ahnie:
'Ndi b'e anyi biko Ne ajuju

ahnie:
'Ndi b'e anyi biko Ne ajuju

Cutehector:
Brothers are in existence to help each oda.... Wether he thanks u or not, he is still ur brother.. Thr r sometimes my brother does worse things dat annoy me far frm ingratitude, buh wen i feel I'm in d position to help, I give...

xynerise:




Psychologically, you need to make him taste the sorrow of hustling. He is a man and being a student is never an excuse not to make a living. When I was in school, I discovered a way to earn a living. Quit sending him money consistently and let him know how hard it is to make money. When he didn't get the money for sometime like the usual routine, his brain will reset and he will know someone has been a guardian Angel all these while.

Richy4:
I don't really understand you sir.

How does he table his request to you?

He just show up to your door step and demand for money and you gave it to him and he turn around and walk away without a thank you? Are you kidding me?

I suggest you tell me OP how he does it because I don't think anyone can act up the scenario that I created.

Or is it that you feel he doesn't thank you enough?

agarawu23:
OK
the issue is different here since we don't live same place.

for example he calls you for money and you send him, he will message you he has received the money. that's all.

if you send him things, he won't bother to thank you.

even on appearance, I gave him some shoes and other stuffs I bought for him and his other brothers, his other brothers came to my room later to thank me but he didn't. though I don't count it as anything before but now I am taking the issue serious. the habit is now part of him

Richy4:


The problem could be that he gets it very easy from you. He has probably never been in pressing need that warrant him to appreciate things.

Give him money for his school programme if he request for it but stop buying him gift. Buy for his siblings to an extent he will hear from it. If he asked for his, tell him why you have put a stop to it.

If you are a Christian, remind him of how Jesus cured the 10 lepros and how only one came to thank him. And he asked for the rest. Which shows that appreciation is good no matter what. ..........

agarawu23:
Good morning all.

This issue has been bordering me for a long time but I think is time to seek opinions from ppl.

Yoruba's will say " eni ti a ba so re fun ti o ba dupe, bi olosha ko ni leru lo ni" (if you do someone a favour and he/she doesn't appreciate, is like a thief stole your properties) not that good in interpretation

there is this my younger brother that doesn't appreciate anything I do for him, not that I want to eat the 'thank you' but at least he should appreciate so as to get another. He is in 400level and I begin to wonder what he has been learning in school then. My other brother's will come privately to thank me but this particular guy don't count it as anything.

I am thinking of turning down any request from him or calling him to correct him. But how will I correct him without him feeling someone ? NB: He is my step brother.

matured advice needed pls

agarawu23:
OK
the issue is different here since we don't live same place.
for example he calls you for money and you send him, he will message you he has received the money. that's all.
if you send him things, he won't bother to thank you.
even on appearance, I gave him some shoes and other stuffs I bought for him and his other brothers, his other brothers came to my room later to thank me but he didn't. though I don't count it as anything before but now I am taking the issue serious. the habit is now part of him

Yieldings:




Wow @ bolded.


This is not a case of him not knowing any better - he does.

andromida:
some people will give and expect nothing you are not that kind of person and it does not make you less than those who expect nothing just different

Yieldings:


Maybe if they give once or twice. No one will continuously give their own hard-earned money to someone, buys them gifts and not wonder why the receiver never thanks them. It's not too much for op to question this or even expect a simple "thank you". God himself loves it when we thank Him! Will he keep blessing someone who cannot open his/her mouth to thank Him? Of course not.