Infidelity is the number one reason why most
marriages fail, according to statistics provided by
marriage counsellors. They say that every
unfaithfulness in marriage starts with a proposal—even
from the most unexpected person—which can,
however, be accepted or rejected.

PUNCH asked some people what they would do if their
spouses’ friends want to date them



See Responses Below And Share Your Thought:


I’ll inform my husband
Ruth Iniye

If I keep quiet over such matter, it could turn to
something else that I may not be able to handle later.
For instance, if I tell my husband at a later period or
he perhaps finds out on his own – maybe he sees a
text his friend sends to my phone – it may land me in
trouble. It is better to tell him when it happens and
clear my mind rather than wait till a later time. If my
husband is mature enough, I know he will handle the
matter wisely, thereby removing the yoke off my head.


I’ll chase her away
Lawrence Popoola

I will never allow another lady take the place of my
wife. I will keep to my marriage oath and do all my
best not to cheat on my wife. So if another woman,
who is even a friend of my spouse, asks me out, I will
bluntly refuse. I may not tell my wife because I am not
a kid, but I will make sure I settle the matter wisely –
simply by chasing her away.


How dare he?
Lawal Ramota

It is highly ridiculous. It happens and it has happened
to close friends of mine. First, I will challenge him how
he dares do such a thing to his friend. I’m not even
the potential victim here, but my husband, who is his
friend. Such a person will not back off if I don’t
confront him and probably threaten him with reporting
him to my husband. Maybe if he hears that, he will
back off. If he stops it, I will not bother reporting him
to my husband, but if he doesn’t, I will tell my husband
and watch as the event unfolds between the two of
them.


I’ll embarrass her
Michael Ibhe

This is a serious temptation. But as my pastor has
taught me, I will flee from it; I will not confront it
because I am a man. Any man can fall for this kind of
thing, especially if one’s wife is not around, but by the
grace of God, I will not allow that woman to have her
way in my home. I could even play a prank on her. I
could ask her that we meet at a place (like a
restaurant) for the date, and then while she’s waiting
for me on that day, I’ll show up with my wife. That
kind of embarrassment is enough to stop her from
disturbing me. She will never forget it.


I’ll set him up
Juliet Adekagun

Such a man is a devil who wants to destroy my home.
And when temptation comes, you flee from it. That
kind of man is not a real friend, he’s a betrayer and I
will run away from him. If he is too persistent, I will try
to set him up and let my spouse find out for himself
because if I tell him, he may not believe me, especially
if it’s a friend that I have complained about in time
past. He may assume I want to separate him and his
friend. You know how men think


She must leave me alone
Olalere Ifeoluwa

The last thing I want in my marriage is for a strange
woman to show up and try to snatch me away from
my wife. I will let her know that I am not that type of
man she probably thinks I am. If she doesn’t back off,
I may inform my wife. And you know women; she will
call the bluff of her friend. When that happens, she will
leave me alone. She will even cease to be a friend of
our family again – which is what I will like.


I’ll seek help
Dare Bunmi

I could seek counselling from parents and friends –
people that I trust could give me wise counsel. The
truth of the matter is, if one keeps quiet over this
issue and expects the man will back off later, it could
be dangerous. It is when someone voices out in time
of trouble that he or she can be saved. I know that by
the time I inform good friends and family members
about it, I will get at least one way to deal with the
matter. Telling my husband should be the last resort,
especially if I want to save their friendship. Otherwise,
he will be the first person to be told there’s fire on the
mountain.


My friends must hear about it
Cyrus Aliegbe

This is not an issue that is only for me. I will try to
inform a few friends about the matter and seek their
counsel because I may think I know what to do, but I
could be wrong about it. Good friends are priceless;
they can keep me away from evil by providing me
good counsel. By the time I inform some of them, I will
know what to do, but definitely, I would not let my wife
know about it – especially if I know she may not be
able to handle it well.


My husband doesn’t have to know
Desire Igarando

This is definitely a serious issue and it requires
wisdom to handle. One thing is, if I tell my husband
about it, what is the probability that he will believe my
story? I have seen this kind of scenario before
whereby the man believed his friend and doubted his
wife. He believed that his friend of so many years
couldn’t do such a thing to him, and thought probably
that his wife wanted him to break his friendship with
his friend. You can never predict a man. Therefore, if
it happens to me, I may keep mum over it and fight
the guy off on my own. I don’t have to tell my
husband. Since I can’t cheat on my husband, there’s
no need informing him.


I’ll ask her one question
Michael Oladejo

Such people are everywhere but they are not difficult
to deal with. I will ask her that if she were my wife,
would she want to be cheated on? If she says no, I will
then ask her why she wants me to do that against her
friend (my wife). If she says yes, I will tell her to go
and look for another home to destroy, not mine.
Useless people like that could ruin one’s home if they
are given a chance. I have determined never to cheat
on my wife, no matter what.

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Remsilla:
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Hmmn...

Bleep now nobe u

Well, won't say something much other than tell to go and die *

Most of all these hypocrites above would do otherwise.

Well, as for me, I'd just turn her into my concubine, afterall, King Solomon started from the bottom until he had 700.

Zoharariel:
Most of all these hypocrites above would do otherwise.

Well, as for me, I'd just turn her into my concubine, afterall, King Solomon started from the bottom until he had 700.

As I you knew what I had in mind.