raayah:
I am female and I agree with some of the points you have made.

Feminism has turned men into evil and abusive beings. Men have no rights and have been subjected to unfair practices especially in divorce cases and child custody battle.

However, I don't see anything wrong with men cooking and taking care of the house, especially if the wife is working more than the husband, or if the husband is a stay at home dad.
Fun Fact: Do you know that 91% of executive chefs are male?

snakebeat:

But ur gender says otherwise. Aren't u proud of ur gender?

raayah:
I am female and I agree with some of the points you have made.

Feminism has turned men into evil and abusive beings. Men have no rights and have been subjected to unfair practices especially in divorce cases and child custody battle.

However, I don't see anything wrong with men cooking and taking care of the house, especially if the wife is working more than the husband, or if the husband is a stay at home dad.
Fun Fact: Do you know that 91% of executive chefs are male?

EddyBlingzz:
great post.
i couldn't agree with you more.
i've been reiterating this storyline since i can remember.

things really have fallen apart, since the center(father) cannot hold.

mentorandfriend:
I agree with you that there's nothing wrong in a man cooking and washing plates. But there is this recent trend of aculturation of our cherished traditional values; a situation where the woman sees it not as a favour, but as a duty of the man to share kitchen cores with her equally, since they're in it together. One sad drawback of equality in the home.

I frown at it same way I will frown at a man who sees it not as a favour, but as the responsibilty of the woman to contribute more money to running the household, to be the breadwinner of the home. Both are misnomers.

raayah:
I am female and I agree with some of the points you have made.

Feminism has turned men into evil and abusive beings. Men have no rights and have been subjected to unfair practices especially in divorce cases and child custody battle.

However, I don't see anything wrong with men cooking and taking care of the house, especially if the wife is working more than the husband, or if the husband is a stay at home dad.
Fun Fact: Do you know that 91% of executive chefs are male?

raayah:


I changed genders because i was receiving too much emails.

no2fuks:


executive chefs has nothing to do with cooking at home. exec chefs cooks at the job ie hotel or resturant.

raayah:


I used that example to show that men cooking is not abnormal or unmanly.
I also believe that men cooking at home is not wrong especially if the woman is the breadwinner.

cococandy:
Awww

Is it unfortunate too that the woman is expected to be an equal player in the home support?

My dear there's nothing wrong with equality at all except for those who wish to label something else as equality in their dictionary.

I saw you mentioned some thing about the fathers
now doing dishing and women doing the shouting in the home as if it were a role reversal of sorts.

In a sane environment, should anybody's role involve shouting or yelling? Whether he be the head or she be the new head as per what feminism is causing?

Abeg that's uncultured people's attitude, and has nothing to do with partriachy or feminism.

Yustash001:
Lubbish...

But all these have come at a cost. Children that have no fear for anybody in the home. The society is paying the high price for the loss of strong men in the homes. What we have today is a celebration of confraternal brigandage, street gangsters everywhere, teenage prostitution, and a flamboyant display of I-can't-be-cautioned attitude.

mentorandfriend:
Whether uncultured, or the nascent trend of acculturation problem, the fault is clearly with fathers who have become soft, or worse even... silent in raising the kids, in taking their place as authorities in the home; as mothers become super mums and shoulder it all. The dangerous teenage boys who rule the hood, kill and maim without conscience is clearly a fault that should be led at the feet of weak and/or silent fathers.
That was the point of the post.

Stillfire:


Nigeria is patriarchal and all these occur, so I don't get your point.
How do you explain a case like Nigeria, that is evidently so patriarchal, ruled by Nigerian men since independence and totally being destroyed by men at the moment? If anything Nigerian Patriarchy is destroying itself (to my pleasure of course) since it has been unable to curb its excesses and create a better place for women and children.
At least your African forefathers despite the society being patrilineal had the foresight of putting up structures that did not silence the voice of the African woman, but since the colonialists came in from a region that regarded womanhood as disfigured images of men, you men gladly helped them destroy these female structures. Even the colonialists have abandoned these demeaning ideals and their societies are better than yours. So how has this Nigeria's demonic patriarchy benefited our society?

This surely doesn't look like men who have gone 'soft', lmao.

Many men – including fathers – bear the burden of an inherited historical arrogance and superiority over women. I see it everyday when I watch a man say sexist remarks at an ordinary woman going about her business or on social media. And, of course, I see it in myself. We can't just come to terms with the fact that a woman can employ you, pay you, serve you a querry, or sack you when she wants.

Lmao. At least you are being honest here that women have now been empowered, it is left for you as men to learn how to adapt to the empowered woman.

wisdomiskey:
dont listen 2 all deez yeye feminazis on NL most of em r bored fulltime housewives
dey hav no voice in deiir homes buh cum online to tlk nonsenze most of dem dont practice wat dey preach on diz site
dey cant dare 2 look into deir huzbands eyez wen submissivly svckin on hiz sliooooong shud i name names?

raayah:

I changed genders because i was receiving too much emails.

raayah:


I used that example to show that men cooking is not abnormal or unmanly.
I also believe that men cooking at home is not wrong especially if the woman is the breadwinner.

Stillfire:


Nigeria is patriarchal and all these occur, so I don't get your point.
How do you explain a case like Nigeria, that is evidently so patriarchal, ruled by Nigerian men since independence and totally being destroyed by men at the moment? If anything Nigerian Patriarchy is destroying itself (to my pleasure of course) since it has been unable to curb its excesses and create a better place for women and children.
At least your African forefathers despite the society being patrilineal had the foresight of putting up structures that did not silence the voice of the African woman, but since the colonialists came in from a region that regarded womanhood as disfigured images of men, you men gladly helped them destroy these female structures. Even the colonialists have abandoned these demeaning ideals and their societies are better than yours. So how has this Nigeria's demonic patriarchy benefited our society?

This surely doesn't look like men who have gone 'soft', lmao.




Many men – including fathers – bear the burden of an inherited historical arrogance and superiority over women. I see it everyday when I watch a man say sexist remarks at an ordinary woman going about her business or on social media. And, of course, I see it in myself. We can't just come to terms with the fact that a woman can employ you, pay you, serve you a querry, or sack you when she wants.

Lmao. At least you are being honest here that women have now been empowered, it is left for you as men to learn how to adapt to the empowered woman.

alphalpha:


I disagree with you...
i think that should be between the couple. they should understand themslves.


Question: on who works more, stays at home more, or is breadwinner;

what if wifey is a billionaire, hubby is a millionaire, both can equally, independently cater for the family? Who does the cooking etc?