If i am that women I will not tell him a damn thing. Drag it out for as long as possible till he finds out because he is already cheating and please know you are not the only woman he is texting/cheating with. And he will continue to cheat after he finds out your real identity. Which then gives you leverage

My advice is that "Life is too short to stress over anyone... Give yourself to someone who wants you. Marriage or no marriage"

Interesting, so as they say a man wants his wife to be is wife, LovePeddler, mother and friend. I dont think you have anything to loose. Get all the sexy kit you can lay your hands on, start wearing them and get noticed, then let the cat out of the bag, also get ready for baby number 5. he only wants a distraction from reality, so try to understand

Let me take a nap... great shot, anyway.