Overcoming addiction to masturbation and porn.
One of the most common sins today is the addiction to porn and masturbation. This is quite common among people of all ages contrary to the misconception that it is just among youth. This problem is no respecter of persons. Janitor or senator,young or old, clergy or clerk, employed or unemployed, male or female, married or single. People from all works of life indulged in it.
Masturbation and porn is born out of a desire relate. Actually God is a relationship being (Father Son and Holy Ghost) He said, let us make man in our own image. When he finished creating man he said, it was not good for man to be alone. This also implies that man was created to be a relationship being. Man was created to have intimacy, this is why we love and share feelings and ideas.
However, when people are lonely or weak they seek to interact, this drive creates a need to seek relationships. In most cases the easiest option is porn. This is quite easy nowadays because the internet is accessible to everyone. All that is required is just a system or phone, data and seclusion. This is contrary to the past when people need to go out to get magazines.
As a Christian, my aim is to help teenagers, singles, and marriages fulfill their purpose in life .One of such ways is to help them overcome these problems. Many people have spoken on the problems of masturbation and porn which include
• Health issues which affects the heart, urinary system and body weakness.
• Psychological effects include poor academic performance for students. For couples it leads to unrealistic sexual expectation from partner, unhealthy sex activities, and lack of trust when a partner finds out that his/her sex competitor is porn. This could lead to misunderstanding and even divorce.
• Spiritually, porn robs people of their calling and the anointing of God upon their life. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Porn encorages people to commit adultery and fornication.
However there is hope. To stop this lethal habit, the following steps can be helpful. I learnt the following this weekend from a men’s meeting and I thought it wise to share with everyone.
1. Confess to God it is a sin, and ask for grace and forgiveness.
2. Know your identity. You are beautiful and wonderfully made Psalm 139 v 4. You are a friend of God John 15v15.You are more than conqueror in all these things, Romans 8 v 37.
Romans 6 v 6-14 says, Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin.7 For he that is dead is freed from sin.8 Now if we be dead with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him:9 Knowing that Christ being raised from the dead dieth no more; death hath no more dominion over him.10 For in that he died, he died unto sin once: but in that he liveth, he liveth unto God.11 Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord.12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.13 Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
3. Avoid been in closed places with your phone or laptop when you are alone and idle. One way of doing this is by keeping them in a separate room when you don’t need them. This will make help break the habit as you will have to move to the room where you kept your computer and before arriving would realize what you are about to get into. You can also choose to use your laptop in open places, where people are present, this will help you focus on your task.
4. Control the amount of data available in your devices or switch off the data services on your devices.
5. Chose to use the internet when you have very important things. You can switch off your data at intervals or restrict the time you spend on the internet. My personal opinion is that most users of the internet are not really doing anything serious. Most youth(millions of youth) have not business using the internet for more than one hour daily. Asking people to text or call you is not a bad idea.
This point is not absolute, but I know someone will find it helpful.
6. To support your walk Incorporate good habits into your life, like reading a new books, or mastering a new subject. It might look awkward but do it as long as it makes you a better person. I for instance am a chemical engineering graduate, as a hobby I practice classical mathematics or advanced thermodynamics; I enjoy cooking, farming, reading and have completed courses in quality management systems and general management programs. Currently reading the classical book of economics, “Wealth of nations” by Adam Smith which I downloaded as a pdf document from the internet for free.
You don’t have to be a genius to learn new stuff, what is important is committing to learning and setting better goals. Resist the devil and he will flee. My motto in life is, where there is a will there will always be a way.
7. Keep good company as evil communication will corrupt good manners I Conrith 15 v 33, Iron sharpens Iron Proverbs 27 v 17. Sometimes it is better to be alone doing something productive than spending time with bad company.
8. Talk to someone, a friend or even your spouse so you can become accountable. Share your vulnerability and experience, this will strengthens you. Ecc 4 v 9. Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.
In summary the aim of the devil is to destroy homes by attacking our values and commitment to God. This is why He is going about seeking whom to destroyI Peter 5 v 8. He comes to steal, kill and destroy John 10v 10.
Nehemiah was a cup bearer in the palace but when he heard about the desolation of Jerusalem, he responded by helping build the walls. He found strength in God Almighty when he prayed, trusted and obeyed.He built the city wall despite been a cup bearer.
It is amazing what God can do,when we come to Him.
Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Heb 4 v 16.Make up your mind to live free today, God has made a way.

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