy your new status.

Aight...juz drop here whenever ur ready

KashyBaby:

Aight...juz drop here whenever ur ready

ok

KashyBaby:


Been there,done tat but i am talking abt my present status & not the past

No offense intended. Am just curious. If u dont need a man in ur life, dont u need a dicck in ur life? As in a big black dicck?

rudebouy:


No offense intended. Am just curious. If u dont need a man in ur life, dont u need a dicck in ur life? As in a big black dicck?

Tats the thing....i dnt know but honestly i dnt feel of a "need"

KashyBaby:


Tats the thing....i dnt know but honestly i dnt feel of a "need"

Well its good ur lady sha. Cos an average lady can stay a whole year without sex but an average man cant. But when konji begin nack u, u can always get urself a friend with benefit.

And, why do you always say "tat" instead of "that" or beta still "dat"? I know its an abbreviation but it kinda confuses me.

And when will u be coming to naija? I wd love to host you. How abt dis Christmas?

rudebouy:


Well its good ur lady sha. Cos an average lady can stay a whole year without sex but an average man cant. But when konji begin nack u, u can always get urself a friend with benefit.

And, why do you always say "tat" instead of "that" or beta still "dat"? I know its an abbreviation but it kinda confuses me.

And when will u be coming to naija? I wd love to host you. How abt dis Christmas?

Hahhahaha...FWB is aint ma thang bae im coming soon...

KashyBaby:


Hahhahaha...FWB is aint ma thang bae im coming soon...

Frankly speaking, I wd love to have a 5 days exclusive private tourism with you, you know...just the two of us...we can make it if we try...

rudebouy:


Frankly speaking, I wd love to have a 5 days exclusive private tourism with you, you know...just the two of us...we can make it if we try...

Hahahahah.....5days exclusive private tourismwell i dunno wat d hell is tat mean ....but one thing for sure il b all over Nigeria...first stop abuja

KashyBaby:



Hahahahah.....5days exclusive private tourismwell i dunno wat d hell is tat mean ....but one thing for sure il b all over Nigeria...first stop abuja

We cd do d tour togeda u know? And I wd love to be ya delegate waiting for thee at d airport.

All over naija u sed. Hope u have d dollars for such a tour? We certainly do need dat ur tourism dollars

rudebouy:


We cd do d tour togeda u know? And I wd love to be ya delegate waiting for thee at d airport.

All over naija u sed. Hope u have d dollars for such a tour? We certainly do need dat ur tourism dollars

u dnt need to wait in the airport...

KashyBaby:

u dnt need to wait in the airport...

So how do I catch u when u arrive na?