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Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Outstrip(f): 2:45am On Mar 12, 2009 |
stillwater I think most people agree with you. It is just that the 5:30 thing is just too much. I bet the kids just feel like she is a nag. I remember that we always tried to please our mom by going above and beyond but she would still complain as soon as she walks through the front door. My dad had to even let her have it once when she did that to us. I don't even think she realized that she was not being appreciative. I think the chores are okay for the older kid but lets not forget that they are still kids and I personally think that she is doing a good job with teaching them responsibility |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 12:08pm On Mar 12, 2009 |
So yesterday I was off from work, took the day, and I decided I would do so of thier chores and time myself. Living and game room - picked up both and vaccumed - 20 mins Mop dinning room and foyer on hands and knees - 20 mins + 10 mins to dry Cleaned the bathroom - 16 mins I dont require he mops on his hands and knees everyday just Saturday or Sunday which ever is the top to bottom clean day. So for the 11 year old he has to: Mop kitchen, dinning room, foyer - 45 mins Take out trash - 10 mins Clean room - 30 mins he should be done by the time I get home and the same for the rest, even if i give him an extra 25 mins to do the floor, which he should not need, I dont understand how I am asking too much. Home at 3 pm break 3:20 Snack -3:45 chores 5:15 chores done homework -6:30 5:30 - 6 pm mommy gets home homework done by 630 now he can go play until dinner and play after dinner. Last night I did all thier chores before they came home so I asked the 9 year old to clean out the coat closet and hang all the coats. She started at 4pm still at 730 she was working on the closet. It should have took all of 20-30 mins to do. Her friends came to door to ask if she could come outside, but she had to say no because she was still doing the closet. Then she cries when i yell. I yell because if i dont stand right over top of her tapping my feet she wont do it. And if i have to stand there I might as well do it myself. That girl is so lazy and no man is going to want a lazy woman. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by JJYOU: 12:28pm On Mar 12, 2009 |
sistawoman:mmmm why did you create this thread sister? |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Outstrip(f): 2:44pm On Mar 12, 2009 |
Na wa o. Abeg these children will put ex lax in your juice o. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 5:10pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
JJYOU: Because I thought I was going crazy and asking too much, because I wanted to discuss strategies with other parents and how they handled chores and responsibilities. I am glad I did. I took the suggestion by 1) I Post a "chore chart." and have them involved in the creation of the chore chart. i Decide together with them what chores will be listed and will be expected to be completed. I Use stickers or tie a pencil next to the chart for record keeping. and used it. We had a family meeting last night and discussed chores. We talked about time lines and decided on rewards and consequences son took notes for the family, we talked about what they need from me to get thier chores done, devoloped new rules to make that possible and I worked this morning on creating the chart. The new chore chart will go up Sunday evening for use on Monday. Keep the ideas coming. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 6:28pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
i'm glad you had a family meeting over this cos your last post was unreasonable comparing the time you do the chores to that of ur kids sistawoman haba! they are still kids |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 6:30pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
salsera: Lmao. abi o. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 7:42pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
salsera: why is that unreasonable? I did not say they had to do it in the same time frame that I did it in. I gave them extra time. But i feel like if you give a child an inch they will take a yard, therefore setting time limits for what you want done and how you want it done cant be unreasonable. They should clearly know what I am expecting of them and I should clear on what they expect from me. Without timelines the chores just run into dinner time and bedtime and then they are never done. But please tell me what age your children are and what thier chores are the timeline for completion. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 7:45pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
DeReloaded: Please share with me how you get our children to do thier chores. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by MrCrackles(m): 7:46pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
Topic It aint easy ooo! I praise the women outhere Thank you God, for our women! |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 7:47pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
sista Im not against your planning. It just seems rigid. Not enough time is allowed for the kids to unwind after school If they are expected to do all of that right after, what strength will they have for homework? Also does your house get dirty that often that you need to do a complete cleaning EVERY WEEKEND? I dont get it. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 7:53pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
LOL Dereloaded, sistah don ask you question i guess we just have to look on since we don't have schedule for any kid let the iya agba talk and i will take note |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 7:55pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
true question, homes here arent that dirty sistah unless you are just trying to groom them. focus more on the 11 years old girl |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 7:58pm On Mar 13, 2009 |
*Hauwa*: lol abi o. In Naija at least the reason is cos of the overly dusty environment. Today windows are clean. Tomorrow it's all red and dusty. Annoying. They dont have that problem here |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 12:07am On Mar 14, 2009 |
like Dereloaded said the timelines are rigid your version of adding extratime is 10mins, 20mins kids are easily distracted (cept when they are watching tv) and chores dont necessarily engage their full attention as they grow older they'll learn to focus more and do their chores faster and better Can't they have like a choreless day - you know like adults have public holiday give them something to look forward too a they grow older they wont need an incentive |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by sistawoman: 2:08pm On Mar 14, 2009 |
it can take a child 10 mins to destroy an entire house. We do the top to bottom because that is the time that i use to really get out the white gloves, paying attention to the corners, checking under beds, looking in closets. Getting all the places we missed or overlooked during the week. It is really my time to work directly with them on maintaining the entire house. during the week we dont even tidy the basement or tend to the front porch or yard work. The weekend top to bottom makes the weekday chores more of a maintaining thing. Thus making it possible to use just the mop Mon-Fri. *Hauwa*: salsera: they dont have a choreless day because I dont have a choreless day. Even when I am sick I still perform. If you do your chores early then the rest of the day is yours. Give me 2 hours Saturday morning for the top to bottom and the rest of the day is yours. Then Sunday morning they wake up to smelling breakfast cooking. Here are thier incentives: Boy 11 allowance every week paid directly to his bank account ($20.00) Game Stop gift card (50.00) per month New computer for his personal use, brought that in January - mind you mine is 4 years old TV and Cable in his room Cell Phone - more for my benifit then his so that I can get a hold of him and it has a GPS tracking system in it if ever he gets lost new shoes every other month new clothes every month - at least one outfit for school and one for personal use, but we take advantage of sales and clearance so he usually walks away with 4-5 new outfits. All the children are treated equally as well. When they ask for something if I have it they get it. I have not brought myself a new pair of shoes in months, a new outfit in forever - i sew what i need for myself. They work hard but we play hard as a family. We have movies night, pj nights, kids day out, one on one every three weeks (for instance this week 11 year old, next week 9 year old, following week 9 year old, then it starts again). We go to shows and plays and get out and just visit things in our new city and our old city. Thier friends love to stay here overnight because they say my cooking is so much better than anything thier moms cook. They love to hang out here because they have the newest game systems and the coolest most laid back mom never telling them to quiet it down. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Hauwa1: 7:18pm On Mar 14, 2009 |
sistah, does your husband join in the household work? |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Outstrip(f): 9:00pm On Mar 14, 2009 |
*Hauwa*: I was going to ask that myself. I am betting the answer is no |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 11:14pm On Mar 14, 2009 |
sistawoman: O ga |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 12:50am On Mar 15, 2009 |
@ sistawoman This kind discipline go make your children run. Are they in a military school? Reading a book every week and doing a report? Reading a story to the younger one every night? All this force force nor go work. Force love, force study, force chores. Do you allow your kids to take initiatives once in a while? |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Outstrip(f): 4:52am On Mar 15, 2009 |
She has said in the past that they are not allowed to get juice out of the fridge without permission. This is simply too much. I had similar chores as a child but I sure as hell did not do it everyday not to talk of before 5:30. This is not healthy for those kids. Honestly I can tell she wants the best for her kids but the more she talks the more she starts to sound manic in a way |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 5:41pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Outstrip: These kind pikin fit hate their mama. Do they even have time to play at all? You are robbing them of their childhood with your maniacal sense of duty. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 5:44pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Sistawoman, seems to me that the kids are the only one doing the chores. This has got to be the most stupid thing I have ever read. So I am a tenant in my parent's house who has to work for them to pay for their hospitality? I won't even try to explain how parent-child relationship works because it's obvious you are too dense to understand it. Shior! |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Treetop20(m): 6:57pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
all i can say is raise your kids up the best way you know how. they turn out good then that is all that matters. every parent is different |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by DeReloaded: 9:53pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Wouldnt surprise if mr strongdck doesnt help out cept for the occasional fix a pipe clog here or there Sistawoman, I dont have kids but I dont think any child should have a computer in their room til maybe college or at least 16/17. It's dangerous esp nowadays. Cell phone thing definitely makes sense Everything else is cool, just that doing the intensive cleaning EVERY WEEKEND(American houses really dont get that dirty) is weird but hey it's your house. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by bawomolo(m): 10:38pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
michelin89: whew tell us why you mnad. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 10:50pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
bawomolo: Because what she said is bullshit! Make she come explain herself and I hope she has a valid explanation for that crap she shot. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 10:54pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
michelin89:You must have mistaken me for someone who gives a shit about what you think. Make your post more understanding by subtracting the unnecessary garbage you posted in it. Maybe then, we can logically discuss what your dilemma is. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by chiogo(f): 11:16pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Well, I started cleaning the house before I was 11 but definitely not before 6 years of age. Damn! I can't even remember doing anything at 6.lmao @ mopping on hands and knees. Even now, the only time I clean the house are weekends. weekdays are just too stressful for me to be bothered with housework except for dish-washing and preparing simple food. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 11:25pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Did you just say "logically"? Ahahahhahahah! Osanobuamen. What is logical about what your post? Just because your parents enslaved you in your house making you pay for their financial support does not mean that's how it's supposed to go. It's your parents' DUTY to take care of you until you are capable of doing so. They aren't do anything but what they are supposed to do so I don't get this unnecessary exploitation of children for those chores you HATE to do. |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 11:26pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
You tried, but try again. Am sure you don't talk garbage all the time |
Re: Managing Children And Getting The Chores Done by Nobody: 11:30pm On Mar 15, 2009 |
Ebony-Silk: Uhm, I am not the delusional one here. Sorry for your exploited childhood. I hope your kids will have a better future. |
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