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The husband is a selfish idiot.

Did he marry for his mother or for himself and his wife? Men like that are better lost than found.

Never knew men so selfish,heartless and stone cold like this still exists

Is this a joke or what?

Even tough a c-section is fairly "routine", it is still very serious. The baby should be allowed to come when God dictates, not when hubby and mother in law choose. This is so inconsiderate.

prittigrrr:

Even tough a c-section is fairly "routine", it is still very serious. The baby should be allowed to come when God dictates, not when hubby and mother in law choose. This is so inconsiderate.

Absolutely!!!

If it's God's choice that the mother in law will see the child, then so be it! If it's his choice that she will not, then so be it! Can you just imagine that this was to go ahead and something (God Forbid) awful was to happen to the child??

Please advise your friend to ignore them, simple! And let them and her know 'God's time is the best time'. Arrant nonsense, unless they are going to strap her down, then there is nothing they can do. Her health and baby's health is at most paramount! Unless her husband wants to lose all 3?

Doesn't your friend have parents of her own? If she hasn't, cant someone give her moral support. Obviously her husband is distraught at losing his mum but encouraging his wife to pull out a kid when it's not time yet seems bizarre.

malaika:

I didn't know whether to post this under the Health section but I think it's more of a Family issue. Anyway here goes

A friend of mine is now about 36 weeks pregnant and is due for a natural delivery in about 4 weeks' time if everything goes well. Recently her Mother in Law's health took a turn for the worse, in fact she's terminally ill and can kick the bucket anytime. Now her husband is insisting that my friend book for an immediate ceasarian section and get the baby out so that his mother (her mother in law) can meet the child before she dies. He wants his mother to have as much time with her grandchild as possible before she dies, I suspect this is the mother in law's idea and she's the one insisting but my friend's husband seems to agree as well. He is very close to his mother and is emotional about her impending death. My friend does not want to have a c-section unless its absolutely necessary, for obvious reasons, a c-section is major abdominal surgery and my friend's pregnancy is not complicated and she was looking forward to giving birth to her first child naturally. Also, having a c-section might mean that all other babies she will have will have to be delivered by c-section. This is causing a lot of tension in the marriage, the husband is telling her to stop thinking about herself for once, he says the baby/babies will be fine with either birth method and she also will recover fully, but his mother is dying and she must think about that.

I don't know how to advise her, because it seems that any decision she makes will have a lasting impact on her marriage, either for the good or for the worst. Any suggestions?

This had better be a joke o. . . . . . . pls tell me u r kidding?

hmmm . .  really hard one. the woman is 36wks almost due with no complications. may i ask whether the doctors gave the MIL weeks, days etc to live? that her husband is so desperate like this that he doesn't seem to consider the well being of his wife and baby? this is surgery we are talking about here, and it always carries its risks. what if out of his desperation the baby is pulled out and something goes wrong? is he even thinking about that?

I can definitely understand his feelings on wanting his mom to see his kid but then he also needs to consider his own wife's feelings too. what if the wife goes ahead with the surgery and minutes into it, the mom dies without seeing the baby?

the husband needs to leave nature to take its course. if it is willed that the mom will see the baby she definitely will, the baby is already around the corner, 4 more wks  isn't really that far. and if it is not willed that she sees the baby so be it.

Also since there is no sign of complications as of yet, not all doctors will agree to perform the CS. If the pregnancy was at the 40wks mark or there was complications then it will be a go ahead.

cant believe any sane person would ask his wife to go thru this

the man is a selfish fool & should be castrated without anaesthetics

if the MIL is that desperate to see the child, then am sure she can somehow hang on until the due date or kick the bucket for the peace of all concerned

its not wise to undergo caesarian section until absolutely necessary

How inconsiderate. Pulling a baby out before its time can be fatal to both mother and child. Gods time is the best time.

Even if the wife has the c-section, depending on the health of the MiL, the doctors may not allow a baby in her hospital room. The same applies for the baby. There may be unforseeen health issues with the baby that preclude the child from leaving the hospital. The husband has not thought these issues through.

do not take desicion that will make your wife dislike you, just allow the birth of your baby to take its natural course

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The stardard here in the US is delievery at anypoint 38 weeks and beyond. They will only induce labor as early as 38 weeks and only for a very good reason, MIL dieing is not one.

If she does do it she can have VBAC's (Vaginal birth after c-section), if the cut is horazontal and not vertical. I had 4 vbac's.

The recovery from a c-section is far more painful and far longer, thus the reason they give 8 wks perternity vs the normal 6 wks.

Do they even allow the doctors to do that over there?

Has anyone sat her husband down and explained what a c-section is? It is surgery. It can kill. Just because it is done more now does not mean it is not a serious thing. This is not just about this baby. There is risk of blood clots, the mortality rate of babies and mothers double with c-sections and lets not forget higher risk of blood infections. They should be sure that they will be willing to live with any consequences. If anything happens to that child, his marriage will be over, the mother will be dead anyway and so could the baby.