Yes – you gave birth to us, you taught us the difference between good and evil, gave us the best education you could afford and you hope and pray for us to get married some day. You have always wanted the best for us, Why then is it hard for some parents to let us make decisions about who we marry?

In fact, many parents do not see the importance in explaining to their children how they can find real love or one who loves them. Most parent shy away from teaching their children about friendship and sex. Even my prayer warrior mom sees it as an abominable thing to say.

As parent you are to give encouragement and advice and support financially by paying some expenses of the wedding. Below are responsibilities of parents toward making their child's wedding a success.

1. Parents are to give their children sex education before they are mature for wedding.
2. You have a duty to counsel your ward on friendship and courtship. Making you the first marriage counselors for them.
3. Parents should teach their children that love is the most important thing in marriage and also let them know how to determine who actually loves them.
4. You should not choose for your children. Give them directives on how to make good choices. Rich parents should note that it is not in every case that your child will marry person as rich as you are.
5. The choice of a spouse your child may make, may not please you but you under obligation not to force your will on him or her.
6. Help them plan their marriage ceremonies. Help them prune their budget if it is exorbitant bearing in mind that no one satisfies the world.
7. Give as much assistance as possible to them if you have and your prospective son in-law does not have.
8. Do not stress him or her by being too demanding.
9. Do not insist on marriage rights that are not important. These should be provided based on the money at hand.
10. Your kids need a lot to settle down as husband and wife. It is not out of place if you help provide for them if you have enough.
11. Do not bring unnecessary responsibility on your son in-law due to pressures from your kindred. You should not treat your son in-law differently because he is not from your community.

http://amarachia..nl/2015/09/things-parent-should-do-when-their-kids.html

Number 11 is just the ish....

I wish dis could get down to the people who really need it.