cococandy:
Men no dey sabi make marriage work?

We haff tire for all these women this and that.

I've been waiting for your comment actually and I was expecting it to be in this direction. You didn't disappoint me.

I clearly stated out at the beginning of the thread that I would like to concentrate on one factor only.

AgapeCharis:
I've been waiting for your comment actually and I was expecting it to be in this direction. You didn't disappoint me.

I clearly stated out at the beginning of the thread that I would like to concentrate on one factor only.

cococandy:
good.

Now you know you can count on me.

Gracia.

KanwuliaJara:
Only if it is "workable"!

Chidoks:
thanks.this is a good reminder.most of us actually started out like this but along the line stress,familiarity and other factors crop up to 'change' us.yeah you got it right! most men will be controlled with gentility but the moment you as much as raise your voice a bit,he sees you as a competitor and brings out the demons in him.little wonder the bible admonishes that wise women build their homes.you advice is divine.thanks again.
** eno dey easy sha but what else can a good woman do...

True that. Most times, couples start out on this ground but familiarity steps in and nudges one to change mannerism. All we have to do is to keep on examining ourselves.

True true, e no easy. But like you said, wetin man go do na?
Though, it can become somewhat natural to you if you decide you're going to keep up with it.

kemylarge:
d challenge I have is were to worship. I don't like my husband's church.we've talked abt it but problem I c is my husband is thinking of wat people will say.he's been dr 5yrs no change.thanks op

What people will say shouldn't be a factor in deciding what's good for the both of you na. So long it's for the benefit of you both. Have you had any of your friends consult you before they take a major decision in their homes?

I used to care about what people thought about me until one day I tried to pay my bills with their opinions.

AgapeCharis:
An insight into the emboldened please?

bukatyne:
OP:

Interesting.

IMHO, your message would have been fantastic without the last paragraph.

You are insinuating that a woman who has 'equal' rights with her husband will have an unhealthy marriage.

You are telling us that a woman should believe in her husband and communicate counter opinions/suggestions respectfully which I agree

Shouldn't the husband be same way?

'The husband loves the one He serves and the one who serves him. He fights the one at level with him'

If the wife serving him makes her below him, Does serving the wife make him below her since there is a 'level'?

Happy Saturday

zeb04:
there are so many "good"advice in here for the woman but sadly marriage is still falling apart even though,most are adhering to it that simply means both parties have to be committed to make marriage work

so brother agape, don't you think its time you listen to your own advice?

the energy you use in putting these up,use that same time to talk to yourselves. clearly the fault is on you guys.

Of course it's the responsibility of both parties to make their marriage work. The man has a role as well. There are men that will never take the advice of their wives just because it's coming from the wife. Maybe because they don't want to be seen as a husband been controlled by the wife but that's plain sílly.


Last paragraph.....For real? That's quiet funny. All marriages that failed have different reasons why they failed. You can't just come up and say the fault is on guys. Most times, both parties have a share of the blame. By the way, about listening to my own advice....What makes you think I haven't?

cococandy:
good.

Now you know you can count on me.

SAMBARRY:
now I like this new cococandy

not the overajeboish suegbe doll

cococandy:
lol.

SAMBARRY:
Mr agapecharis una no dey taya for list ni

Which list?
Your eye clear so?

AgapeCharis:
Which list?
Your eye clear so?

AgapeCharis:
I didn't mean to say there is a level. That line was meant to portray a message of how men feel when their wives start ordering them around. You see some start saying; I am the man in this house! Just like when someone starts telling you "I am older than you", you know something is wrong with your mannerism.

I don't know if you get me?

MarvellousGod:
But it's ok when a husband orders a wife around? ?

AgapeCharis:
Did my writeup insinuate that?

MarvellousGod:
I asked cos you said men don't like it when their wives order them around. ..

It isn't peculiar to men, nobody wants to be ordered around. ...