Its a normal thing that when I'm married, Ill have girlfriends by the side

@poster

You've have created an interesting thread 

@sistawoman

That was a cute conversation. If this kind of conversation go on in homes, it will help the couple adjust where necessary and understand some things.

whitelexi:

I think instead of cheating [as it is now called], a man should just practice polygamy if he can afford it
That way, he is not doing anything wrong in the eyes of God and man!

Abi women, wetin una think?

sistawoman:

Wow this is interesting, hubby and I had this very talk last night.

He says to find a married Nigerian man that does not have a GF is like looking for a needle in a haystack.  That men that dont have GF are called bastards by other Nigerian men, unless of course they are married to black women (nice how he cleaned that one up).

He said that married Nigerian men, of his generation, cheat because their wives dont play very well and their feeling is that the women should come with this knowledge.  I asked why not teach them and his response was that you cant teach a woman how to play very well she has to know this.

So I asked more questions:

Is the TV full of sexy films like here?
Do they have sex ed at school?
Do women talk about sex openly with each other?
Do the men and women talk about what they like sexually?

His responses were shocking to me and helps me understand why I face so much criticism here on the boards.

No the TV is not full of sexy films like here.
No they dont have sex ed in school
No they dont talk about sex within their own groups
No the men just know that Nigerian women are frigid in bed and dont know much so they look outside.

He said that with each generation it is getting better and better that with his grandfathers generation the men did not even kiss their wives they just climbed on top did their business and climbed off.  He said that back then the boys and girls slept together and they were not allowed to touch the women or they would be beaten.  To say manliness or puzzy was severely punished.  He said they had great discipline back then.

He also said that it was just known that the men would have women outside and the women just over looked these other women and maintained their home.  He once told me how he told his mother of a woman his father was seeing on the same block and how his mother told him to hush his mouth and tend to his studies.  The men were shown by their fathers that cheating is the way of man and the women where shown by their mothers that they should just tolerate.

As the generations progressed they became more and more sexual with their partners and that todays generation is far more sexual than his.  The women now dont talk about sex, but they watch more western movies and music.

I guess that is where the difference in western women and Nigerian women is great.  Western women will talk with their gf's about sex and sexuality.  We talk about tricks of the trade and learn new secrets from each other.  We talk to our men about what we do in the bedroom and seek their approval and watch blue films for education and excitement.  It appears, from what he is saying, that women in Nigeria are headed down this path as well.

whitelexi:

I think instead of cheating [as it is now called], a man should just practice polygamy if he can afford it
That way, he is not doing anything wrong in the eyes of God and man!

Abi women, wetin una think?

farotika:

Bros, u mean the god u're serving allows polygamy

sparta:

@ poster,

It is extremely sad and sistawoman, your hubby is right when he said looking for a married man in Nigeria without a girlfriend is looking for a needle in haystack. The sad part is that it is okay most times for the man to cheat but 99% of these men cant stand it when another man layng their wives. If you want to see the true anger of a nigerian man then lay with his wife , God help you if you see the next day.


What happens to the saying

"treat others the same way you want them to treat you"? Do men think they are superior beings or are they just loose? Are they that weak when it comes to controlling their urges? Me thinks they should use their so called manly strength in controlling themselves, we are humans, we have the power to control ourselves.

sparta:

No buddy, me still thinks you find more nigerian men at it.

He said that married Nigerian men, of his generation, cheat because their wives dont play very well and their feeling is that the women should come with this knowledge. I asked why not teach them and his response was that you cant teach a woman how to play very well she has to know this.

DeReloaded:

Rofl, Ironically these are ALWAYS the men looking for underaged virgin wives. So how exactly is a virgin wife "supposed to know how to play well"

Imbeciles.

. u can argue that the new testament says something else but it doesnt condemn marrying more than 1 wife, it only condemns adultery and fornication

DeReloaded:

I suggest you buy a new Bible.

sistawoman:

By talking to thier friends about sex.  By hearing other people talk about sex.  By reading books about sex.  By having conversations with thier moms about sex.  By watching porn films.

If she wants to know how to play well then she should do her research.

whitelexi:


I think u cannot overly blame men, some have strong will, others dont. . .  But it is the women who knowingly lead these men to the slaughter house and destroy homes just for their selfish reasons.

whitelexi:


I suggest u buy a bible and a qur'an as well, read both from cover to cover and then return and argue your point