If you catch your spouse with another woman/man cheating on you, what will you do?


For me, is the end

End the relationship

Rukkydelta:
End the relationship

What if you are married to him?

HeartRobber:




What if you are married to him?

If we have children then we'll become flat mates that is married in the eyes of the public but separated I can't contact diseases that will cut short my life but if no child it's over

I will go shopping and buy me some red Victoria Secret underwears, improve on my bedmatic and kitchen skills. Because I know I must have done something wrong for him to cheat on me. It just must be my fault, somehow.

I'll also get closer to God. Seek His face and fast and pray fervently for God to turn him over to me while also secretly stocking his car and suit pocket with CDs.

If all fails, I'll just wait it out. Till he is old and feeble and can no longer get it up talk more go looking out. That will be the 'perfect' time to enjoy the "husband of my youth". Hehehehehehe

What can I say? I'm a virtuous woman.


Now, on a serious note, what will I do. . .

I honestly don't know. What I do know, however, is that my marriage will never be the same, no matter the circumstances. A great part of it will die with the affair and can never be resurrected. The true essence of it will be no more and we might just remain in it for the good ol' sake of the children cliche.

Phema:
I will go shopping and buy me some red Victoria Secret underwears, improve on my bedmatic and kitchen skills. Because I know I must have done something wrong for him to cheat on me. It just must be my fault, somehow.

I'll also get closer to God. Seek His face and fast and pray fervently for God to turn him over to me while also secretly stocking his car and suit pocket with CDs.

If all fails, I'll just wait it out. Till he is old and feeble and can no longer get it up talk more go looking out.

What can I say? I'm a virtuous woman.

no matter what we have between us (children included), that would be the end of that union.

I will forgive him and pray that God enables him to change his ways.

I will engage him a discussion and bring to his awareness the implications of his actions on his spiritual life, health, family , myself etc.

I will asked that he opens up to me on areas he think I have come short so that I can improve on them.

Walk out of the union.

MRBrownJ:
No matter what we have between us (children included), that would be the end of that union.

innervoice:
Walk out of the union.

Because of one small-tiny-lil 5 minute thing? What happened to "to err is human..." huh?

These men are not smiling.

@Phema, as you know it always has to be the fault of the woman. The red bra though

Phema:

Because of one small-tiny-lil 5 minute thing? What happened to "to err is human..." huh?

These men are not smiling.

although that tiny lil 5 mins "error" can kill you and/or bring you a lifetime of worries... its the EMOTION involved that would turn me off completely (aka the deceit, the unfaithfulness, the loss of trust for ever)

The men are screaming " end it" well you can say that because it's a man's world.but the real question is : have you ever cheated? will you ever cheat?? when you would be/ were caught, will you end it/ did it end?? my point is pinch yourself first before pinching others.
The females may scream " end it" but wait till you get married or catch him, then you will understand that you may not really do anything for many reasons which inclusdes the realisation that love transends beyoun his genitals.it's disgusting to discover that your partner cheats on you.it makes you feel you are probably doing something wrong, infact you spend days questioning God and examining yourself.it hurts and kills the soul , depending on how strong you are; part of you may die but in all these things time heals you. you may not leave him for even your mother will advice you to stay and work it out.
The best thing is to wish and pray it doesn't happen becausr if it happens ; most of us ( females) will do nothing!!

MRBrownJ:
Although that tiny lil 5 mins "error" can kill you and/or bring you a lifetime of worries... its the EMOTION involved that would turn me off completely (aka the deceit, the unfaithfulness, the loss of trust for ever)

I know right. . .

But lets say it wasn't really an affair. It was just a one time thing. You guys had a very heated argument (which was your fault by the way) and she was so sad needed to exhale. She leaves the house and maybe goes to a bar with no intention to cheat whatsoever. Meets an ex or a persistent chiker, gets drunk. . .a shoulder to cry on. . . the rest is history. She came confessing and apologizing to you after the issue you two had may have died down.

Will you still be walking away, just like that?

Bibol:
@Phema, as you know it always has to be the fault of the woman. The red bra though

Oh well, i was taught that only the woman builds a home. The longevity of a marriage/home solely lies with the woman. Yea, we are supernatural like that.

Chidoks:
The best thing is to wish and pray it doesn't happen becausr if it happens ; most of us ( females) will do nothing!!

I do think we should remain within the context of the topic and not generalize or speak for others.

So the question remains; what will you do if your spouse cheats on you?

Rukkydelta:


If we have children then we'll become flat mates that is married in the eyes of the public but separated I can't contact diseases that will cut short my life but if no child it's over

Very nice opinion. Are you from delta?

HeartRobber:


Very nice opinion. Are you from delta?

Yes what about you ?

Rukkydelta:

Yes what about you ?

Nnewi anambra state.

Thanks for your opinion. Have a nice day ahead

HeartRobber:


Nnewi anambra state.
Thanks for your opinion. Have a nice day ahead

Alright thanks too

I will either end the marriage or end the man

Phema:


I do think we should remain within the context of the topic and not generalize or speak for others.

So the question remains; what will you do if your spouse cheats on you?

I do think you should read all i wrote before singling that out.what you quoted is the by-the-way conclusion of my opinion on the matter.thanks
what did you do when you found out he cheated?

Joy1706:
I will either end the marriage or end the man

end the man Make me understand more

Phema:




Because of one small-tiny-lil 5 minute thing? What happened to "to err is human..." huh?

These men are not smiling.

I never said I was divine.

Haywhymido:
end the man Make me understand more

I think u understand already

Phema:


I know right. . .

But lets say it wasn't really an affair. It was just a one time thing. You guys had a very heated argument (which was your fault by the way) and she was so sad needed to exhale. She leaves the house and maybe goes to a bar with no intention to cheat whatsoever. Meets an ex or a persistent chiker, gets drunk. . .a shoulder to cry on. . . the rest is history. She came confessing and apologizing to you after the issue you two had may have died down.

Will you still be walking away, just like that?

whether i am responsible for her action or not, the minute she decides to cheat is the END. i could have beaten the hell out of her, tortured her, treated her like an animal etc, this is no justification for cheating.

Joy1706:

I think u understand already

be kind enuff nt to the man but to urself nt to put ur pretty face behind the bars.

I will do nothing, just tell him well-done then move on with my precious life. I have my kids to look up to, no time for nonsense unnecessary headache.

That's a whole lot of burden off my shoulder.

I will simply smile and nicely ask her to gerara here menh...............

Will shake the guy and tell him to carry on my problems

Phema:
I will go shopping and buy me some red Victoria Secret underwears, improve on my bedmatic and kitchen skills. Because I know I must have done something wrong for him to cheat on me. It just must be my fault, somehow.

I'll also get closer to God. Seek His face and fast and pray fervently for God to turn him over to me while also secretly stocking his car and suit pocket with CDs.

If all fails, I'll just wait it out. Till he is old and feeble and can no longer get it up talk more go looking out. That will be the 'perfect' time to enjoy the "husband of my youth". Hehehehehehe

What can I say? I'm a virtuous woman.


Now, on a serious note, what will I do. . .

I honestly don't know. What I do know, however, is that my marriage will never be the same, no matter the circumstances. A great part of it will die with the affair and can never be resurrected. The true essence of it will be no more and we might just remain in it for the good ol' sake of the children cliche.

Hi Phema

But I didn't see any difference between your unserious (joking) answer and the serious one. I note that in both cases, you will still stay in the marriage but just slightly different coping mechanisms.

Was the second answer a joke as well?

All this what ifs sef.why not apply this principle of tony