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Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by Nobody: 1:53pm On Jun 13, 2015
Outstanding debt.
Who has some and what is the plan for paying it off?

Children.
Do you want them? If so, how many? If not, are you sure
enough about that decision to take permanent steps to
ensure you don't have them (like a vasectomy)? If you do
want them, when do you want to have your first? Are you
open to adoption or fertility treatments if you're unable
to conceive naturally? How long do you want to try to
conceive naturally before trying different options?

Religion.
If you practice a religion or have a particular faith, how
important is it that your partner share the faith and
practice it with you? How does your religion or faith
affect your lifestyle? If you plan to have kids, what
religion, if any, do you want to raise them in?

Bank accounts and bill-sharing.
Will you share a bank account? Keep individual accounts?
Both? And what bills will be paid by what accounts? Will
you each put a certain percentage of your income toward
shared bills? Do you have an emergency fund? What if
one person is out of work or decides to stay home to
raise the kids? What's your plan for affording that?

Division of household labor.
Dishes, laundry, yada, yada, yada. Barter, negotiate and
plead if you have to so that you aren't stuck doing the
thing you least like all the time. If you hate, hate, hate
washing dishes, but don't mind cooking, suggest to your
partner that you head meal preparation if he or she
agrees to take on the dishes. This works best if the thing
you hate with a passion isn't also the same thing your
partner hates with a passion. If it is, find a way to
compromise, using your best negotiation tactics "Okay,
I'll empty the litter box and do the laundry if you please
wash the dishes...

Sex.
Do you want to sleep with just one person for the rest of
your life? Can you and still be happy and satisfied? If not,
you need to discuss either the possibility of an open
marriage, strategies for keeping the spark alive, or
waiting on marriage until the idea of monogamy isn't a
death sentence for you.

Hard or soft.
Your mattress! You will (hopefully) be sleeping in the
same bed as this person for a very, very long time, and a
comfortable mattress is imperative for a good night's
rest. Rack up too many sleepless nights and your
relationship will suffer. So, if you and your partner have
different ideas of what makes a comfortable mattress,
how will you compromise?

Family obligations.
How much time do you spend with your family now, how
much do you expect to spend with them once you're
married and potentially have children, and how much
time do you expect your spouse to spend with them (and
vice versa)? How do you plan to spend your holidays and
what's your plan for giving both sets of families equal
time with you/your children during the major holidays?
Are you the type of person who likes to vacation with
your family, and if so, how often?

Feel free adding yours......
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by frankay430(m): 1:57pm On Jun 13, 2015
typing....FTC tinz
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by INTROVERT(f): 1:57pm On Jun 13, 2015
Very true... very
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by olaideeeedris(m): 1:58pm On Jun 13, 2015
Food u love to eat and those u hate to even see... How abt dat?


Ur taste for fashion... Skimpy, moderate or ....


And lastly and very important...


Ur philosophy abt life, do the two of u view the world from the same window? If no, every would definitely lead quarrel (even d channel to watch go lead to world war lll)
Re: Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married by WINEBERRY(f): 2:14pm On Jun 13, 2015
OK THE MAIN POINT IS BANK ACCOUNT AND BILL SHARING..... MOST GIRLS WONT DO IT BUT PREFER TO BE FEMINIST






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