Anger and your health
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But managing anger can be
a problem for many people who find it difficult to keep their
anger under control.
Health issues linked to unresolved anger include high blood
pressure, heart attack, depression, anxiety, colds, flu and
problems with digestion.
But anger doesn’t have to be a problem. “You can control your
anger, and you have a responsibility to do so,” says clinical
psychologist Isabel Clarke, a specialist in anger management.
“It can feel intimidating, but it can be energising too.”
Dealing with anger
“Everyone has a physical reaction to anger,” says Isabel. “Be
aware of what your body is telling you, and take steps to calm
yourself down.”
Recognise your anger signs
Your heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly, preparing
you for action. You might also notice other signs, such as
tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists. "If you notice
these signs, get out of the situation if you’ve got a history of
losing control,” says Isabel.
Count to 10
Counting to 10 gives you time to cool down so you can think
more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out.
Breathe slowly
Breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you
breathe out. “You automatically breathe in more than out when
you’re feeling angry, and the trick is to breathe out more than
in,” says Isabel. “This will calm you down effectively and help
you think more clearly.”
Managing anger in the long term
Once you're able to recognise the signs that you’re getting
angry and can calm yourself down, you can start looking at
ways to control your anger more generally.
Exercise can help with anger
Bring down your general stress levels with exercise and
relaxation. Running, walking, swimming, yoga and meditation
are just a few of the activities that can help reduce stress.
"Exercise as part of your daily life is a good way to get rid of
irritation and anger,” says Isabel.
Looking after yourself may keep you calm
Make time to relax regularly, and ensure that you get enough
sleep. Drugs and alcohol can make anger problems worse.
“They lower inhibitions, and actually we need inhibitions to stop
us acting unacceptably when we’re angry,” says Isabel.
Get creative to get on top of your emotions
Writing, making music, dancing or painting can release tension
and help reduce feelings of anger.
Talk about how you feel
Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful, and can
help you get a different perspective on the situation.
Look at the way you think
“Try to let go of any unhelpful ways of thinking,” says Isabel.
“Thoughts such as ‘It’s not fair,’ or ‘People like that shouldn’t
be on the roads,’ can make anger worse.”
Thinking like this will keep you focused on whatever it is that’s
making you angry. Let these thoughts go and it will be easier to
calm down.
Try to avoid using phrases that include:
always (for example, "You always do that."
never ("You never listen to me."
should or shouldn't ("You should do what I want," or "You
shouldn't be on the roads."
must or mustn't ("I must be on time," or "I mustn't be late."
ought or oughtn't ("People ought to get out of my way."
not fair
Getting help with anger
If you feel you need help dealing with your anger, see your GP.
There might be local anger management courses or counselling
that could help you.

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