rheel:

hi ,

i have been married for almost 2 years, my marriage is becoming boring day by day

my spouse comes home late in the name of work and traffic, he complains when i ask him to drive me somewhere, but never complains when he has to go extra miles to pick people out of his way to work, his newspaper is his best companion at weekends even though i try to chat with him and so on.

he hides in the car to answer phone calls, i cant touch his phone any longer cos am scared of what i will see after i once read a message sent by one girl, and to crown it all he acts like a saint.

folks, please advice me

tope5000:

Oh gawd !!!!!
Not another boring marriage, u guys are really scaring me o

~Sissy~:

sweeties nah dnt b scared every marriage/relationships gets their bumps just got to handle it probably.

marriage is not a bed of roses for anyone

tope5000:

I know but just the way some ppl are going on abt it  . . . .is kinda scary
Guess communication REALLY is key

~Sissy~:

communication is a big key to any successful marriage and relationships and honestly i tell you most marriages/relationships fail cox of lack of communication and it amazes me how often ppl tend to neglect it.

most of the ones here imo is lack of communication

~Sissy~:

for me i think for a marriage to be successful and fruitful it needs

     *  Love
    * Support
    * Tolerance
    * Communication
    * Realistic expectations
    * Caring
    * Nurturing
    * Sense of humor
    * Commitment
    * Respect
    * Knowing how to handle conflict
    * Problem solve together
    * Interdependence
    * Caring
    * Enjoying one another
    * Having fun together

tope5000:

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm . . . . ,  i think the women always try to communicate but the men always seem to be tired to talk
Like they say women talk too much
Communication is a two-way thing . . . .so i think most men shud make an effort to listen to what their wives have have to say

tope5000:

Sissy are u sure u r a female sef?
Why do men always think women are nagging when she tryin to say something?

rheel:

hi ,

i have been married for almost 2 years, my marriage is becoming boring day by day

my spouse comes home late in the name of work and traffic, he complains when i ask him to drive me somewhere, but never complains when he has to go extra miles to pick people out of his way to work, his newspaper is his best companion at weekends even though i try to chat with him and so on.

he hides in the car to answer phone calls, i cant touch his phone any longer cos am scared of what i will see after i once read a message sent by one girl, and to crown it all he acts like a saint.

folks, please advice me

~Sissy~:

OMG roflamo!

i have to admit some women do nag as hell. there are some ways to tell man something without nagging him, unless the woman is pregnant of course then nagging is allowed.

tope5000:

Lol . . . . yes i do agree that some women nag as hell
But the only reason i nag wud only be because i have told or ask my bf not or to do something and he does/nt do it
Then I NAG . . . . and i blv i have every right to then

~Sissy~:

me sef if i ask him something and he is slow to do it, i wouldn't even repeat maself, by ma actions he would definitely get the drift.  is it controlling? dnt think so. as for nagging, i dont do much it unless . . . . .

tope5000:

Lol . . . . i swear these guys fit drive pesin crazy
Then they say we are complex creatures

C2H5OH:

Of course. So typical of women to blame men for their miseries.

C2H5OH:

Of course.  So typical of women to blame men for their miseries.

C2H5OH:

Of course.  So typical of women to blame men for their miseries.

C2H5OH:

Maybe, maybe not. Maybe women don't like being held responsible for messing up.

tope5000:

What are u talking abt?
The woman is here . . . seeking 4 help, u r blaming her
If the woman start cheating now . . . . . u'd blame her again

There is no satisfying some people

St☆rStruck:

More often than not, the reverse is the case. Matter of fact, men usually blame their women when they (men) are caught cheating.

well first we should try to understand if the poster husband has ALWAYS been that cold or did he become like that after a year or so of perfect marriage?!
sometimes people misread the signs and think that because someone was all "up there" when dating you, he will be the same after marriage.
also apart from being a wife, what have you done to spice life at home/outside between you and your husband?
to me, this is the perfect case of a 9ja man with his trophy/reproductive wife that is "perfect" to everyone on the outside(family/friends) but nothing but a hole in HIS mind.