Just decided to find out some of the reason people tell lies....Its educative and long.

In her research , Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. found that people lie in one in five of
their daily interactions. Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, claims in her
TED Talk that we’re lied to from 10-200 times a day. It’s important to
consider: how honest is the world we’ve created around ourselves? How
often do we ourselves tell lies? And, on the flip side, do we intimidate others
in ways that might encourage them to shade the truth?

It’s common for people to only say the parts of the truth that they feel are
acceptable or that they think people want to hear, leaving the full truth hidden
away. They may lie by omission or tell “little white lies” that paint a very
different picture of reality. It’s no surprise that these lies don’t just hurt
relationships, they can outright destroy them. Even lies told in the name of
protecting others can leave you feeling pretty bad about yourself, because
you don’t feel like an authentic, strong individual when you aren’t being
honest. Here are some examples of the many ways people lie and how
these lies hurt them in all areas of their lives:

Controlling a Response—When you talk to a close friend about an interaction
with a co-worker or lover, do you only tell your side of the story? Do you
leave out a small but significant detail about something you brought to the
table? Do you rephrase the less desirable words you said in the moment?
Think about how these subtle changes may influence your friend’s attitude
and response. Are you just getting your friend to say what you want to hear?
In the end, how authentic is their response if you strategically manipulated
the outcome?

Lying by Omission— Ever complained to someone that you aren’t losing
weight without mentioning the Grande Frappuccino you downed as an
afternoon snack? Everyone has times when they leave out less desirable
details. Sometimes you do this to be sensitive or to spare a person’s
feelings, but sometimes those details matter, and you know it. For example,
if your partner asks what you did that day, you may not mention that you
wound up running into an ex and having lunch. Maybe you try to conceal an
ongoing flirtation with a co-worker. These may not feel like acts of deception
to you, but imagine how your partner would see them. Whether there’s
nothing to hide or something real you’d rather they not know about, leaving
out significant facts will make you feel shady and create a hotbed for further
deceptions. On the other hand, creating an environment where you can be
open about these things will promote a feeling of mutual trust and honest
communication.

Exaggerations— People's insecurities about themselves may lead them to try
to preserve a certain image of themselves, and they may experience a need
for approval from others. However, when you exaggerate or don’t represent
yourself honestly, you are left feeling like a fraud, which further hurts your
self-esteem. There’s a fine line between highlighting your attributes and
completely inflating your abilities. At work, you may promise to finish a task
you know you won’t be able to complete on time. You may exaggerate to a
boss when it comes to your progress or skill level. Doing this will lead to
trouble when, most likely, your actions will fail to match your words.

Self-Protection— Too often, people are coached by an inner critic to not
express directly what they want or feel toward other people. You may have
a guard up that tells you not to be too vulnerable. You may downplay your
emotions or act like you don’t care, because you don’t want to feel or look
like a fool. But defending yourself with deceptions or false portrayals of who
you are will drive you further from your goals and will likely prevent you
from getting what you want in life.

Gossip or Covert Communication—Gossip is an epidemic. It’s in every
household, office space and coffee house. It’s a booming industry taking
over our media. The biggest problem with talking about someone behind
their back is that you may flat out deny these observations when face-to-
face with that person. You can see how this can be harmful to your
relationships. A true friend or loved one should be someone you can talk
openly with, someone to whom you can offer feedback and welcome the
same in return.

Another problem is that gossip breeds cynicism and destroys compassion.
It’s a nasty way of indirectly dealing with real observations or competitive
feelings. When you favor direct communication over gossip, you become a
more genuine, compassionate, not to mention appealing, person to be
around.

Some people believe you need lies to survive in a relationship. I would argue
that this is untrue. Misleading a person distorts their reality and makes them
feel crazy, which is one of the most unethical things you can do to another
person. So what can you do to be more honest? You can begin by being
honest with yourself.

First off, you can stop listening to your “critical inner voice .” Shading the
truth often comes from listening to an inner coach that’s not on your side,
that instructs you to self-protect by telling you things like you can only be
accepted if you say the right thing or don’t really reveal yourself. In relation
to your boss, it may tell you, “You’ve been messing up lately so make your
boss think you solved this problem without the help of your co-workers.”
With your spouse, it may say, “Don’t tell her you forgot her birthday; it will
only lead to a fight.” In relation to a competitor, it may advise you, “Don’t let
him know you think he’s talented. Don’t let your guard down; he’ll just use
the truth to hurt you.” By getting to know this inner critic, you can separate it
from your real point of view and act against it.

Next, you can take chances on the people you care about by being a lot
more honest and direct with them. You can find healthy and considerate
ways to express yourself and to be sensitive to the other person’s sense of
reality. The truth may not always be easy to hear, but in the long term, you
will earn a lot more trust and respect from the people whose opinion you
value the most.

When it comes to the truth, it’s important to think about whether you want
people to trust you. Do you value integrity and want your words to be
reflected in your actions? If you commit to these attributes on a behavioral
level, you’ll be better able to gain trust and live your life with honest, open
communication. This world may not be perfect, nor the truth always easy to
take, but you can find peace and freedom in the security of knowing that the
world you’ve created around you is as real as it gets.

The fact still remains that people tell lies to protect others interest and their own personal interest...

Some things are worth concealing..

Jollyjoy:
The fact still remains that people tell lies to protect others interest and their own personal interest...

Some things are worth concealing..

Not when you become addicted to it!