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Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Nobody: 7:44am On Aug 31, 2015 |
The problem is not the giving birth to children but giving birth to them in large numbers when they know know they can't afford the upkeep of the children. It's really an eyesore to see :/ 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 7:46am On Aug 31, 2015 |
kovak: The poorest people in Nigeria are breeding more children and increasing their liabilities for others. A banker told me that their reasoning is that one of their children may survive and succeed to take them out of poverty. But only few have succeeded in the multitudes. So, using innocent children to gamble is wicked. You see I was born among the poor and now many of the criminals on rampage in Lagos; from Lagos Island to Lagos Mainland are kids who either grew up with me or were born when I was finishing high school in 1980. They either dropped out of school, because of poverty or could not pass their GCE, because their parents could not provide extra tutors for them. Now they have become thorns in the flesh of their families and the rest of us. I have seen two killed as armed robbers. One of them even went to Igbobi College and the other who was his school mate is now among the most dreaded political assassins in Lagos. These boys grew up before my very eyes and resorted to crime in rebellion. But I have not seen any of their school mates from rich families turning to crime. Many graduated from universities and are now very comfortable professionals, because their parents provided for them. Poverty causes frustration and frustration leads to desperation and rebellion. That is the vicious circle and this can be checked from the cradle. If you don't have the regular income to provide the basic needs for children, don't have them. Vulnerable adults should not have children where there is no social security welfare for poor people. Now you can see why Nigeria has more than 10 million boys and girls out of school, which is the worst record in the world, They are children of the poor who cannot afford to send them to school. Now they are now having baby factories and selling their babies for as little as N100, 000. 11 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 7:50am On Aug 31, 2015 |
Unabefool: How can any sane couple have seven children in one room in the hovel shared with other equally intellectually re-tared parents competing for the largest families in the most populous country in Africa? You see 100 people sharing one bathroom and one toilet in a tenement house popularly called "Face Me-I Face You" in Nigerian ghettos. 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by EfemenaXY: 7:51am On Aug 31, 2015 |
Orikinla: So true. But how do you begin to deal with the mentality of "have the kids now. God will provide"? Or even young girls subject to societal pressure that if they aren't married by the age of 30, they become shelf antiques with no prospects of becoming married - save to an already married man with kids? 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 7:55am On Aug 31, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: The churches and mosques are to blame for deceiving the poor masses with misinterpreted doctrines. Then when they come with their liabilities, the churches and mosques cannot help them. How many churches or mosques have orphanages? 4 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by EfemenaXY: 7:57am On Aug 31, 2015 |
Orikinla: Yes, that happens when people can't use their brains to think for themselves, but would rather others do it for them. 2 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by abbeyty(m): 9:31am On Aug 31, 2015 |
What of if the money was there when you had your kids and things turned other way after,what would happen to them after, kill them? I 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by cococandy(f): 11:56am On Aug 31, 2015 |
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Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by cococandy(f): 12:00pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: Or the pressure to start having kids immediately after marriage regardless of the ability or inability to cater for them. We are still a retarded lot. And that is putting it mildly. 3 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 4:37pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
[quote author=cococandy post=37522462][/quote]. That's all. I have a younger relation I sometimes provide for. He stays in one room and the brought in a girlfriend and got her pregnant and they now have a baby. They harass me almost everyday with requests for help and sermons on "Be your brother's keeper". This is how it starts. No family planning and then you want others to bear your responsibilities. One of them even threatened to ambush my brother-inlaw and kidnap him if he refused to give him the money he demanded. He dropped out of school, because of poverty. 2 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Mimiflourish(f): 8:12pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
The problem is as a result of lack of common sense/ the inability to reason. Most of these parents just have these children so that they can change their destinies and take care of them even when they have clearly failed in their responsibilities as parents. My God bless us with wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by ednut1(m): 2:40pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
go into the world and multiply . bt some parents no dey try sha |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by damiso(f): 3:30pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
Now that I am a parent it really saddens me when I see children not having the basic necessities of life and even though OP might seem harsh He is right. One of the ways to reduce poverty(doubt if poverty can ever be eradicated ) is for people to start having children they can physically,financially and emotionally cater to. Even in the west, welfare has not solved it. And it's far worse in Africa. I also think it's unfair to keep having children with the hope that the older ones will raise/finance the younger ones. It could happen due to unfortunate circumstances I.e death,hard times,illness,loss of employment etc but to keep on having younger children with that mindset is such an unfair burden to place on your child's shoulders. |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Onegai(f): 11:21pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
Someone once told us about a driver he knew, who had 11 children. Our old gateman came to meet everyone one Christmas for money to marry a new wife and install her in the shed he lived in, because he wanted more children. People like this expect those doing better financially to fund their families. It's crazy. I think mandatory family planning should occur: low income earners should be limited to one child and higher income, 2 children. Our resources are not going to keep supporting everyone. And to burden your children with the task of training their younger ones is just awful, they haven't begun to worry about their own families yet and their parents have already added more wahala to their heads. We can talk and talk, but the people most guilty of this are not on NL, they're procreating out there. 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by plendil: 11:26pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
Mindfulness: The sad part of this is almost all of these methods are provided FREE OF CHARGE in most health facilities. Yet these people refuse. Where I work, you see an okada rider having [size=20pt]NINE CHILDREN[/size] (no exaggeration), out of which only two are in school. And guess what? The wife (petty trader) is currently pregnant with the TENTH!!!!!!! Honestly we should start considering forced sterilization. Or something close to the one child policy of China 3 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Osisie(m): 2:32am On Sep 02, 2015 |
Cutehector: Can someone tell this guy to shut his mouth pls. I bet u already ate some food, oh yes u got a smartphone. And u have data on it. So, at least u could afford all that. Some of us can't afford a day's meal. U have no idea what people go through on a daily. U should take a trip to Niger Republic or the Asian world. Ever heard the term Missionary? Not the ones u see on church buses o. Those guys go to FEED hungry folks. Ever heard of Mother Theresa? Abeg, no make me vex o. GOD takes care of u.....good thing. But not everyone gets that lucky. NB: Pls, nobody should quote me o, b4 I transfer aggression on top ur head this morning. 2 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Nobody: 5:08am On Sep 02, 2015 |
plendil: Education would be a better solution. |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Nobody: 5:51am On Sep 02, 2015 |
That is ee the thing dey vex me die... |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by DEGREE2466(m): 7:57am On Sep 02, 2015 |
Orikinla: I could not agree less People should only bite the much they can chew but they wouldn't listen 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 10:50am On Sep 03, 2015 |
God did not create poverty. Majority of poor people caused their own poverty. 3 Likes |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by armyofone(m): 7:57pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
In Nigeria, orgasm is a form of relaxation. The more orgasm they have, the better for them in alleviating their suffering and smile 24 hours. 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by gidjah(m): 9:03pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
A fmr neighbour has 7kids(still bought fresh fish from her y-day sef).;their ages :17,15,12,9,8,6,1yrplus!!!what do you call that line of production ?huband is a civil servants, to pay fees na war,their house looks like a war tore zone,you can't ask them to give you water to drink ,you might end up drinking gamaline20!!.I talk to her daily but she. And her husband....knows the next plan.i even got tired of attending to them on matrimonial issues.Pls Lets talk to our selves,even with financial comfort,we should control out child birth o,I will want to advice two kids for every Nigerian Home.Me have one and still dey wait for d 2nd one very soon. 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by Orikinla(m): 7:39am On Sep 04, 2015 |
gidjah: You how your illustration has clearly addressed the problem and you rightly pointed out they have only worsened their poverty by breeding like dogs. I see how these poverty stricken lovers and couples simply breed and leave their children at the mercy of others. Their low incomes cannot even feed them. 1 Like |
Re: Please, Advise Poor People To Stop Bringing Innocent Children To Suffer On Earth by EfemenaXY: 10:16pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
gidjah: This is insane. |
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